Ashley James #2 Parental warnings I pay no heed, did you know I exclusively breastfeed?

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Jaybtee said:
Why would she stick to this airy fairy no routine routine, surely it’s better sticking Alf to bed at 7 and letting him sleep for a solid chunk of time? She looks exhausted.
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Exactly- then she’d be able to go out and live her best life again- thinks she likes being a martyr
Ps …It is possible to continue to breastfeed and go out to work / socialise without your baby!
 
I get why she’s not into the whole routine thing, I wasn’t; my son didn’t go to bed until about 9:30/10 until he was over 1 but then when he would fall asleep at like 8 he would still wake up the same time in the morning so when I realised that I tried to always recognise his first signs of tiredness and by the time my second son was born when he was 18 months, he was sleeping 7:30-7:30 and my newborn literally fell into the same routine almost instantly.. other than when he wakes for feeds obviously. It’s so much easier and kids love routine. We do dinner, pyjamas, hour chill out/down time, teeth, hot water bottle and bed. So basically what I’m saying coming from someone who didn’t do the whole routine thing, I came to realise that actually that’s exactly what my son wanted and needed!
 
I think there’s a couple of days between alf and my little boy, his day naps are all over the place but choose his own bedtime between 7-8. He wakes 2 hourly on the dot, also breastfed
 
One of my friends recently had a baby and she’s exclusively breastfeeding too and it’s really not the hassle Ashley makes it out to be when you know someone doing it too. I’ve no doubt it’s extremely tiring and a huge commitment too like I’m not dissing it at all but Ashley makes it out like Alf won’t survive 5 minutes without her and she cannot possibly work or leave him at all right? My friend and I compete in the same sport and she’s back competing now and either brings her son with her and feeds him, expresses into a bottle and feeds him or leaves him with his father/her family for the hour or two she’s out of the house. She still has her hobbies and her life and I’ve no doubt it’s been a learning curve for her as well but she gets on with it and figures things out as she goes and her baby loves looking around when he’s out and about and gets made a fuss of by everyone and there’s never a problem! Ashley makes it out that breastfeeding is like a ball and chain and Tommy could never feed Alf, I’m not surprised she’s started to resent him when she’s put all the pressure and responsibility on herself. It’s nearly like she won’t let him help her but then keeps talking about how there’s so much inequality between parents. She honestly baffles me sometimes because it just seems like she makes things much harder than it needs to be for herself.

She looks exhausted today, and if I were her I would really consider finding a way to get Alfie to sleep better because I know she can say he’s just a baby but he’s not learning what bedtime means at all and as much as she’s trying to give him a secure attachment I think he’ll have a real problem sleeping in his own room when it comes to it
 
Yes, it's a lovely dress....but not at all breastfeeding friendly ( why she thought she wouldn't need to breastfeed Alf when she dragged him out at night to a totally child unfriendly event at an art gallery- poor child looks absolutely shattered?.....why don't you get a babysitter or plan it so that Tommy is able to take night off- she's proved that he can survive several hours without need breastfed or continuously attached to her ) she just loves the drama surrounding her choices
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Alf looked so fed up and tired in the picture… the child needs some sort of bedtime routine as it’s not working for either of them. A child up every 30 mins isn’t a happy child , he has bags bigger than hers!!!

Why On earth wear that dress when your breastfeeding and why take your poor child to it when you didn’t have to
 
She could have easily fed Alf before she left, gone to the event for an hour or two and come home. Tommy would have been able to feed Alf his solids etc while she was gone. She wants to be wanted and the only one who can feed Alf.

I understand she believes he shouldn’t have to sleep a certain way but he looks tired. He’s not going to learn to sleep properly in a stimulating bedroom and then when he doesn’t she acts like a martyr as if it can’t be helped, wouldn’t it be better for them both if they both got some decent structure and sleep?
 
Cariad said:
Co sleeping I think.....but then letting him sleep on the playroom floor probably isn't helpful in his promotion of good sleep hygiene either
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I thought that but she’s also posted photos of him in his cot in his bedroom (aka disco room) feel like she just goes with whatever instead of sticking with ‘something’
 
Rainbow1 said:
I thought that but she’s also posted photos of him in his cot in his bedroom (aka disco room) feel like she just goes with whatever instead of sticking with ‘something’
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I think he's probably only spent 2 nights in his disco cot well more like 2hrs , problem is there's no consistency in her routine ....in fact absolutely no routine whatsoever, no wonder poor Alf can't settle, he doesn't know where he's going to be lugged off to next ....he looks exhausted
god help her when the toddler tantrums start
 
What annoys me is her almighty no routine stance makes out like babies with routine and an actual bed time must be so neglected or traumatised or left to cry, guess what Ashley my 7 month old goes to bed 7pm every night, still has one night feed about midnight (that’s okay) and I could tell you pretty dead on the two points in the day she will be bapping (pram, in bed, on the sofa, on me) not once has she been left to cry, left hungry, left alone. Healthy parenting and routine is totally possible at the same time, get your head out of your backside and maybe think about what is better for the both of you.
 
Yet another story about the time in her life she was totally happy being single and on her own. Why does she act like this is such a revolutionary concept? It may surprise you Ashley but most women aren’t sitting at home pining to meet someone and settle down. We too have enjoyed our 20s/30s on our own. Change the narrative and Stop bleating on about the same old tit! 🙄
 
Did anyone see the story share of Zoella naming her as a top influencer on Instagram? Just giving her more confidence and exposure to continue this mumfluencer role. SMH. I am sick of them! Some I did take to as they have genuine experience and tried and tested methods..Ashley just reads a book and breastfeeds and then goes begging for freebies.
 
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