I do see what you’re saying, completely. I guess I was just thinking as a mum you’d put the argument aside and just be concerned about your child. They were both more focused on arguing and putting it on Instagram than actually sorting Harlow out. Again, it was only the poor little girl who suffered.
I don't think it was about the argument from Charlie's side. Maybe I'm being a bit biased because my baby's dad used to do this to me. When she was going through regression she'd scream, pinch, bite, scratch for hours before going to sleep. I think cry it out is horrendous so I'd never leave her, but even distracting her, dark room with music/white noise, singing, rocking, swaying, shushing, baby massage etc didn't work. She'd just wail regardless of what you did. I dealt with that 6 nights out of 7 without moaning, then on his night he'd ring me and tell me he's bringing her back because she won't settle. He was emotionally abusive and I worry a lot about my daughter (though I know she's safe and he is actually quite a good dad), so I'd take her back each time no problem, but she'd only come home and carry on the screaming and wailing with me. Babies don't isntantly settle because they're with their primary carer, and I assume (emphasis on assume) Charlie knew Harlow would come home and do the same so didn't feel it was productive to uproot her and bring her home.
Harlow has spent plenty of time overnight in that house and those surroundings and with those people. The chances that she was upset because she was at Brett's are low, babies just have bad days as adults do. Overtired, overstimulated, undertired, understimulated, feeling a bit poorly, teething, regressions, and simply having an "off day" can all play a part in them being unsettled, and being back with Charlie wouldn't be a magical fix, and if Charlie's dealing with it 5-6 nights out of 7 who are we to say she needs to deal with it on Brett's nights too? It's
bleeping hard. It's exhausting. It's mentally draining. It's heartbreaking and it's frustrating. And even more so when you're alone dealing with it. Brett has Jane to pass Harlow to if he needs a 10 minute breather, Charlie doesn't. I'm not defending Charlie. I'm defending mum's in general who deal with the same thing. And to make out she was in the wrong because she didn't pander to Brett not wanting to deal with it, is wrong. And I think the biggest issue here is that Brett wasn't even there trying to settle her or trying to fix anything. He was with Meth.
If Harlow wasnt safe In the travel cot, as I said, put her in your bed and sleep on the floor or a sofa. If your bed isn't safe, just chuck the mattress on the floor and cuddle up with her for one night and sort it properly in the morning. It's that simple. But that wasn't his problem. His problem is that he didn't want to leave his new piece.
I loved you winding up the Brett cart fan club 
i got no doubt it's because brett wanted to keep his friday nights free
