TheLongMum #3 Life couldn't be harder, I ponder from Lake Garda...

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JellyDonut said:
Oh ok, I’ve never claimed any kind of benefits before so I don’t fully understand the process. Just assumed it was for if you don’t/can’t work.
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yeah same. That paired with her ‘not claiming disability benefit…yet’ she’s definitely hoping to.
It just can’t be a very fulfilling life. Also she’s desperate to find a man, even in the most basic of terms has she not thought doing something with her life might make her more attractive?
 
b20212017 said:
yeah same. That paired with her ‘not claiming disability benefit…yet’ she’s definitely hoping to.
It just can’t be a very fulfilling life. Also she’s desperate to find a man, even in the most basic of terms has she not thought doing something with her life might make her more attractive?
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She just wants a life where she can mooch around the chazza shops and get coffee and cake all day and have a shag after her boyfriend finishes work. I genuinely don’t think she wants her kids to live with her, I think she’d be perfectly happy if they lived with their dad majority of the time and she saw them every other weekend. She doesn’t want any responsibilities in her life
 
So last Sunday she said she had covid, she was out and about a few weeks later, and today she says it’s been almost two weeks… sure hun.
 

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JellyDonut said:
She’s really pushing the ADHD angle hard at the moment. Just today she’s said “I can’t concentrate on more than one thing at a time” and “my brain deleted all the info out of it as soon as I put the pen down”
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we are a whole family of ASD and ADHDers, none of us get any benefits for it, we have jobs, my kids get a bit of support at school. Things are more difficult for us than others but I wouldn't dream of hiding behind it to not work and the way she bangs on about it feels very performative. My husband has ADHD and is incredibly intelligent and successful
 
Chattymamabear said:
we are a whole family of ASD and ADHDers, none of us get any benefits for it, we have jobs, my kids get a bit of support at school. Things are more difficult for us than others but I wouldn't dream of hiding behind it to not work and the way she bangs on about it feels very performative. My husband has ADHD and is incredibly intelligent and successful
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I’m autistic and have ADHD and work as a doctor as well as having multiple kids with special needs. No disability benefits here. I’d rather be out there using my brain, I’d go insane if all my life involved was leisurely coffee drinking and going round charity shops!
 
I'm not an expert so I can't say whether she has ADHD or not but it's clear to me that she's just looking for something to blame for her situation. Why is my house so chaotic, why can't I hold down a relationship, why am I so terrible with money... Aha! The doctors will give it a label so I don't have to actually address any of these things and hopefully it'll mean I can claim some sort of benefit too!

Notice how she always seems fine when she's out at restaurants or shopping or going on dates or holidays, she only seems to spiral when she's got her kids. Which fortunately for her is approximately one weekend in 5. How she can complain about a build-up of life admin and a messy house when she has more free time than anyone I know is still beyond me.
 
Also I'm amazed the garage have repeatedly let her drive away in a car that has no functioning doors. What if she had an accident with the girls in there? For someone who apparently worries about EVERYTHING she's fine with this?? She'd rather drive a deathtrap than walk?
 
Wonder how her Invisalign is going. She can’t afford to get her car fixed or do anything with the girls that costs more than £1 in the half term holidays, but she can spunk money on coffees, cakes, chazza shop tit, Invisalign, holidays for herself
 
I think she's angling to get a gig doing this isn't she. The charity shop buying / reselling / styling thing. She's clearly got an eye for stuff because half those clothes she buys I'd walk straight past. It pains me to say it but she would look good in most things. It's not hard to find clothes that look good when you're 6ft tall and built like a model. That crocheted waistcoat thing would make me look like a garden gnome.
 
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