Tom Hiddleston

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I was the other way never wanted kids then suddenly did. A friend is having her first at 45!! I think as LetMeRamble said anything is in the realms of possibility with TH and Zawe.

EastofHollywood said:
It's a definite deal breaker. But if both of them want kids, I doubt career would delay them at their age.
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If there's no compromise then yes it's a deal breaker. Most A listers wouldn't know the struggle of juggling a full time job, wrap around care, out of school activities, family time, social life (a dim and distant memory), running a house (why have they not invented self cleaning houses yet?) and sleep (I think I remember what 8 hours sleep feels like..), they are extremely lucky to be able to afford lots of help.
 
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Kouignamann said:
Yes but Tom mentioned, a long time ago, that he wanted kids eventually. Was is just publicity? To win the girls' hearts?? Or maybe he changed his mind because he realised having kids in this world may not be the most reasonable thing to do? Or maybe the timing was never right...
A lot of maybes here.
About this ET thing I am with yupps on this one because of this: how come, if such a news was out in an official media, it did not spread as fast as, for example, the pictures at the vet? Which were taken down pretty quickly (but once it's on Internet, it never goes away)...
I have to admit though ladies you make my vacation more fun, I feel I am participating to a police investigation with all of you!
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Because teenagers watch Twitter, IG and Facebook more than the 7 pm 'news'----> JK
Maybe he still want kids but not just now? I'm with the OP that stated that the guy's have a different internal clock. They can procreate well in their 70s/80s. We, females, do not.
 
clara131brown said:
I was the other way never wanted kids then suddenly did. A friend is having her first at 45!! I think as LetMeRamble said anything is in the realms of possibility with TH and Zawe.


If there's no compromise then yes it's a deal breaker. Most A listers wouldn't know the struggle of juggling a full time job, wrap around care, out of school activities, family time, social life (a dim and distant memory), running a house (why have they not invented self cleaning houses yet?) and sleep (I think I remember what 8 hours sleep feels like..), they are extremely lucky to be able to afford lots of help.
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You can't really compromise on that! It's a recipe for resentment. Agree they would hardly have to worry about getting back to the childminder on time. I just dont think that would be a reason why, if they have split, it would be because Tom wanted kids and she doesn't. Anyway, It's funny how this thread has gone from 'are Tom and Zawe a couple? to ' Have they split up because they can't agree about having children?' in about 2 pages ;)
 
clara131brown said:
If there's no compromise then yes it's a deal breaker. Most A listers wouldn't know the struggle of juggling a full time job, wrap around care, out of school activities, family time, social life (a dim and distant memory), running a house (why have they not invented self cleaning houses yet?) and sleep (I think I remember what 8 hours sleep feels like..), they are extremely lucky to be able to afford lots of help.
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Of course they have it easier than regular people but they still have to be involved....I HOPE THAT'S THE CASE otherwise, why bringing a child to this world?
 
EastofHollywood said:
You can't really compromise on that! It's a recipe for resentment. Agree they would hardly have to worry about getting back to the childminder on time. I just dont think that would be a reason why, if they have split, it would be because Tom wanted kids and she doesn't.
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I speak from experience, I'd changed my mind and my OH (after a pep talk from his family) compromised. Total recipe for disaster. But I wouldn't change a thing (and deep down neither would he), I have the most amazing little one

EastofHollywood said:
Anyway, It's funny how this thread has gone from 'are Tom and Zawe a couple? to ' Have they split up because they can't agree about having children?' in about 2 pages ;)
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We type fast 😂
 
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I wrote a whole thing on this but deleted it bc I felt like I was being creepy talking about how huge it can be to some women (like myself) to have kids.
My husband is 41 and feels like he still has 4 years where he can become a dad and it'll work out. I'm 34 and absolutely terrified I somehow won't have kids soon enough. I think about it every day (we have fertility problems and are about to do ivf).

The pressure is huge. If my husband suddenly decided he didn't want kids I'd divorce him. It really is a huge deal and it is very different for some men I think.
 
EastofHollywood said:
Anyway, It's funny how this thread has gone from 'are Tom and Zawe a couple? to ' Have they split up because they can't agree about having children?' in about 2 pages ;)
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I'm bored at work, so here I am....talking to the strangers on the internet about people that I'll never meet and their potential offspring.
My mom would be so proud of me
clara131brown said:
We type fast 😂
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TOO FAST at times
 
Ice9 said:
I wrote a whole thing on this but deleted it bc I felt like I was being creepy talking about how huge it can be to some women (like myself) to have kids.
My husband is 41 and feels like he still has 4 years where he can become a dad and it'll work out. I'm 34 and absolutely terrified I somehow won't have kids soon enough. I think about it every day (we have fertility problems and are about to do ivf).

The pressure is huge. If my husband suddenly decided he didn't want kids I'd divorce him. It really is a huge deal and it is very different for some men I think.
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Why does he think he only has 4 years? Men can be Dads at any age. All the best for the IVF, and try not to stress.

Men do think differently. I didn't realise Tom's co-star Owen has 3 kids to 3 different women.
 
clara131brown said:
Why does he think he only has 4 years? Men can be Dads at any age. All the best for the IVF, and try not to stress.

Men do think differently. I didn't realise Tom's co-star Owen has 3 kids to 3 different women.
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I think she means 4 years to have children with her. I doubt if she wants her husband to have children at 59 with some other woman
 
clara131brown said:
Hear me out folks (and in no way am I saying she needs permission to leave the picture up), but why would you if you both wanted total privacy leave a painting like that up? Yet he took it down. Makes no sense.
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maybe becausethey aren’t hiding their relationship, theybjust aren’t publicising it. Them not talking about it and not doing pap shoots doesn’t mean they are hiding, they are just living normally.

also for people saying they are just friends, that’s a reach because she has money to have her own place why would she be staying in someone else’s place. That’s like that crazy MM claiming theywere roommates…sorry but that’s just silly
 
yupps said:
I think she means 4 years to have children with her. I doubt if she wants her husband to have children at 59 with some other woman
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Yes this. I don't want him to be 75 when our child is 30 for instance, it's bad enough (to me) that he would be 71 by then, if the ivf works. It's very possible he wouldn't meet his grandkids of we had any and the older you get the harder it is to keep up with a young child. I guess I think about this stuff a lot.

And thank you, Clara, I am trying very hard to be calm..its just scary I guess, it feels like a lot rides on it.

When I read that Zawe said she wanted kids all I could think was that it must mean a great deal to her because she's saying it publicly. I didn't tell my friends I wanted a child until I was 100% sure of it, I cannot imagine telling the whole world unless i was too.

Tom is in great shape, has a great career, has a lot of money, I could see why he might not feel pressure whereas for zawe being 37 the pressure may be moreso. But I don't know them. Im just basing off my experience. Its...such a big, big thing.
 
Ice9 said:
Yes this. I don't want him to be 75 when our child is 30 for instance, it's bad enough (to me) that he would be 71 by then, if the ivf works. It's very possible he wouldn't meet his grandkids of we had any and the older you get the harder it is to keep up with a young child. I guess I think about this stuff a lot.

And thank you, Clara, I am trying very hard to be calm..its just scary I guess, it feels like a lot rides on it.

When I read that Zawe said she wanted kids all I could think was that it must mean a great deal to her because she's saying it publicly. I didn't tell my friends I wanted a child until I was 100% sure of it, I cannot imagine telling the whole world unless i was too.

Tom is in great shape, has a great career, has a lot of money, I could see why he might not feel pressure whereas for zawe being 37 the pressure may be moreso. But I don't know them. Im just basing off my experience. Its...such a big, big thing.
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As I mentioned before one of my friends is having her first at 45. She had similar concerns to you.
As for Tom and Zawe yes we're all speculating but both said they wanted children just not straight away (when they said it). I guess only time will tell what's happened
 
Ice9 said:
I wrote a whole thing on this but deleted it bc I felt like I was being creepy talking about how huge it can be to some women (like myself) to have kids.
My husband is 41 and feels like he still has 4 years where he can become a dad and it'll work out. I'm 34 and absolutely terrified I somehow won't have kids soon enough. I think about it every day (we have fertility problems and are about to do ivf).

The pressure is huge. If my husband suddenly decided he didn't want kids I'd divorce him. It really is a huge deal and it is very different for some men I think.
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Good luck with the IVF. I agree the difference between men and women is huge, especially when you get to your 30's.
 
EastofHollywood said:
Good luck with the IVF. I agree the difference between men and women is huge, especially when you get to your 30's.
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Thank you💙 haha after writing this I dreamed if going to the doctor. And Clara it's amazing she had a child at 45. Both my grandma’s did that too but it was unintended.

The video of Tom looking confused to the song made my morning. I'm cracking up. How has he not heard that song? I thought everyone and their mother was forced to hear it at some point. It is adorable. 🥺
 
Ice9 said:
Thank you💙 haha after writing this I dreamed if going to the doctor. And Clara it's amazing she had a child at 45. Both my grandma’s did that too but it was unintended.

The video of Tom looking confused to the song made my morning. I'm cracking up. How has he not heard that song? I thought everyone and their mother was forced to hear it at some point. It is adorable. 🥺
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My friend is currently pregnant and only recently made it common knowledge widely at work etc, the beauty of working at home meant no one knew. She met her OH at 40 and got through lots of health problems. We're all so happy for her.
As for Tom not recognising Pokemon I get it being same age, by time it was popular I'm guessing we would have been in our teens and probably same as other teenagers focused on other things 😂
 
clara131brown said:
My friend is currently pregnant and only recently made it common knowledge widely at work etc, the beauty of working at home meant no one knew. She met her OH at 40 and got through lots of health problems. We're all so happy for her.
As for Tom not recognising Pokemon I get it being same age, by time it was popular I'm guessing we would have been in our teens and probably same as other teenagers focused on other things 😂
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Thats awesome! Good for her that that exciting.

The doctor told me with ivf it gets less effective as we age but I think if we had nothing wrong and and husband was younger I'd be less nervous.

My husband knows the song and is older than Tom but he is a big dork (I say it lovingly) and watches anime and cartoons every chance he gets. He heard the tik tok and started singing 🤣 it made me happy.
 
Ice9 said:
Thats awesome! Good for her that that exciting.

The doctor told me with ivf it gets less effective as we age but I think if we had nothing wrong and and husband was younger I'd be less nervous.

My husband knows the song and is older than Tom but he is a big dork (I say it lovingly) and watches anime and cartoons every chance he gets. He heard the tik tok and started singing 🤣 it made me happy.
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Nerds are great I'm a nerd and proud.

Best advice I can give you (as I was given the same although my circumstances were slightly different to yours, the advice came from a Private nurse friend of my Mum's who worked in assisted conception at a private hospital) is listen to the professionals, relax and don't lift anything heavier than a teacup (let your husband do all the heavy housework and hoovering) and try to have a balanced diet (including fruit like avocados etc). I'll have my fingers crossed for you.
 
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