The Ingham Family #284 “I’m glad putting children on social media wasn’t a thing when I was growing up”

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youdontfoolthisoldgirl said:
Yes it is and I have to say I’m so pleased social media wasn’t a thing in the 80’s early 90’s when I was a kid. Also that camera phones weren’t a thing in my drinking days 🤣🤭
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This title is absolutely perfect.



There are pictures of me during my awkward stage whoever said birth to now can shut it where my wardrobe consisted of new kids on the block t-shirts and hoop earrings, and my mother submitted to me cutting off my beautiful long hair to a style that can only be described as "50 year old divorcee out on the town". Add to that my giant glasses that I decided where the pinnacle of fashion at the time, and I am so glad that there are very limited pictures of me at that age.
 
youdontfoolthisoldgirl said:
Yes it is and I have to say I’m so pleased social media wasn’t a thing in the 80’s early 90’s when I was a kid. Also that camera phones weren’t a thing in my drinking days 🤣🤭
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Honestly! Every time I think about it, I thank my lucky stars that the only social media we had when I was a teenager was MySpace and you still had to have a university email address to join Facebook! And now MySpace is mostly wiped from the internet, hallelujah. I am so glad my days of poor impulse control are largely not available for public consumption!
 
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StrangeAsAngels said:
This title is absolutely perfect.



There are pictures of me during my awkward stage whoever said birth to now can shut it where my wardrobe consisted of new kids on the block t-shirts and hoop earrings, and my mother submitted to me cutting off my beautiful long hair to a style that can only be described as "50 year old divorcee out on the town". Add to that my giant glasses that I decided where the pinnacle of fashion at the time, and I am so glad that there are very limited pictures of me at that age.
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I too chopped all my hair off and resembled Edna from the incredibles 😳. New kids on the block were awesome. My daughter is obsessed with the 80’s.
 
youdontfoolthisoldgirl said:
My sister has homeschooled my nephew his entire life, while she has worked hard with him and they have attended many groups and workshops over the years. Unfortunately he has this grand illusion that he is far cleverer than he actually is, now I am in no way calling my nephew stupid but they hype him up so much that he always thinks he’s the smartest person in the room. Maybe I mean but I have always been realistic with my daughter about her abilities, I have always encouraged her to do what she enjoys but when she asked me “do you think I can sing”? I told her no you can’t but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it if you enjoy it but you’re never going to be the next Beyoncé. I have been the same with her about everything I don’t think a parent should fill their child’s head with false hopes just for them to be ridiculed or left devastated later in life because they thought they were good at something they actually weren’t.
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I see this a lot. Son was in a private school when he started education and home-educated after we moved back here. Personally I hate the extreme competitive streak that is often present in both environments. I was an overachiever at school and university and consequently had an eating disorder. I still have nightmares about my exams and that was almost 30 years ago. I refused to have our child suffer the same pressure I did.
Children have unique learning styles and education needs and I wish people like Sarah and Chris would embrace that instead of lying about every single aspect of their children's achievements.
Stop comparing the girls to other dancers in the school, making out as if they are the only ones who smiled throughout.
Stop bragging about milestones and how the health visitor has never seen or heard a more advanced child etc.
It is extremely unfair to the children.
They don't learn to navigate a world where there is a place for everyone, including the very last child to meet that goal or the one who never meets it.
My dad loves the old saying of he who tries and fails is a fool for a moment, but he who doesn't try is a fool forever.
They are not encouraging a single one of their children to navigate the real world and co-exist with their peers.
 
hmmm_no said:
Honestly! Every time I think about it, I thank my lucky stars that the only social media we had when I was a teenager was MySpace and you still had to have a university email address to join Facebook! And now MySpace is mostly wiped from the internet, hallelujah. I am so glad my days of poor impulse control are largely not available for public consumption!
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When I look back and think of all the dumb and stupid stuff I did I honestly don’t know how I’ve made it to my 40’s. If my daughter did even half what I’ve done I’d be mortified, to say I was out of control would be a understatement 😑
Luckily it’s only memories that are witness to those days 😏
 
youdontfoolthisoldgirl said:
My sister has homeschooled my nephew his entire life, while she has worked hard with him and they have attended many groups and workshops over the years. Unfortunately he has this grand illusion that he is far cleverer than he actually is, now I am in no way calling my nephew stupid but they hype him up so much that he always thinks he’s the smartest person in the room. Maybe I mean but I have always been realistic with my daughter about her abilities, I have always encouraged her to do what she enjoys but when she asked me “do you think I can sing”? I told her no you can’t but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it if you enjoy it but you’re never going to be the next Beyoncé. I have been the same with her about everything I don’t think a parent should fill their child’s head with false hopes just for them to be ridiculed or left devastated later in life because they thought they were good at something they actually weren’t.
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Being honest is the kindest thing you can do ❤️ I am the same with my children, I will never say they are the best at everything but I will praise them where they are showing good progress and when they can’t quite do something I always say “never mind, you can’t do it now but one day you will, keep trying!”
Whereas Lazy tells Jace that purple is pink just because she doesn’t want him being told he’s wrong. Look at him at the opticians, cried and refused to talk when the optician told him he got a picture wrong. Kids need truth and sometimes yes it will hurt their feelings but the world isn’t always on their side and the quicker they learn that, the better people they will be. I can’t stand the mums at my children’s nursery in the playground “oh James can play piano” can he duck, he’s 2. The only time I will brag about my child’s achievements is on here knowing Lazy will read it and hopefully give her a kick up the arse to stop calling Jace a clever boy when he’s not. She’s raising a brat.
 
Otterwise said:
I see this a lot. Son was in a private school when he started education and home-educated after we moved back here. Personally I hate the extreme competitive streak that is often present in both environments. I was an overachiever at school and university and consequently had an eating disorder. I still have nightmares about my exams and that was almost 30 years ago and refused to have our child suffer the same pressure I did.
Children have unique learning styles and education needs and I wish people like Sarah and Chris would embrace that instead of lying about every single aspect of their children's achievements.
Stop comparing the girls to other dancers in the school, making out as if they are the only ones who smiled throughout.
Stop bragging about milestones and how the health visitor has never seen or heard a more advanced child etc.
It is extremely unfair to the children.
They don't learn to navigate a world where there is a place for everyone, including the very last child to meet that goal or the one who never meets it.
My dad loves the old saying of he who tries and fails is a fool for a moment, but he who doesn't try is a fool forever.
They are not encouraging a single one of their children to navigate the real world and co-exist with their peers.
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I’m not against homeschooling as sometimes it’s the right thing for that family. I do believe however that homeschooled children should also be socialised with their peers. School is 2 parts one part learning and the other learning how to navigate friendships, relationships and so much more. Those kids are getting none of that and in my opinion lack of learning aside they are missing out on such important life lessons.
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yuza said:
Being honest is the kindest thing you can do ❤️ I am the same with my children, I will never say they are the best at everything but I will praise them where they are showing good progress and when they can’t quite do something I always say “never mind, you can’t do it now but one day you will, keep trying!”
Whereas Lazy tells Jace that purple is pink just because she doesn’t want him being told he’s wrong. Look at him at the opticians, cried and refused to talk when the optician told him he got a picture wrong. Kids need truth and sometimes yes it will hurt their feelings but the world isn’t always on their side and the quicker they learn that, the better people they will be. I can’t stand the mums at my children’s nursery in the playground “oh James can play piano” can he duck, he’s 2. The only time I will brag about my child’s achievements is on here knowing Lazy will read it and hopefully give her a kick up the arse to stop calling Jace a clever boy when he’s not. She’s raising a brat.
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I made a promise - to myself that I would never lie to my daughter and I never have if she’s asked a question she’s always been told the truth. I maybe haven’t elaborated on things at the time but I would have hated the thought of her finding something out and then thinking to herself “why did my mum lie to me”
My daughter is extremely gifted with makeup but she was never academic, in fact she hated school, she worked really hard and passed all her needed exams for college.
Jace at the opticians was awful it’s about time he was told no and corrected, I’m not blaming him it’s how he’s being raised but jeez he’s a little sod.
 
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youdontfoolthisoldgirl said:
I’m not against homeschooling as sometimes it’s the right thing for that family. I do believe however that homeschooled children should also be socialised with their peers. School is 2 parts one part learning and the other learning how to navigate friendships, relationships and so much more. Those kids are getting none of that and in my opinion lack of learning aside they are missing out on such important life lessons.
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When they were in school, I think they were kept 'grounded' and experienced some form of normality because you are part of a group that all experience similar tit, just on different days. I suspect Chris and Sarah started telling them they were special pretty soon after their channel took off, so they have been indoctrinated to believe that they are better than most. It's terribly unfair to them.
 
hmmm_no said:
Not body shaming but that seems very....advanced for 16 weeks. Are we sure she's not lying so she can have a "surprise delivery"? Or does she just really need her sugars checked?
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I also noticed that she was buying mini toiletries in yesterdays vlog. I assumed they were for her maternity bag and thought surely she wouldn’t pack one this early. I have a feeling she’s doing a Stacey Solomon.
 
Otterwise said:
When they were in school, I think they were kept 'grounded' and experienced some form of normality because you are part of a group that all experience similar tit, just on different days. I suspect Chris and Sarah started telling them they are special pretty soon after their channel took off.
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They were completely different children when they were in school. Really happy and full of life to see what has happened to them is absolutely heartbreaking. I can imagine especially for Isabelle and possibly esme school became pretty tough after the allegations about Chris came out. I hate that he’s taken so much from his children. Had Sarah done the right thing and left him I would say after some tough times she probably would have had a very successful YouTube channel. Unfortunately for those children (I have no sympathy for her) she chose money and him over her children. I can’t imagine ever putting anyone before my daughter.
 
Otterwise said:
Apologies for posting this separately, I replied before I saw your second post.
Your daughter is an inspiration. X
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She’s just a person like everyone else but to me she’s the most amazing person I have ever known. I survived a car accident that I shouldn’t have and always wondered why but now I know, it was to be her mum.
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Scotblock said:
I also noticed that she was buying mini toiletries in yesterdays vlog. I assumed they were for her maternity bag and thought surely she wouldn’t pack one this early. I have a feeling she’s doing a Stacey Solomon.
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I’m not sure, I think she said Isabelle needed some toiletries so maybe she’s staying over the boyfriend’s.
 
youdontfoolthisoldgirl said:
She’s just a person like everyone else but to me she’s the most amazing person I have ever known. I survived a car accident that I shouldn’t have and always wondered why but now I know, it was to be her mum.
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I’m not sure, I think she said Isabelle needed some toiletries so maybe she’s staying over the boyfriend’s.
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Ab, that’s what it must be 😊
 
youdontfoolthisoldgirl said:
My sister has homeschooled my nephew his entire life, while she has worked hard with him and they have attended many groups and workshops over the years. Unfortunately he has this grand illusion that he is far cleverer than he actually is, now I am in no way calling my nephew stupid but they hype him up so much that he always thinks he’s the smartest person in the room. Maybe I mean but I have always been realistic with my daughter about her abilities, I have always encouraged her to do what she enjoys but when she asked me “do you think I can sing”? I told her no you can’t but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it if you enjoy it but you’re never going to be the next Beyoncé. I have been the same with her about everything I don’t think a parent should fill their child’s head with false hopes just for them to be ridiculed or left devastated later in life because they thought they were good at something they actually weren’t.
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You’re are correct the exam results do ALL the talking at the end of the day. I had a cousin the same an only child in private school my Aunty was a prize bragger 🙄 my cousin did average my sister straight A’s she didn’t congratulate her or my parents and my parents didn’t brag at all 😂😂😂
 
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Charlotte1993 said:
You’re are correct the exam results do ALL the talking at the end of the day. I had a cousin the same an only child in private school my Aunty was a prize bragger 🙄 my cousin did average my sister straight A’s she didn’t congratulate her or my parents and my parents didn’t brag at all 😂😂😂
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I’m sorry because she’s family but I can’t stand people like that, all our children, nieces, nephews, grandchildren etc… have their own gifts and are all amazing.
 
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