Unpopular Opinions #21

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Purrrrrrr said:
I didn't take that from that post. just those memes and certain people that presume everyone had lovely caring parents. the wording they use could be better.
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same, i don’t want to speak for the op but i took it as a reaction to when people (well meaning) will almost lecture and say “you should cherish your family, family is the most important thing” etc while not considering that all families are different.
 
OnlyHereForTheLolz said:
So what your saying is we can’t say how great our families are because you had a tit one? 🤔
Are you the kind of person who needs trigger warnings for everything because your feelings 🤦🏼‍♀️
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Honestly don’t think she meant it like that. I got what she meant. I am almost 30 and my mother is an abuser… abused me physically and mentally my whole life. I have FINALLY cut her out my life, I’m getting married soon and all I keep hearing is “you only have one mum” “family is family” from others who don’t get it .

I am so happy for everyone who had a good family , and I hope one day I have my own family the same but people need to respect others and not push them to have relationships with theirs.

*I don’t mean memes on social media I just mean in person. I would just scroll past a meme I don’t like.
 
whippersnapper said:
No. Where did I say that? :unsure:

Are you the kind of person who feels the need to tell others how to live their lives because yours is so fabulous?

Looks like someone needs a lesson in reading and comprehension.
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You are correct I am fabulous 👈

Maybe you should reread what you wrote. You wrote and I will quote it so you can see what YOU wrote " Enjoy your ride and STOP making others feel worse by layering on additional guilt by posting your mindless memes. Also, go duck yourself. "

So that 👆 isn't clear? And I need lessons in comprehension? Me thinks you need to give your head a proper wobble if you need trigger warnings for others to enjoy their families.

Purrrrrrr said:
I didn't take that from that post. just those memes and certain people that presume everyone had lovely caring parents. the wording they use could be better.
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But that is exactly the problem. So we can't post about nice families because others had crappy ones? Come on now. You just scroll past things that are irrelevant to your own life without needing to police others feelings. The problem isn't the people who post the memes, its the people who need to make it about themselves

pommynoir said:
Honestly don’t think she meant it like that. I got what she meant. I am almost 30 and my mother is an abuser… abused me physically and mentally my whole life. I have FINALLY cut her out my life, I’m getting married soon and all I keep hearing is “you only have one mum” “family is family” from others who don’t get it .

I am so happy for everyone who had a good family , and I hope one day I have my own family the same but people need to respect others and not push them to have relationships with theirs.

*I don’t mean memes on social media I just mean in person. I would just scroll past a meme I don’t like.
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I can get onboard with what you wrote but that isn't what the OP wrote. They had a problem with meme's on SM
 
OnlyHereForTheLolz said:
You are correct I am fabulous 👈

Maybe you should reread what you wrote. You wrote and I will quote it so you can see what YOU wrote " Enjoy your ride and STOP making others feel worse by layering on additional guilt by posting your mindless memes. Also, go duck yourself. "

So that 👆 isn't clear? And I need lessons in comprehension? Me thinks you need to give your head a proper wobble if you need trigger warnings for others to enjoy their families.


But that is exactly the problem. So we can't post about nice families because others had crappy ones? Come on now. You just scroll past things that are irrelevant to your own life without needing to police others feelings. The problem isn't the people who post the memes, its the people who need to make it about themselves


I can get onboard with what you wrote but that isn't what the OP wrote. They had a problem with meme's on SM
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What meme though? To me OPs post was aimed at those that push the narrative that family is family and you have to love them no matter what. I didn't see anything in ops post that said " you can't enjoy your nice family"
 
Mamacita said:
What meme though? To me OPs post was aimed at those that push the narrative that family is family and you have to love them no matter what. I didn't see anything in ops post that said " you can't enjoy your nice family"
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I nicely quoted the bit where OP said to stop posting mindless memes and that those people should go duck themselves.
 
OnlyHereForTheLolz said:
You are correct I am fabulous 👈

Maybe you should reread what you wrote. You wrote and I will quote it so you can see what YOU wrote " Enjoy your ride and STOP making others feel worse by layering on additional guilt by posting your mindless memes. Also, go duck yourself. "

So that 👆 isn't clear? And I need lessons in comprehension? Me thinks you need to give your head a proper wobble if you need trigger warnings for others to enjoy their families.
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I think the poster was referring the “go duck your self” to the: People who lecture others to LOVE their mothers, fathers and family members - in general - "Because you don't know what the future holds so tell them you love them" When these people have no idea what abuse and distress some “families” put their own flesh and blood trough.

Genuinely don’t think the OP would get upset over someone posting something nice about their families.

I hope this makes sense. Cause I’ve had a gin😵
 
OnlyHereForTheLolz said:
I nicely quoted the bit where OP said to stop posting mindless memes and that those people should go duck themselves.
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Yeah but do you know if the meme was about loving your family or was it a meme saying everyone needs to love their family no matter what? Not sure if I missed anything on what the meme actually was
 
Anyone not bothered about the jubilee? I get it’s a once in a lifetime thing but it does seem a bit tone deaf to have loads of tax payer’s money spent on soldiers marching about and air displays whilst people are having to chose between paying for gas or food. Plus the royal family aren’t really worth celebrating.
 
Blue Rose said:
Anyone not bothered about the jubilee? I get it’s a once in a lifetime thing but it does seem a bit tone deaf to have loads of tax payer’s money spent on soldiers marching about and air displays whilst people are having to chose between paying for gas or food. Plus the royal family aren’t really worth celebrating.
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I think it’s silly that she’s unable to / won’t go to some of the events. The thanksgiving service tomorrow (I think that’s it) is about the Queen’s 70 years of dedication, etc…and she won’t even be there. If she is requiring more substantial support, like a wheelchair, I wish she would use it. The amount of good that would come from her proudly in her wheelchair would be large. It still seems so taboo that people sometimes need help be that a walking stick, a wheelchair, etc.
If she’s struggling to keep commitments due to her mobility issues or if there is another illness maybe it’s time to officially handover the reins? Royalists keep bleating on about her still working but if she’s not able to work then she needs to step back, as harsh as that sounds.
 
Blue Rose said:
Anyone not bothered about the jubilee? I get it’s a once in a lifetime thing but it does seem a bit tone deaf to have loads of tax payer’s money spent on soldiers marching about and air displays whilst people are having to chose between paying for gas or food. Plus the royal family aren’t really worth celebrating.
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I'm not bothered about it. I do think that given the money they have, the royal family should pay it instead of tax payers.
 
thegirlscout said:
I think it’s silly that she’s unable to / won’t go to some of the events. The thanksgiving service tomorrow (I think that’s it) is about the Queen’s 70 years of dedication, etc…and she won’t even be there. If she is requiring more substantial support, like a wheelchair, I wish she would use it. The amount of good that would come from her proudly in her wheelchair would be large. It still seems so taboo that people sometimes need help be that a walking stick, a wheelchair, etc.
If she’s struggling to keep commitments due to her mobility issues or if there is another illness maybe it’s time to officially handover the reins? Royalists keep bleating on about her still working but if she’s not able to work then she needs to step back, as harsh as that sounds.
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There are very few 96 year olds who aren’t suffering from confusion and memory loss to some extent. I think that is the issue. That aside, i think the pressure that’s now being put on her to start using a wheelchair to raise awareness for the disabled community etc is a pile of entitled mince. Hasn’t she done enough? I think she should have the choice in how to manage her frailty, just like anyone else does.
 
Delihla said:
There are very few 96 year olds who aren’t suffering from confusion and memory loss to some extent. I think that is the issue. That aside, i think the pressure that’s now being put on her to start using a wheelchair to raise awareness for the disabled community etc is a pile of entitled mince. Hasn’t she done enough? I think she should have the choice in how to manage her frailty, just like anyone else does.
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yeah: i’m never a huge fan of “do this thing in public for awareness!” when it’s something she may not be entirely comfortable with.

likewise (not aimed at you op) this assumption that she must be senile because of her age. yes, she’s in her late 90s and so may have some confusion etc but not every 90+ year old “doesn’t know what day it is.” it starts bordering on ageism 🤷🏼‍♀️
 
LaBlonde said:
yeah: i’m never a huge fan of “do this thing in public for awareness!” when it’s something she may not be entirely comfortable with.

likewise (not aimed at you op) this assumption that she must be senile because of her age. yes, she’s in her late 90s and so may have some confusion etc but not every 90+ year old “doesn’t know what day it is.” it starts bordering on ageism 🤷🏼‍♀️
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Yeah I agree. I think the issue with managing even slight confusion is that because of who she is, their is an expectation that she leads conversations because people are starstruck. People are also analysing every word and movement and any slight peculiarities could end up front page news 🤷🏻‍♀️
 
I think she had a stand in. Somtimes she's really spry, smiley, stood up straight and younger looking. Other times shes a hunched frail old lady that looks exhausted.

They coulndt get the stand in for tomorrow because she wanted the bank holiday off. That's why Queenies not attending 😂

She is surley gonna quit after all this. If she doesn't its really insulting to Charles.
 
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