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Its_Me said:
I’m conscious that we are edging closer to the point we said we would go for IVF 😞 I don’t even know what cycle I’m on now but it’s about 7 or 8, 3 DPO today and I feel like I’m gonna need another month off if this isn’t it. It wears me down so much.
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I was really down last month. I wonder whether it’s going to happen naturally or if for some reason it won’t and we’re just wasting time?? I did enquire with a fertility clinic and had a callback from them but I need to speak to my husband before we go ahead with anything as we’d be paying ourselves. I am not a patient person at the best of times and this is really hard for me!
 
Hello, I am fairly new to these threads. I am 2 months into trying and have not fallen pregnant. I am a 26 year old and my Flo App says im ovulating but i get BFN. Last month i tested BFP (happy times) and then my period came (had a chemical pregnancy). I am really unsure what we are doing wrong. Is it positions, is it the vaccine? i took the moderna vaccine and my periods then on have been weird. I would love to bring a baby in the world but it really sucks when it doesn't happen on our first try. We also notice right afterwards, a lot of sperm comes out but we try to save it and put my legs up...sooorry for graphic i have no one else to run to about all this...

(also, how to relax and be stress free? help an anxious girl out lol) is the foods im eating? i eat so healthy, red meat and chicken, one coffee a day, work in a low stress environment...i simply have no words for myself. honestly feel like a failure. we have no idea....i have no idea,

I am a mess...thanks..
 
rulebreaker101 said:
Hello, I am fairly new to these threads. I am 2 months into trying and have not fallen pregnant. I am a 26 year old and my Flo App says im ovulating but i get BFN. Last month i tested BFP (happy times) and then my period came (had a chemical pregnancy). I am really unsure what we are doing wrong. Is it positions, is it the vaccine? i took the moderna vaccine and my periods then on have been weird. I would love to bring a baby in the world but it really sucks when it doesn't happen on our first try. We also notice right afterwards, a lot of sperm comes out but we try to save it and put my legs up...sooorry for graphic i have no one else to run to about all this...

(also, how to relax and be stress free? help an anxious girl out lol) is the foods im eating? i eat so healthy, red meat and chicken, one coffee a day, work in a low stress environment...i simply have no words for myself. honestly feel like a failure. we have no idea....i have no idea,

I am a mess...thanks..
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hello and welcome to the thread!
I know it’s the last thing you want to hear but you are still so early into trying, you could time everything perfectly but there’s only a 25% chance of conceiving each month.. it’s just about the right spent and right egg matching. flo is not the most reliable app as it assumes everyone ovulated cd14. I find using a thermometer more useful to track when I ovulate.
when did you have your vaccine? If it was recent then it have impacted your cycle but if you’ve had afew cycles since then I doubt it would be effecting it still.
Also don’t worry about sex positions/holding your legs up.. enough sperm gets up there but defo keep your legs up if it helps you psychologically just don’t make the mistake that I did and forget to wee and ended up with a UTI!
It sounds like you are doing everything correct but 2 months in is quite early to be worrying.. try and enjoy it as much as you can, don’t put too much pressure on yourselves and keep posting here as this thread keeps me sane!
 
Heyguysswipeup said:
hello and welcome to the thread!
I know it’s the last thing you want to hear but you are still so early into trying, you could time everything perfectly but there’s only a 25% chance of conceiving each month.. it’s just about the right spent and right egg matching. flo is not the most reliable app as it assumes everyone ovulated cd14. I find using a thermometer more useful to track when I ovulate.
when did you have your vaccine? If it was recent then it have impacted your cycle but if you’ve had afew cycles since then I doubt it would be effecting it still.
Also don’t worry about sex positions/holding your legs up.. enough sperm gets up there but defo keep your legs up if it helps you psychologically just don’t make the mistake that I did and forget to wee and ended up with a UTI!
It sounds like you are doing everything correct but 2 months in is quite early to be worrying.. try and enjoy it as much as you can, don’t put too much pressure on yourselves and keep posting here as this thread keeps me sane!
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oh thank you. I really want to bring a baby in the world. I am still getting used to the acronyms here so forgive me if i just outright use the word but i used an ovulation test an it came back positive for ovulation(LH Surge) ..whereas that damn app, we were super active when it told me...so we are like super questionive about the app and we think we will continue to take the ovulation test until we are pregnant. is that an ok idea? I took the vaccine October or November, not sure but periods been weird ever since
 
rulebreaker101 said:
oh thank you. I really want to bring a baby in the world. I am still getting used to the acronyms here so forgive me if i just outright use the word but i used an ovulation test an it came back positive for ovulation(LH Surge) ..whereas that damn app, we were super active when it told me...so we are like super questionive about the app and we think we will continue to take the ovulation test until we are pregnant. is that an ok idea? I took the vaccine October or November, not sure but periods been weird ever since
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Using the ovulation tests can be helpful as you can plan sex around it however you can get a LH surge more than once in your cycle and doesn’t necessarily mean you will ovulate.. this can only be confirmed by bbt as your body produces progesterone after you ovulate and creates an increase in your temp. I stopped using Flo a few months back as it kept saying I was ovulating when I clearly wasn’t! Did you have regular periods before you had the vaccine? A lot of females cycles vary by a few days each month and it can still be classed as ‘regular’ .. I think some females assume that regular cycles mean it’s the exact same length each month but that’s not the case. If in doubt just try and dtd every second day as you’re guaranteed to do it on either ovulation day or the day before which is perfect :)

also sorry I saw that there were tonnes of spelling mistakes in my last post.. for some reason when I post on tattle it missed out words when I type! Does this happen to anyone else? Lol
 
Heyguysswipeup said:
Using the ovulation tests can be helpful as you can plan sex around it however you can get a LH surge more than once in your cycle and doesn’t necessarily mean you will ovulate.. this can only be confirmed by bbt as your body produces progesterone after you ovulate and creates an increase in your temp. I stopped using Flo a few months back as it kept saying I was ovulating when I clearly wasn’t! Did you have regular periods before you had the vaccine? A lot of females cycles vary by a few days each month and it can still be classed as ‘regular’ .. I think some females assume that regular cycles mean it’s the exact same length each month but that’s not the case. If in doubt just try and dtd every second day as you’re guaranteed to do it on either ovulation day or the day before which is perfect :)

also sorry I saw that there were tonnes of spelling mistakes in my last post.. for some reason when I post on tattle it missed out words when I type! Does this happen to anyone else? Lol
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Okay awesome. Yeah during ovulation we had sex every 2 days and 2 days before and 2 days afterwards, i felt an attachment in my lower abdom but preg test all negative and no symptoms of any sorts. so maybe gotta try again this month.
 
Heyguysswipeup said:
Using the ovulation tests can be helpful as you can plan sex around it however you can get a LH surge more than once in your cycle and doesn’t necessarily mean you will ovulate.. this can only be confirmed by bbt as your body produces progesterone after you ovulate and creates an increase in your temp. I stopped using Flo a few months back as it kept saying I was ovulating when I clearly wasn’t! Did you have regular periods before you had the vaccine? A lot of females cycles vary by a few days each month and it can still be classed as ‘regular’ .. I think some females assume that regular cycles mean it’s the exact same length each month but that’s not the case. If in doubt just try and dtd every second day as you’re guaranteed to do it on either ovulation day or the day before which is perfect :)

also sorry I saw that there were tonnes of spelling mistakes in my last post.. for some reason when I post on tattle it missed out words when I type! Does this happen to anyone else? Lol
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I can confirm this about cycles, I have a regular 28 day cycle so assumed I ovulated CD14, but matter of fact is I actually ovulate CD16 and my luteal phase is only 12 days not 14. Also agree regarding temping I use this to confirm ovulation and a couple of months I've used Proov progesterone tests ☺ I'm on my 11th month of trying and found the first few months harder than I do nearly a year on lol
 
rulebreaker101 said:
Hello, I am fairly new to these threads. I am 2 months into trying and have not fallen pregnant. I am a 26 year old and my Flo App says im ovulating but i get BFN. Last month i tested BFP (happy times) and then my period came (had a chemical pregnancy). I am really unsure what we are doing wrong. Is it positions, is it the vaccine? i took the moderna vaccine and my periods then on have been weird. I would love to bring a baby in the world but it really sucks when it doesn't happen on our first try. We also notice right afterwards, a lot of sperm comes out but we try to save it and put my legs up...sooorry for graphic i have no one else to run to about all this...

(also, how to relax and be stress free? help an anxious girl out lol) is the foods im eating? i eat so healthy, red meat and chicken, one coffee a day, work in a low stress environment...i simply have no words for myself. honestly feel like a failure. we have no idea....i have no idea,

I am a mess...thanks..
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Welcome 💕 there are so many positives here for you: you're only 26, you eat well, you're avoiding significant stress and too much caffeine. You're already doing everything right and you're in a great position to be TTC. I know it's hard to accept that you don't conceive for no reason, the logical bit of my brain keeps telling me there must be something wrong but it really is a bit of luck alongside having enough sex etc. If you're finding it stressful, maybe try a month of no tracking and just have sex 2-3 times a week? Wishing you lots of luck anyway, you'll get there 😊 and I know it's far easier said than done but please don't be so hard on yourself, you're not failing at all.
 
Pineapple55 said:
Welcome 💕 there are so many positives here for you: you're only 26, you eat well, you're avoiding significant stress and too much caffeine. You're already doing everything right and you're in a great position to be TTC. I know it's hard to accept that you don't conceive for no reason, the logical bit of my brain keeps telling me there must be something wrong but it really is a bit of luck alongside having enough sex etc. If you're finding it stressful, maybe try a month of no tracking and just have sex 2-3 times a week? Wishing you lots of luck anyway, you'll get there 😊 and I know it's far easier said than done but please don't be so hard on yourself, you're not failing at all.
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Oh, thank you for your kind words! I think I should get some blood test done for thryoid as I didn’t know about that whilst reading this thread, so that could be a factor
 
rulebreaker101 said:
Hello, I am fairly new to these threads. I am 2 months into trying and have not fallen pregnant. I am a 26 year old and my Flo App says im ovulating but i get BFN. Last month i tested BFP (happy times) and then my period came (had a chemical pregnancy). I am really unsure what we are doing wrong. Is it positions, is it the vaccine? i took the moderna vaccine and my periods then on have been weird. I would love to bring a baby in the world but it really sucks when it doesn't happen on our first try. We also notice right afterwards, a lot of sperm comes out but we try to save it and put my legs up...sooorry for graphic i have no one else to run to about all this...

(also, how to relax and be stress free? help an anxious girl out lol) is the foods im eating? i eat so healthy, red meat and chicken, one coffee a day, work in a low stress environment...i simply have no words for myself. honestly feel like a failure. we have no idea....i have no idea,

I am a mess...thanks..
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I felt the same after a couple of cycles. It’s really not common to get pregnant so quickly in two cycles. People are so quick to be like ‘omg I got pregnant the second I came off the pill’ but in reality it’s like 80% chance within a while year. Nobody is quick to shout about it taking time because it’s harder to talk about but that’s literally how it is. Just keep being healthy, track to get an idea of your cycle, and each month you don’t get pregnant you can put more money away for when baby is here to buy even more cute clothes!

Hope we hear a positive from you soon though ❤️
 
Cooksie said:
I felt the same after a couple of cycles. It’s really not common to get pregnant so quickly in two cycles. People are so quick to be like ‘omg I got pregnant the second I came off the pill’ but in reality it’s like 80% chance within a while year. Nobody is quick to shout about it taking time because it’s harder to talk about but that’s literally how it is. Just keep being healthy, track to get an idea of your cycle, and each month you don’t get pregnant you can put more money away for when baby is here to buy even more cute clothes!

Hope we hear a positive from you soon though ❤
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Oh thank you so much! I hope it works out. Would having sex every second day before the expected period come, make it easier? My poor partner lol, must be super tired after having him try and try again
 
rulebreaker101 said:
Oh thank you so much! I hope it works out. Would having sex every second day before the expected period come, make it easier? My poor partner lol, must be super tired after having him try and try again
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Once you’ve ovulated there’s basically no chance of conceiving so don’t feel like you have to dtd until your period comes unless you feel like it obv😂
 
rulebreaker101 said:
Oh thank you so much! I hope it works out. Would having sex every second day before the expected period come, make it easier? My poor partner lol, must be super tired after having him try and try again
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Lol it’s never “my poor partner”, they’ve got everything they ever wanted - all the sex 😆
Welcome though! As everyone else has said; you’re young and being healthy so see what happens. Just remember to enjoy it, otherwise you will stress.

Prolonged TTC isn’t talked about enough but I’m sure if you spoke to the older women in your life, they’d probably confirm that even in their day people didn’t fall pregnant straight away.

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Today is my first day off AF so all the testing is going on now. I’ve only got three days between finishing and ovulation days so it’s a quick turnaround this month. My dear father in law moves out this week too (first time we’ll be alone since February in our new house) so we are cracking on!

Gossipgirl79 said:
Got a BFP this morning after my second chemical last month…4th time pregnant, but never a good outcome. I think I’m happy, there’s just no joy with it now. Trying to hope and keep calm. 🙏🏼💕
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Quiet celebrations are in order then - that’s fabulous news xx
 
rulebreaker101 said:
Hello, I am fairly new to these threads. I am 2 months into trying and have not fallen pregnant. I am a 26 year old and my Flo App says im ovulating but i get BFN. Last month i tested BFP (happy times) and then my period came (had a chemical pregnancy). I am really unsure what we are doing wrong. Is it positions, is it the vaccine? i took the moderna vaccine and my periods then on have been weird. I would love to bring a baby in the world but it really sucks when it doesn't happen on our first try. We also notice right afterwards, a lot of sperm comes out but we try to save it and put my legs up...sooorry for graphic i have no one else to run to about all this...

(also, how to relax and be stress free? help an anxious girl out lol) is the foods im eating? i eat so healthy, red meat and chicken, one coffee a day, work in a low stress environment...i simply have no words for myself. honestly feel like a failure. we have no idea....i have no idea,

I am a mess...thanks..
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Hey welcome, I echo what everyone else has said, if you are finding it stressful tracking try not too (easier said then done!). Also will echo flow isn’t the most accurate it has never got my ovulation or period right, the dates are often completely different to my iPhone cycle tracker too. Flow this month said I was ovulating last week and my iPhone says this week 🤷‍♀️ The best advice is to try and have sex every two days around the time you think you might be ovulating. Fingers crossed for you 🤞
 
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