Teddy Toff

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Flowerpotgirl

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TikTock suggested her to me, and I have done a deep dive for some reason. I think her mental health struggles really resonate with me. Lately however, I have been feeling like she really is causing a lot of her misery herself, and I feel terrible for her parents. It seems like she has never worked, and that isnt helpful for an addict who needs less free time. Now she is an inpatient and is online a lot, and taking a lot of flack for it. So I am back to feeling sad for her.
I dont know that anyone else will have even seen her, but I was just checking.
 
I follow her. Silently. She’s just has the most awful time, her pregnancy seemed so terribly sad and it seemed like hospital was the only place to keep her safe.
Now I feel like there is a bigger picture going on, we’ve seen her parents visit and now today a post asking us not to ask about family?
Sitting on TikTok in a mental health hospital can’t be helpful?!
 
bella79 said:
I follow her. Silently. She’s just has the most awful time, her pregnancy seemed so terribly sad and it seemed like hospital was the only place to keep her safe.
Now I feel like there is a bigger picture going on, we’ve seen her parents visit and now today a post asking us not to ask about family?
Sitting on TikTok in a mental health hospital can’t be helpful?!
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It’s all super confusing to me.
she has said she was living in a house with her ex husband, even though they are no longer married. But then she talks about being in an abusive relationship for the last 4 years-whom I figured must be the father of the baby. She said she was sexually assaulted by him and that’s why she left.
Then she became homeless somehow, and was living in hotels. But was running out of money and didn’t know where she was going to go next.
Then she was saying she was having an operation where she would no longer be pregnant, which I thought meant an abortion. But now I wonder if the baby had died and was having to be taken. Her mom came up to be with her.
The next thing I saw, she was in the mental hospital after throwing herself off a cliff.
I can’t even imagine what her family has been through with all this. Heroin, crack, alcohol.
And her parents had just been there for her birthday, which doesn’t seem long ago, but now they don’t talk to her?
I am glad she is somewhere that she can’t use, and that keeps her safe. She is a tortured soul and I don’t even know what the answers are anymore. She must be so hopeless
 
I think relationships with family are particularly complicated when managing mental health at times.
I also feel that Teddy has just been left in a hospital where she has not had any therapeutic input for a significant period of time which cannot be helpful, so she’s using social media to get some of her needs met.
So sad. She seems a nice person who has had literal tit thrown at them whilst she acknowledges her own part in it as well. I hope she gets moved soon
 
bella79 said:
I think relationships with family are particularly complicated when managing mental health at times.
I also feel that Teddy has just been left in a hospital where she has not had any therapeutic input for a significant period of time which cannot be helpful, so she’s using social media to get some of her needs met.
So sad. She seems a nice person who has had literal tit thrown at them whilst she acknowledges her own part in it as well. I hope she gets moved soon
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I can’t even imagine what her family has been through over the years. She started having issues at 14 she said. So that’s at least half her life. I am glad she has people online to keep her engaged. I can’t imagine having nothing to do all day, every day. It would leave nothing to do but think about how bad everything is and has been.
I hope they manage to get her a placement too. She said it was going to be like £700,000 and so that is obviously a significant amount of money to the health services for one persons treatment. She is so lovely, I am glad she is at a facility where she is safe, and it appears to be nice. I am glad she can order takeout to be delivered too. That’s a bright spot!
 
Flowerpotgirl said:
I can’t even imagine what her family has been through over the years. She started having issues at 14 she said. So that’s at least half her life. I am glad she has people online to keep her engaged. I can’t imagine having nothing to do all day, every day. It would leave nothing to do but think about how bad everything is and has been.
I hope they manage to get her a placement too. She said it was going to be like £700,000 and so that is obviously a significant amount of money to the health services for one persons treatment. She is so lovely, I am glad she is at a facility where she is safe, and it appears to be nice. I am glad she can order takeout to be delivered too. That’s a bright spot!
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£700000?????!!! Where the heck is she meant to be going?!!!!
 
bella79 said:
£700000?????!!! Where the heck is she meant to be going?!!!!
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This is a good question. And for how long? I was shocked at the amount needed too-no wonder the finding part takes a long time to come through. Its such a shame that it all comes
down to money. I always had the feeling her parents were well off. I don’t ever remember seeing her say she worked. Maybe I just missed that part?
 
I know how expensive placements are. She needs some decent therapy, however I’m unsure if therapy costs that much? Surely over the past year of her being in hospital, it would have been pertinent to introduce some trauma therapy whilst she’s in there, rather than just letting her make TikTok’s?
 
bella79 said:
I know how expensive placements are. She needs some decent therapy, however I’m unsure if therapy costs that much? Surely over the past year of her being in hospital, it would have been pertinent to introduce some trauma therapy whilst she’s in there, rather than just letting her make TikTok’s?
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thats what I dont understand at all. How can they have done no therapy? she has a lot of issues-surely some therapy could be done, even if it isnt emdr. And that isnt a guaranteed therapy anyway. I hope she is feeling helped by being substance and alcohol free and being kept safe.
 
Flowerpotgirl said:
thats what I dont understand at all. How can they have done no therapy? she has a lot of issues-surely some therapy could be done, even if it isnt emdr. And that isnt a guaranteed therapy anyway. I hope she is feeling helped by being substance and alcohol free and being kept safe.
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I agree. EMDR could have been a start - she says it’s all trauma related and she has DID which we know stems from trauma. It could be helping.
I hope she gets the helps she wants and needs soon
 
bella79 said:
I agree. EMDR could have been a start - she says it’s all trauma related and she has DID which we know stems from trauma. It could be helping.
I hope she gets the helps she wants and needs soon
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Me too. She seems to be implying she was sa’d as a young person and that trauma seems to be how the DID started
 
I don’t want to sound callous but many people have experienced childhood trauma and SA but don’t have the opportunity for that significant sum of money to be spent on their therapy!!!
 
bella79 said:
I don’t want to sound callous but many people have experienced childhood trauma and SA but don’t have the opportunity for that significant sum of money to be spent on their therapy!!!
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This is where I struggle with her a bit too. So many people would be thankful to be given a place to have therapy, and so that amount for one person staying in-patient sees excessive.. And for how long is that placement? She has almost been a year in her current spot with 2 24 hour a day carers. That cant be cheap- I bet a lot of people would love that opportunity too! She has been kept safe and sober by force, I cant imagine her being sober that long without being forced. I bet her parents wont pay for a flat for her now.

Also-thank you for discussing this with me!!! I dont know anyone who follows her irl!!!
 
I really like her. I started following her way before she got sectioned, she did alot of really good stuff raising awareness about addiction. The whole time I wanted to reach out and give her a hug. She clearly has troubles and I really hope she gets on the path to recovery - our mental health services aren't great and can't help but think her being inpatient with no proper help isn't doing her any favours which I think leads to her getting more distressed. I do believe social media can be abit of a curse when it comes to mental health though especially when she's vulnerable and may not be posting things which are helpful to her.
 
Renegade121 said:
I really like her. I started following her way before she got sectioned, she did alot of really good stuff raising awareness about addiction. The whole time I wanted to reach out and give her a hug. She clearly has troubles and I really hope she gets on the path to recovery - our mental health services aren't great and can't help but think her being inpatient with no proper help isn't doing her any favours which I think leads to her getting more distressed. I do believe social media can be abit of a curse when it comes to mental health though especially when she's vulnerable and may not be posting things which are helpful to her.
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It’s awful that there isn’t any therapy going on for her after all this time being sectioned. I hope in the new year they manage to sort something out that is more solid and beneficial. I wish there was some way we could help besides sending things from her Amazon wish list.
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KittyScherbatsky said:
She’s just posted about this thread on her insta story…
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I hope she knows we support her and don’t mean any malice
 
I saw her post which lead me here which feels a very odd choice to me. She says she doesn't want others to discuss her life but yet she leads us to the place it's being discussed...
I would hate people poking around in my life and my personal business, hence why I don't make a way for others to do so 🤷🏼‍♀️

Hate me all you want, but I definitely feel some of her content glamorises being in a mental health facility. She says that isn't the intent but it definitely comes across that way to me.
 
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