I just watched the latest slog, 3 things.
1. Butch is a bully, I actually think she is an abusive narcissistic mother / wife, Pen is an enabler. Curly twin in the golden child who is positioned / trained to serve the narcissist. The whole family have been conditioned and are blind to her, the scapegoat child or children will perhaps stand the best chance at waking up to it when they are older. As a narcissist Pat can see no fault in herself and Pen as an enabler can only see making her happy which is why their content can seem so socially unaware.
2. I actually feel sorry for Pen, he is weak and has been trained to enable Pat, it’s all he knows, it comes before everything. The family unit revolves round Pat, they all serve her and are held in a state of uncertainty about what mood she will be in or who will feel her rath. He has spent his adult life being conditioned to be exactly what she wants and he is too weak to stand up to her. I don’t doubt he loves his kids but he is scared of upsetting or disappointing his abuser. His ill health really cemented my view of Pat, she showed no empathy, it’s an emotion she is not capable of. Yes she will show faux empathy, she has learned as an adult what we should say but it’s just words, they have no meaning. She can only think about herself, she is unable to love ib
3. Reading the comments made me realise how many deeply inadequate people there must be in our society which does explain quite a lot. It also shows how entitled people feel, the motivation to work for your living seems to be gone, replaced by entitled consumerism. If you don’t earn it you can never appreciate it.
This family unit is psychologically toxic and will end up very broken as the children grow up, the golden children running the risk of becoming narcissists themselves, the scapegoats either waking up and cutting contact or going off the rails.
I actually feel worried for these children as this toxic environment is far more destructive and dangerous than other more visible abuse which is much easier to spot, accept and address.
If by some chance the children do read here please have a read of two books
“you’re not crazy, it’s your mother”
“will I ever be good enough”
1. Butch is a bully, I actually think she is an abusive narcissistic mother / wife, Pen is an enabler. Curly twin in the golden child who is positioned / trained to serve the narcissist. The whole family have been conditioned and are blind to her, the scapegoat child or children will perhaps stand the best chance at waking up to it when they are older. As a narcissist Pat can see no fault in herself and Pen as an enabler can only see making her happy which is why their content can seem so socially unaware.
2. I actually feel sorry for Pen, he is weak and has been trained to enable Pat, it’s all he knows, it comes before everything. The family unit revolves round Pat, they all serve her and are held in a state of uncertainty about what mood she will be in or who will feel her rath. He has spent his adult life being conditioned to be exactly what she wants and he is too weak to stand up to her. I don’t doubt he loves his kids but he is scared of upsetting or disappointing his abuser. His ill health really cemented my view of Pat, she showed no empathy, it’s an emotion she is not capable of. Yes she will show faux empathy, she has learned as an adult what we should say but it’s just words, they have no meaning. She can only think about herself, she is unable to love ib
3. Reading the comments made me realise how many deeply inadequate people there must be in our society which does explain quite a lot. It also shows how entitled people feel, the motivation to work for your living seems to be gone, replaced by entitled consumerism. If you don’t earn it you can never appreciate it.
This family unit is psychologically toxic and will end up very broken as the children grow up, the golden children running the risk of becoming narcissists themselves, the scapegoats either waking up and cutting contact or going off the rails.
I actually feel worried for these children as this toxic environment is far more destructive and dangerous than other more visible abuse which is much easier to spot, accept and address.
If by some chance the children do read here please have a read of two books
“you’re not crazy, it’s your mother”
“will I ever be good enough”
