I’m really not one for accepting people blaming their past for how they are today. Not 100% any way.
by age 9 my sons dad (my late husband) died suddenly one day. 2 years later I got in a mentally abusive relationship- something that crept up slowly and sadly my son saw. He then- a year ago aged 16- helped perform CPR on his best mates mum- sadly unsuccessfully.
my son is now training to be a mechanic, works in a shop and on race weekends goes all over the country working as part of a pit crew. Not once would I have ever allowed him to be a tit person and blame his past. Not once has he used it for monetary gain and NEVER would I have recorded ANY of this.
S, I digress- Sarah is just a massive cock womble and it’s her fault only.
Because people still have a choice, and your son sounds like a decent person who has been through some horrible times but chosen to do the right things. With it being Sarah, I'm not sure how much is true or not. She had a terrible childhood but many happy memories, didn't go anywhere or have any money but then talks about the places she went and toys she had. I'm on the fence with it all to be honest, I went through some
tit growing up but it's only as I've talked about it to people as an adult that I realise how bad it sounds because looking back I feel I was happy a lot of the time.
I had to physically try to stop my dad from strangling my mum as I'd previously watched him do it till she passed out. But then I went out to play with my friends and had a nice time. That was normal for me, I have memories of fun holidays but also know that the same holidays were filled with arguing and violence. I then had 3 stepfathers through my teens, and I ranged from hating them to being entirely indifferent and can't remember much about them at all because they didn't really feature in my life.
I was definitely left with some issues but I used this to learn what I DON'T want. Especially after having children. I look at them and sometimes think what I experienced by their age. If Sarah had such a bad childhood, she had the choice to make sure her children had better. She didn't have to move Chris in after a week. She didn't have to stay with him. She didn't have to have more children. She didn't have to take the children out of school and she doesn't have to ignore their medical needs. She thinks about her childhood and then looks at her children, and doesn't really care what is best for them.
Her children will either one day realise that their life shouldn't be this way and want out or will continue to live it and accept it. I see the life they have created as being similar to a cult, there can't really be any in between, either they are fully in and do what Chris and Sarah want or they are out entirely and will have nothing to do with them.