Not that I want to defend Susan here (boak), but she has addressed her cancelling events by saying she was suffering from anxiety. And I know this can be one of the symptoms of anxiety because I’ve been through this with a couple of friends who would always say they were going to come to whatever was planned but cancel at the last minute. One of them put a post on Facebook with all the ways anxiety can present itself and cancelling plans/being flakey was one of them. She said ‘this is me’ and I have to say I felt awful for getting annoyed at her about it. I had no idea. I thought she was just really unreliable and a bit of a liar for saying she’d come when she had no real intention to. I know now that wasn’t the case.
Anyway I’m getting off track here, just to say I’m sure that can’t be easy to deal with. But I do think Susan’s superiority complex and feelings of entitlement do stem from her lack of confidence and low self esteem and they probably cause feelings of anxiety too. Not that I’m a psychologist or anything!
Of course, none of this excuses her racism or ableism or her being a condescending idiot. She’s still vile in my eyes but I don’t doubt she suffers from anxiety.