This is a REALLY ignorant comment. How dare you say that people need to get a grip when it comes to anxiety about pap smears. You do not always know everybody's story about why they have anxiety for it.
I had a bad medical experience as a teenager and because of that developed vaginismus. I am a unique case, in that, I can have sex with my husband but when it comes to vaginal medical exams, I can't have them. Vaginismus is a condition in which your muscles involuntary spasm and contract, therefore, making penetration impossible - for me, this only happens in a medical situation, i.e. a smear test. Think of vaginismus like a reflex. When someone goes to poke your eye, your eye will close, it is an automatic reaction. When a gynecologist goes to do my pap smear, my vagina muscles involuntary tense up. In the UK, I was told it was all in my mind and essentially made to feel crazy, but since I moved to Canada, I have found an amazing gynecologist.
You do not know the anxiety this has caused me. I know how important it is to get a pap done and the fact that I couldn't get it done normally made me SO upset. I tried relaxing, using Ativan, etc and it didn't work. I had my pap done under mild sedation as that is the only way it could get done. She also referred me to a psychologist who is helping me work through it with CBT and exposure therapy. It is not until recently that I have started telling people about mine, as I think vaginismus is a condition which needs to be spoken about.
I do not normally get so enraged by comments on here but this really struck a chord for me, as I wish I was able to just lie down and have a smear done normally.