The Anna Edit #8 The Ofmark Edit: Blessed be the crotch shot

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éman said:
IME, one of the great difficulties about this topic and the pain the discussion of it can cause is that while fertility struggles are hugely more common than they’ve often been portrayed in the past, the truth is that the majority of people do get pregnant in the first few tries (you’re strictly speaking most likely to get pregnant on try number one) so the vast majority of candid discussion of the topic runs the major risk (audience/participants dependent) of being very hurtful and anxiety-provoking.

I don’t know what the answer is, I’ve never been able to work that one out. All I know is that it’s horrible when you’re on the crap end of it because your journey hasn’t been straightforward, for one reason or another.

I will admit that I balked a bit at Lily’s framing of 5 months TTC, but re Anna I don’t think a situation in which people feel they have to walk excessively on eggshells about the fact that they didn’t struggle to conceive is a desirable thing either. It’s not healthy to have a landscape that’s lapsed from “taboo to talk about struggles” into “taboo to talk about anything that wasn’t a struggle” - both are unfair and give a skewed impression of the world. Her experience is enviable to many but it’s not some freakish fluke, it seems to have been a very normal experience and I didn’t personally get the sense she was being glib or smug. Just feels like another “women can’t win either way” situation. The simple truth is that most people do conceive relatively fast, I don’t see that cognisance of that changes anything for those of us for whom the journey there is less straightforward, and personally I wouldn’t/don’t gain anything from avoidance of that fact. If anything the opposite. But it’s such an intensely personal thing.

I think the best anyone can hope to do if they’re going to discuss it all in a relatively public “place” is to be tactful, and perhaps to offer prior warning about the nature of the discussion.
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THIS!
I get that there are lots of subjects that can be a struggle for people but I so agree that then having to be apologetic about not struggling can’t be the answer. Especially with regards to pregnancy and parenting which is riddled with guilt anyway, especially for the women.
I thought it was shocking that her first thought when she got pregnant was to feel guilty for putting pressure on the NHS. That’s insanity.
Anyway thank you for your comment it’s very refreshing.
 
Magee said:
I am OUT 👋 I already predict;

- Milking the whole experience on her podcast
- Gushing over Mark and how supportive he is
- Endless freebies
- Sugar coating the real experience
- Pregnancy skin care routine
- Pregnancy clothing haul
- Postpartum workout routine
- Pregnancy food/diet videos
- Organising nursery and hospital bag
- Decorating nursery
- Blog post within 1 week on motherhood, ya know, because she becomes an expert as soon as she embarks on something 🙄

then...

Oh I’m pregnant again ♻
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If she doesn’t make any major missteps that cause some sort of PR scandal AND if (a very big IF) she can keep up with consumer and digital trends, a house reno and 2 kids up until they go to school is a decade of content right there🙄
 
Emalabemela said:
THIS!
I get that there are lots of subjects that can be a struggle for people but I so agree that then having to be apologetic about not struggling can’t be the answer. Especially with regards to pregnancy and parenting which is riddled with guilt anyway, especially for the women.
I thought it was shocking that her first thought when she got pregnant was to feel guilty for putting pressure on the NHS. That’s insanity.
Anyway thank you for your comment it’s very refreshing.
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It is but she also has the means to afford private health care so if she felt that guilty she could have paid to go private
 
Something I really don’t understand is the sharing of her film photos. They’re exactly the same as shots she’s shared all week except in film? At least don’t share the digital photos if you’re going to share the film ones a few days lady. It’s just boring recycled content and feels like she’s copying Lizzy from shot from the street
 
Zillanelle said:
I’m considering unfollowing her. Having been struggling to conceive for 3 years and counting, it’s really upsetting when influencers seem to get pregnant on their first attempt and do nothing to refute it that this is the case. What, do they all have some magic fertility dust? It’s so disingenuous and apparently she said in her announcement vid (I read on here, I didn’t watch) that she understands pregnancy content isn’t for everyone and can be triggering for some but it is ALL SHE IS POSTING ABOUT. And the £200 jeans four sizes bigger making her think about size inclusivity, I howled, how clueless can you be.
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I'm sorry for your struggle and am sending you strength.

Her "trigger warning" was all well and good but it upset me that it came at the END OF THE VIDEO. She faffed on for what felt like an hour before admitting that some people may not feel comfortable engaging with her content.

I have a soft spot for Anna, but I can't stand to watch another influencer get pregnant with ease and then turn it into a personality trait with zero regard for their audience. I want her to be more clever than that, but so far she's proving that she will milk this pregnancy for all it's worth.
 
Emalabemela said:
THIS!
I get that there are lots of subjects that can be a struggle for people but I so agree that then having to be apologetic about not struggling can’t be the answer. Especially with regards to pregnancy and parenting which is riddled with guilt anyway, especially for the women.
I thought it was shocking that her first thought when she got pregnant was to feel guilty for putting pressure on the NHS. That’s insanity.
Anyway thank you for your comment it’s very refreshing.
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duck off did she worry about putting pressure on the NHS. She’s such a smug goody 2 shoes. Or behaves like one even though we know she’s a snake who deletes negative comments.
 
tehpretty said:
I'm sorry for your struggle and am sending you strength.

Her "trigger warning" was all well and good but it upset me that it came at the END OF THE VIDEO. She faffed on for what felt like an hour before admitting that some people may not feel comfortable engaging with her content.
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This is my problem with the whole thing. It seemed to be thrown in as an afterthought and the fact that she felt that “sending positive vibes” was an appropriate way of addressing the point felt crass and insincere. It feels like yet another thing she has zero awareness of but felt the need to mention in her usual half arsed way, like the conversation her and Lily had around Sarah Everard’s death. I don’t think anyone is expecting her to start walking on eggshells (and personally I don’t really have an issue with the talk of how quickly she got pregnant) but she could at least try and be a bit more tactful. It’d be wise too if she doesn’t want to lose a ton of followers as her ENTIRE content is now all about pregnancy which I’m sure plenty of people have no interest in.
 
I don't have a problem with anyone getting pregnant quickly. I got pregnant on the second month of trying and I was dead happy about it. BUT Lily congratulated her and said she "nailed it". Awful awful thing to say. My best friend has just had a failed cycle of IVF. So did I "nail it" and she didn't? NO, I was incredibly lucky to get pregnant so easily and she wasn't. I haven't done better than her. It's an awful way to frame it.

I know that one of the things my friend struggled with was thinking she had failed in a basic female way. Attitudes like the above just add to that!

(Btw, I don't feel guilty for getting pregnant or putting pressure on the NHS. I do sometimes feel guilty if I moan too much when I know I could have had it worst.)
 
Anna is very protective of her baby, I mean which mother wouldn’t? :love::LOL:

She mentioned that because many people of her age group are pregnant, she is afraid that people will say ‘argh yet another one’ and she proceed to mention that ‘but that is our baby’. (Indicate some attention needed for her baby too) not too sure how to explain this though in writing. She is very very protective and territorial of her loved ones, like she mentioned that when she met Mark the first time, she said ‘he is mine’. Mark worked in a predominantly male environment, good that she never had to deal with jealousy issues

Is a raw side of her that she rarely shows on YT.

I am really waffling here!
 
Shutterbug99 said:
I thought it was typical Anna BS.

Same goes for her 'guilt' at not having morning sickness.
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Oh yes totally. I thought it was ridiculous martyrdom. It’s not like the midwives are being called away from treating covid patients. They are there for people giving birth. And you have every right to go on as normal and get pregnant during a pandemic.
Shes just trying to people please and not upset the internet to the most extreme degree.
 
Happy performative activism..uuh..earth day!
The perfect day for influencers to pretend like they give a tit about the environment as if they don't buy more fast fashion every single week only to never wear them again. Does she think her followers forgot all the new clothes, shoes and other junks she shills on IG literally every day???
 

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MoniC said:
Happy performative activism..uuh..earth day!
The perfect day for influencers to pretend like they give a tit about the environment as if they don't buy more fast fashion every single week only to never wear them again. Does she think her followers forgot all the new clothes, shoes and other junks she shills on IG literally every day???
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Anna be like 'but babe, I didn't shop fast fashion. I shop clothes that cost £300 and I have a capsule wardrobe remember?'
 
MoniC said:
Happy performative activism..uuh..earth day!
The perfect day for influencers to pretend like they give a tit about the environment as if they don't buy more fast fashion every single week only to never wear them again. Does she think her followers forgot all the new clothes, shoes and other junks she shills on IG literally every day???
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And on top of that, is doesn't help that it's a literal AD - If I were an influencer, I would feel embarrassed to be paid for literally an IG story relating to global issues and awareness days... She didn't even create *proper* content to justify it.
 
electraheartt said:
And on top of that, is doesn't help that it's a literal AD - If I were an influencer, I would feel embarrassed to be paid for literally an IG story relating to global issues and awareness days... She didn't even create *proper* content to justify it.
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True, all of these people were awfully quiet yesterday when it they could've used their platform for something positive and started shilling again this morning...says a lot I guess
 
electraheartt said:
And on top of that, is doesn't help that it's a literal AD - If I were an influencer, I would feel embarrassed to be paid for literally an IG story relating to global issues and awareness days... She didn't even create *proper* content to justify it.
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After the StudyTubers who accepted payment to promote Holocaust Memorial Day I’m finding it hard to be shocked about stuff like this. If you care about something, then talk about it and raise awareness, but if you’re just being paid to do so then STFU. Being paid to pretend to care is what escorts do, and at least they have the dignity to be honest about it.
 
CatCafe234 said:
After the StudyTubers who accepted payment to promote Holocaust Memorial Day I’m finding it hard to be shocked about stuff like this. If you care about something, then talk about it and raise awareness, but if you’re just being paid to do so then STFU. Being paid to pretend to care is what escorts do, and at least they have the dignity to be honest about it.
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Wow, who is this?
 
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