Yeah no you are right. Both my best friend (a bridesmaid for me in May yay!) and my sister in law are both teachers and I have to consider that!
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Tinkerbell cat
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I was at a wedding 2 weeks ago which was on a Wednesday. It was in Scotland and I live in NI so for my partner and I it meant we had to get an evening flight on the Tuesday, and flew home on the Thursday so I do agree with one of the posters above about it being a different vibe. we didn't go fully mad at the wedding as we knew we were flying home the next day. I don't judge it though because we still had a fab time and I'm sure they saved a fortune - weddings are dear enough so save what you can if its an option.
Our wedding is a Friday and we picked that day because we are mindful of a lot of people travelling from Scotland/England & Spain for it so they only really need to maybe take a day off work and can make a weekend out of their trip if they wish.
Our wedding is a Friday and we picked that day because we are mindful of a lot of people travelling from Scotland/England & Spain for it so they only really need to maybe take a day off work and can make a weekend out of their trip if they wish.
noseybirdxo
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We were gonna do a Thursday but have done Sunday instead
Sophlouisex
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Got engaged a few weeks ago and the thought of going to view venues this weekend is making me so nervous I feel like I could throw up.
It’s funny because I used to do wedding coordination as a job but this feels completely alien
It’s funny because I used to do wedding coordination as a job but this feels completely alien
Tinkerbell cat
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I used hitched and put QR codes on our invites. it’s worked really well for us and keeps everyone’s names in the one place.
people could also send their RSVP card back to us the traditional way if they wanted but 90% used the QR codes.
RoseyThorney
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Tinkerbell cat
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Omg would people actually do that?We’ve used With Joy. I love that you can set it so people can’t add their own +1s.
that would drive me mental.
On hitched they aren’t able to add their own either but that would be so cheeky if they did! I’d probably end up accidentally deleting their name completely
RoseyThorney
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Omg would people actually do that?
that would drive me mental.
On hitched they aren’t able to add their own either but that would be so cheeky if they did! I’d probably end up accidentally deleting their name completely
Yeahhhh I’ve got a friend who seems to think that because her partner can’t make the wedding that she can just bring her mum instead. I’ve never met her mum! And my problematic SIL was banging about inviting her random friends that we don’t know, so I locked the whole guest list tightly.
_Laura
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We had a friend (who knows about 75% of our guests) ask whether he could get a +1 in case he has a girlfriend by thenOmg would people actually do that?
that would drive me mental.
On hitched they aren’t able to add their own either but that would be so cheeky if they did! I’d probably end up accidentally deleting their name completely
Tinkerbell cat
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In fairness I had a bit of this too before I sent my save the dates - a friend broke up with his long-term girlfriend and just assumed it would be ok to bring a new girlfriend if he found one by the time of the weddingYeahhhh I’ve got a friend who seems to think that because her partner can’t make the wedding that she can just bring her mum instead. I’ve never met her mum! And my problematic SIL was banging about inviting her random friends that we don’t know, so I locked the whole guest list tightly.
My sister also wants to bring a plus one even though she is single and has nobody in mind.
People are mad, totally don't blame you for locking that down... I just can't get over the cheek of some people lol.
I did actually have this also, a friend asking could he bring his new girlfriend even though he didn't have one at the time of askingWe had a friend (who knows about 75% of our guests) ask whether he could get a +1 in case he has a girlfriend by then
Gossip101xoxo
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Has anyone ever bought their dress from the still white website? There’s a gorgeous dress for a really good saving on it that I am very tempted to buy, however I’ve never went wedding dress shopping and so 1) I’m not sure exactly what suits me and 2) I do want that experience so I’m wondering if I will make a big mistake(even if the dress is gorgeous). Someone talk me down
Joannabloggs
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I've bought my dress from still.white. It was my dream dress and was stalking it even before I got engaged. Got my dress no problems despite it coming from Germany and is 2 grand cheaper than if i bought in store. I love it even more now that I've seen it on.Has anyone ever bought their dress from the still white website? There’s a gorgeous dress for a really good saving on it that I am very tempted to buy, however I’ve never went wedding dress shopping and so 1) I’m not sure exactly what suits me and 2) I do want that experience so I’m wondering if I will make a big mistake(even if the dress is gorgeous). Someone talk me down
Despite all this, I'm still going to a bridal shop to try on dresses. Like u I don't want to miss out on the experience so I'm going to try on all styles I never would've bought e.g. leg slits, giant poofy dresses, just so I can have the experience.
For u I would reccommend going bridal.shop first rather than the order I did it in. My dress isn't that common and is quite an expensive designer, but I see a new seller selling my dress once every 2-3 months, so it feels like your dream wedding dress is like buses on that site, it's never the last one
Hamburglar
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Has anyone ever bought their dress from the still white website? There’s a gorgeous dress for a really good saving on it that I am very tempted to buy, however I’ve never went wedding dress shopping and so 1) I’m not sure exactly what suits me and 2) I do want that experience so I’m wondering if I will make a big mistake(even if the dress is gorgeous). Someone talk me down
Go do the trying on experience but ask to try styles similar to the one you’re thinking of buying! Then at least you’ll get more of an idea as to whether it will suit you and still get the shop experience.
You don’t have to tell them you’re thinking of buying that one, just say you’re using it as inspo
Gossip101xoxo
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Thank you for your response! I’m glad you found your dream dress on still white, that sounds like a really good deal!
That is very true, I definitely have a scarcity mind set and I can be quite impulsive which is not a good combination!
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Thank you for replying! I think that’s a good idea, I would hate to spend so much money then it comes and it doesn’t even suit meGo do the trying on experience but ask to try styles similar to the one you’re thinking of buying! Then at least you’ll get more of an idea as to whether it will suit you and still get the shop experience.
You don’t have to tell them you’re thinking of buying that one, just say you’re using it as inspo
Kandy floss
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Does anyone else worry they’re missing stuff? I’ve only got a few things to do like ordering confetti bags, favour bags and sorting my guestbook but I keep seeing TikTok’s and Facebook posts about people getting married around the same time as me (March 2025) saying how stressed they are about all the details and I don’t know if I’m missing stuff I should be thinking about? 
We’ve finalised our menu with the venue and we need to sort our seating chart but it’s ordered I just need to send a document to the printing company a month before our wedding, and we need to return our ceremony pack to the local authority but other than that the only other things to do are hair/makeup trials and suit/dress fittings so I’m mega chill but worried that’s because I’m not thinking about things I should be and on my wedding day I’ll be like oh shit… just me or anyone else?
We’ve finalised our menu with the venue and we need to sort our seating chart but it’s ordered I just need to send a document to the printing company a month before our wedding, and we need to return our ceremony pack to the local authority but other than that the only other things to do are hair/makeup trials and suit/dress fittings so I’m mega chill but worried that’s because I’m not thinking about things I should be and on my wedding day I’ll be like oh shit… just me or anyone else?
Tinkerbell cat
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You have done more than me and mine is also march!Does anyone else worry they’re missing stuff? I’ve only got a few things to do like ordering confetti bags, favour bags and sorting my guestbook but I keep seeing TikTok’s and Facebook posts about people getting married around the same time as me (March 2025) saying how stressed they are about all the details and I don’t know if I’m missing stuff I should be thinking about?
We’ve finalised our menu with the venue and we need to sort our seating chart but it’s ordered I just need to send a document to the printing company a month before our wedding, and we need to return our ceremony pack to the local authority but other than that the only other things to do are hair/makeup trials and suit/dress fittings so I’m mega chill but worried that’s because I’m not thinking about things I should be and on my wedding day I’ll be like oh shit… just me or anyone else?
Starting to panic a bit.
everything is pretty much done - still suits/bridesmaids dresses although I’m ordering them, still have to sort our seating chart and buy a few wee bits for the reception but for some reason I feel the same as you, like so unprepared!
also I messaged the girl who’s doing my makeup, via WhatsApp, insta and email and she isn’t getting back to me. Have paid a deposit so I’m a bit miffed!
So don’t panic because I too worry about missing stuff
Kandy floss
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You have done more than me and mine is also march!
Starting to panic a bit.
everything is pretty much done - still suits/bridesmaids dresses although I’m ordering them, still have to sort our seating chart and buy a few wee bits for the reception but for some reason I feel the same as you, like so unprepared!
also I messaged the girl who’s doing my makeup, via WhatsApp, insta and email and she isn’t getting back to me. Have paid a deposit so I’m a bit miffed!
So don’t panic because I too worry about missing stuff
I genuinely don’t know what else there is to do but other people are stressed or I saw a TikTok of one bride with all sorted out boxes of things like labelled etc and I was like eh what have I missed?!
I have a box of stuff but it is only one box under my stairs which has my bridesmaid boxes not yet assembled, my gifts for them, our cake toppers, confetti etc. and I don’t know what else I should have Hopefully we’re just calm people?!
Maybe your makeup artist is busy because of Christmas? She should reply obviously and you shouldn’t have to message in different places mind but hopefully she just has a lot on? Is she posting on social media still?
When are you planning on having your hair/makeup trials? I saw someone get married in April already have hers so felt behind on that but no way can I sort before the New Year obviously so I’m just leaving it for now
Tinkerbell cat
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I’ve still to order cake topper and everything but I’m gonna sit down end of jan and do it all cause we go on holiday 3rd January so there’s really no time to do it until we are back- the stress!!I genuinely don’t know what else there is to do but other people are stressed or I saw a TikTok of one bride with all sorted out boxes of things like labelled etc and I was like eh what have I missed?!
Hopefully we’re just calm people?!
Maybe your makeup artist is busy because of Christmas? She should reply obviously and you shouldn’t have to message in different places mind but hopefully she just has a lot on? Is she posting on social media still?
When are you planning on having your hair/makeup trials? I saw someone get married in April already have hers so felt behind on that but no way can I sort before the New Year obviously so I’m just leaving it for now
you seem really prepared so I definitely wouldn’t worry, you’ve more done than me so hopefully that makes you feel better lol. I avoid tik tok because it makes me anxious, some brides just seem so on the ball. But I think as long as you’ve the main things sorted then just try to relax
yeah she is posting loads on her instagram but it’s just radio silence - I only wanted to see when I should book for my makeup trial. So that’s up in the air still but I’ve got my first hair trial end of January
so honestly don’t stress! I only have that hair trial booked as my hairdresser is doing it outside of his actually job to get a bit of extra money the chancer my first dress fitting is on Friday! I can’t even remember what my dress looks like Kandy floss
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I’ve still to order cake topper and everything but I’m gonna sit down end of jan and do it all cause we go on holiday 3rd January so there’s really no time to do it until we are back- the stress!!
you seem really prepared so I definitely wouldn’t worry, you’ve more done than me so hopefully that makes you feel better lol. I avoid tik tok because it makes me anxious, some brides just seem so on the ball. But I think as long as you’ve the main things sorted then just try to relax
yeah she is posting loads on her instagram but it’s just radio silence - I only wanted to see when I should book for my makeup trial. So that’s up in the air still but I’ve got my first hair trial end of January
Aw as long as it’s only little bits it’ll be fine!
Oh no that’s not good then! Maybe wait til after Christmas to push more but honestly after that I would be stressing myself! I haven’t spoken to mine for a few months but will be messaging after Christmas to sort my trial and she’s always been good at responding luckily!
Omg have you? I don’t even know when mine will be, I had an info sheet from my bridal shop to call them 10 weeks before to sort my fitting so I think it’ll be 8 weeks out, I hope that’s not late!
aw bet you’re excited to see it again then!! 