Tania Alexis/Tania Pomroy

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I remember a video where she tidied the house having left it as it was for a while after Charlie passed away. She moved a yoga mat so I wonder whether she had a heart condition that she didn’t know about perhaps or maybe even fell and hit her head. I think it may have been in front of the fireplace.
 
It is just so sad especially with the two of them being so young and newly married as well when it happened. I watched a video of them buying jellycats a week before Charlie died and they seemed to be a very happy couple. I do hope that Tania is getting support especially due to lots of people in real life, not knowing how to deal with grief and they tend to shrink away after a certain time. I don't know if there are many resources for young widows and LGBTQ individuals (this is partly me thinking for myself and other people as well).

She does seem to be on autopilot and she must have some PTSD from Charlie passing away at home, especially as she posted a tiktok the day before and they were just watching telly and Charlie was on the yoga mat and things seemed to be normal. My heart really feels for Tania as she does seem to be a lovely girl.
 
She/they came up a few times on my feed and I watched as thought it was very sweet when they married etc, I guessed there must have been a reason they eloped rather than make it a family and friends thing. My Daughter has an amazing wife and we have an amazing Daughter in law, we had struggles at first but we accepted our Daughter was gay and arranged a beautiful wedding full of family and friends, I felt sad if maybe they didn’t have that acceptance or maybe they just wanted a quiet affair, who knows. It’s terribly sad how happiness turned to the unthinkable after only being married a short while. What I can’t get my head round though is the over sharing and then getting uptight when someone asks, because of course some people may have not always followed her and think maybe she said what happened. It’s sad enough and I could never imagine setting up a camera to then film yourself practically acting out something that is meant to appear natural, as if a fly on the wall, sometimes I feel like its baiting people to ask. She says it’s all very private but then why the constant sharing of snippets and little teasers. I can’t imagine what she is going through but I do find the way she films her content very odd.
 
I’ve been watching Tania on and off for a while now and my heart just absolutely breaks for her. I don’t think she has fully processed what has happened yet and like others have said seems to be on autopilot atm. I’m glad she has some support around her (her nieces, friends, brother/sister) although she has alluded to the fact that not everyone has been very supportive. Just feel so sad for her whenever I see her videos. I do understand people asking how Charley died, a lot of people may come across her videos for the first time and assume the answer is already out there. People are naturally curious. However I have seen some people be incredibly rude whenever Tania/someone else has replied saying she’s not sharing the details, which isn’t acceptable. I think sadly it was a case of an unknown heart condition or other illness that Charley wasn’t aware of. I do think she looked very frail and young in some of Tania’s videos, but it may be that she was very naturally skinny. I hope Tania eventually seeks professional support as she’s been through something very traumatic.
 
Popsock123 said:
see I think she uploads as this is now gonna be her job
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Possibly. I suppose her content could be helpful to people who’ve been bereaved though. They’ve both been vlogging for years, Tania has a Youtube channel which she doesn’t really upload much to anymore, and I did read someone saying that they remembered Charley from YouTube so I presume she had one as well. I get what the previous poster means about her looking frail though, she was very, very skinny but was also very sporty. I assume it was sudden adult death, and there’s usually not a reason for it. I’ve known of a few young people who passed in a similar way seemingly for no reason.
 
sparklingdee said:
she said she has money in her tiktok account but hasn't withdrawn it as she was worried about the whole self employed side of things

hopefully she can make money from tiktok now and not have to go back to a regular 9-5
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She will probably owe tax regardless of whether she withdraws the money. I think TikTok have to report all money earned so she should probably do her research in case she gets a letter.
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I think it’s a strange thing really. I agree with the comments about being asked about how Charley died. I think people are naturally curious and also wary of how they respond because how I respond to someone who is grieving is dependent on the circumstances to a certain extent, for example.
She is also setting up the camera to film certain vulnerable moments which appears performative. I can understand when she is talking to the camera and gets upset, but setting up the camera gives a different appearance. It will be interesting to see where her content goes and whether she evolves into TikTok shop or brand deals. I think she is good at YouTube, but it’s a bittersweet way to make money. 😬
 
MsGilmore said:
She will probably owe tax regardless of whether she withdraws the money. I think TikTok have to report all money earned so she should probably do her research in case she gets a letter.
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I think it’s a strange thing really. I agree with the comments about being asked about how Charley died. I think people are naturally curious and also wary of how they respond because how I respond to someone who is grieving is dependent on the circumstances to a certain extent, for example.
She is also setting up the camera to film certain vulnerable moments which appears performative. I can understand when she is talking to the camera and gets upset, but setting up the camera gives a different appearance. It will be interesting to see where her content goes and whether she evolves into TikTok shop or brand deals. I think she is good at YouTube, but it’s a bittersweet way to make money. 😬
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I'm glad this thread is here, I seemed to start seeing her videos only like a week before her wife died, I know we all grieve differently but I'm not convinced the use of tiktok was the best placed initiative for her so soon after death (I thi k she was posting days after her death). It seems to me that she is still not coping, she is very distressed, and appears to be alone a lot.

I saw a recent video where she checked into a hotel because she couldn't bare to be at home. That's just gutting. But then she started going on about the free room upgrade and I caught myself wondering if this was an advert? I feel terrible for saying that out loud, but that's where my mind went.
 
I can well believe she’s struggling with living in the house that not only did she once share with Charley but that she died in. A very similar thing happened in my family and they have also struggled with the house because that’s where my relative collapsed and died, in particular the room they collapsed in. It’s definitely a thing. They are trying to work around it by completely redecorating and making it look different, I wonder if Tania would consider that? She said that she couldn’t move in with her family which is sad, I wonder how supportive they’ve really been? I know her sister has but what about her parents?
 
Gym&Tonic said:
I can well believe she’s struggling with living in the house that not only did she once share with Charley but that she died in. A very similar thing happened in my family and they have also struggled with the house because that’s where my relative collapsed and died, in particular the room they collapsed in. It’s definitely a thing. They are trying to work around it by completely redecorating and making it look different, I wonder if Tania would consider that? She said that she couldn’t move in with her family which is sad, I wonder how supportive they’ve really been? I know her sister has but what about her parents?
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this also happened to us, a young relative (35) had an accident at home and was found by his parents. The person who inherited the house immediately put it on the market, couldnt bare having it anymore. Obviously far more difficult if it was shared by a spouse though...
 
I’ve never got the impression that she is close to her family. They would go out for meals for birthdays, but that seemed to be it. But then she showed herself giving a Mother’s Day card to her mum from Charley.
It’s uncomfortable to watch her crying on camera knowing that she is alone whilst being so distressed. I do think she will need therapy at some point, but I guess it depends how bad things get or if she ever feels ready.
 
Ive always got the vibe she only has contact with her Mum and wasn't that close with her, one time she said "my Mum and her boyfriend" I think.
She said she was able to pay off some of the house, so I guess she feels like at the moment she should stay there as at least her payments are probably fairly low and manageable. If she moves she's going to start paying solicitors, stamp duty etc etc.
 
MsGilmore said:
She will probably owe tax regardless of whether she withdraws the money. I think TikTok have to report all money earned so she should probably do her research in case she gets a letter.
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I think it’s a strange thing really. I agree with the comments about being asked about how Charley died. I think people are naturally curious and also wary of how they respond because how I respond to someone who is grieving is dependent on the circumstances to a certain extent, for example.
She is also setting up the camera to film certain vulnerable moments which appears performative. I can understand when she is talking to the camera and gets upset, but setting up the camera gives a different appearance. It will be interesting to see where her content goes and whether she evolves into TikTok shop or brand deals. I think she is good at YouTube, but it’s a bittersweet way to make money. 😬
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I think she’s right about the people who respond rudely to her when she says she won’t share the cause of death but she and the others making videos about her are wrong when they judge people for asking. All her content right now is about her wife’s death - you can’t expect to make money off of it but also have no questions about it and especially with the way algorithms work meaning every single video will be the first time some people have seen her and they won’t know she’s said before she’s not answering. There’s also something inherently off about being willing to film yourself crying and post it publicly but get offended when people ask questions about the reason you’re crying (eg her wife’s death).

I also agree that it sounds like she’s setting herself up for a massive tax headache. It doesn’t matter whether or not you’ve spent it if you’ve earned it, it has to be declared - and HMRC don’t give a tit if you’re grieving.
 
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