I have a child with multiple life-threatening allergies (not intolerances), epipens and the whole nine yards, and Tim and Jenn would probably NEVER be able to handle it. We adjust everything for our child when on vacation, yes, but also every single day. It is one of the reasons I get so pissed off watching these asshats seem inconvenienced with their child in every scenario and he needs no accommodations. Never once have we felt our child was an inconvenience, but it takes a ton of work and a ton of vigilance and we just DO IT. We may have to pass on certain restaurants or experiences and we deal and don't feel bummed out or bothered by it. Like these two can't even arrange their plans for Tim's parents who have some mobility or sight issues without complaining and bitching. They are selfish and ungrateful.
My husband and I have a favorite restaurant we used to go to before we had kids, but now do not go there because it isn't safe AT ALL for our allergic child. We just never go and occasionally we will be out alone together and my husband will suggest we could go there and we decide we still shouldn't (lots of nut products there) just to be safe. You make sacrifices for your family and you just deal with it. We have never told our kid or announced to others that we don't go there and what a bummer it is because our kid is allergic. I just can't comprehend saying anything like that ever.
This same child ate grilled chicken and veggies with a fork at a year younger than J is now.