Whatmummymakes #2 do you like it? Do you? Do you?

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Jxtina said:
Been reading all this with interest- fully intend to keep my daughter rear facing for as long as possible and got a joie every stage as it said RF till 18kg/4 years. This might be a stupid question but why 25kg? Is it weight or age I should go by? My daughter is only 18 months and 11kg so long way to go but now wondering if I bought the wrong seat even with good intentions! Apologies for the derail!
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Not the wrong seat, it's just some kids are over 18kg before they reach their 4th birthday (Nina maybe is and this is why Rebecca has bought a booster for her) 25kg is just the max you can RF to. Some kids might be 6 before they reach this age! 25kg just means kids on the higher percentiles can RF longer. So if your child is a high percentile it's worth investing in the 25kg seat if you intend to keep RF for as long as possible as buying an 18kg seat then having to replace once they are over the weight limit could mean you spend more overall.
 
Georgethecat said:
Not the wrong seat, it's just some kids are over 18kg before they reach their 4th birthday (Nina maybe is and this is why Rebecca has bought a booster for her) 25kg is just the max you can RF to. Some kids might be 6 before they reach this age! 25kg just means kids on the higher percentiles can RF longer. So if your child is a high percentile it's worth investing in the 25kg seat if you intend to keep RF for as long as possible as buying an 18kg seat then having to replace once they are over the weight limit could mean you spend more overall.
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Ah okay, thank you! She's around the 50th centile currently so will keep an eye. We don't even have a car but obviously bought a car seat for the handful of times we need it - wish I'd done more research beforehand though just in case regarding weight.
 
Jxtina said:
Been reading all this with interest- fully intend to keep my daughter rear facing for as long as possible and got a joie every stage as it said RF till 18kg/4 years. This might be a stupid question but why 25kg? Is it weight or age I should go by? My daughter is only 18 months and 11kg so long way to go but now wondering if I bought the wrong seat even with good intentions! Apologies for the derail!
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There will be some kids that will reach 18kg before their 4th birthday, so have a look at your childs red book and in the weight chart you should be able to gauge when they will hit 18kg. My 4 1/2 year old tracked at the 50th centile and literally hit 18kg the month of his 4th birthday, so its just an average.
 
I've never understood people, especially mums who get defensive when someone tries to educate them on something that is potentially life saving. When I had my first I had no idea that cot bumpers were dangerous but I was so grateful when it was pointed out to me. It's ok to not know absolutely everything. Just be grateful that someone has taken the time to try and educate you so you can make an in informed decision.
 
Jxtina said:
Ah okay, thank you! She's around the 50th centile currently so will keep an eye. We don't even have a car but obviously bought a car seat for the handful of times we need it - wish I'd done more research beforehand though just in case regarding weight.
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I wouldn't even worry about it yet especially if you don't have a car. 25kg seats can be a pain to install and need tethers are they're not isofix - what really bugs me is no influences or mummy bloggers seem to pay attention to car seat safety and have a fit if they're told different, Rebecca should have asked in her mummy Facebook group and I bet she would have got some great advice! The more people speak about it and use their influence for good then it will help others in the same situation, who think their only choice is to use a booster when it's not the safest option for their kids! Rebecca is just a smug cow who thinks she knows it all about parenting when really she's feeding her daughter with cheese and pastry every day and hasn't a clue about car seat safety and constantly dressing her in clothes way too small. Don't even get me started on this fake single mum image she portrays!
 
Pink blancmange said:
I've never understood people, especially mums who get defensive when someone tries to educate them on something that is potentially life saving. When I had my first I had no idea that cot bumpers were dangerous but I was so grateful when it was pointed out to me. It's ok to not know absolutely everything. Just be grateful that someone has taken the time to try and educate you so you can make an in informed decision.
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Exactly this. I would never have an opinion or try to give unwarranted advice on, for example breast v bottle because in either situation the baby is fed, safe and cared for. But when it is something that can literally save a child’s life I don’t think it is wrong to say people can and should do things better.
 
Georgethecat said:
I wouldn't even worry about it yet especially if you don't have a car. 25kg seats can be a pain to install and need tethers are they're not isofix - what really bugs me is no influences or mummy bloggers seem to pay attention to car seat safety and have a fit if they're told different, Rebecca should have asked in her mummy Facebook group and I bet she would have got some great advice! The more people speak about it and use their influence for good then it will help others in the same situation, who think their only choice is to use a booster when it's not the safest option for their kids! Rebecca is just a smug cow who thinks she knows it all about parenting when really she's feeding her daughter with cheese and pastry every day and hasn't a clue about car seat safety and constantly dressing her in clothes way too small. Don't even get me started on this fake single mum image she portrays!
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Absolutely. There have been a few posts in the what mummy makes group about car seats and most people have said to get more expert advice than asking a group of mums, and various Facebook groups have been recommended. It all seems to be friendly and the advice is well-accepted. Rebecca is one of these people that always knows best and won’t take any advice. She comes across as very hard faced. I just hope she doesn’t have a crash. Nina is at risk of ‘submarining’ under that adult seatbelt, which can be fatal 😢
 
It’s not even about rear facing it’s the fact Nina who has just turned 3 is no longer using a harness. Why??? What’s even the reason behind her changing it?maxi cosi (the brand of her car seat) even have a big recommendation on their page that a 5 point harness is used till at least 4
 
Casperron said:
It’s not even about rear facing it’s the fact Nina who has just turned 3 is no longer using a harness. Why??? What’s even the reason behind her changing it?maxi cosi (the brand of her car seat) even have a big recommendation on their page that a 5 point harness is used till at least 4
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This!! Nina might be big for her age but that really doesn’t excuse the decision Rebecca had made, not even taking the rear/ forward facing discussion into account.
 
Casperron said:
It’s not even about rear facing it’s the fact Nina who has just turned 3 is no longer using a harness. Why??? What’s even the reason behind her changing it?maxi cosi (the brand of her car seat) even have a big recommendation on their page that a 5 point harness is used till at least 4
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Absolutely this.

She is an influence on mothers, mainly new mothers. Her attitude of shuting down any discussion is awful. Basically I'm right don't try and give me and helpful advice because your wrong. Calling anyone who offered advice Karen's is just petty, people aren't disagreeing with your parenting style they are trying to educate you.

It's actually harder to admit you made a mistake, to publicly hold your hands up and admit that would be a hard step but it would open up so much discussion that would work in her favour.

I have seen a few influencers say things they used to do wasn't great they didn't realise at the time but now they do they will do better. It made me respect them so much more for it.
 
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Here's an idea, quite a healthy one too especially with little ears that are always listening and absorbing....

Eat everything in moderation, have smaller portion sizes. Food is fuel and shouldn't be good or bad, yes there is healthy and unhealthy but putting ristrictions on things is counterproductive, the forbidden food is wanted even more because its been ristricted.

I have boys and girls, I was careful how I viewed food in front of my boy but when my girl was born i was definitely more aware not too pass any toxic traits down, Media does that enough already. I was brought up in a diet culture where food was treat food and its taken along time and alot of work to not have a disordered view of food.
 
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