Yes!!! I think he's a harmless lad (he actually seems nice enough just has a bit of foot in mouth syndrome) and I don't think he deserves to be used by the show in this way! If he's comfortable with it I'll be happy and forget all about it. It's up to him if he's happy with it all and I'm sure that will be evident on Saturday in their performance.
I can't see how he won't cry tbh, even if he hasn't fully processed things an event like this will stir up emotions in unexpected ways.
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Well if anyone does that their brain-dead. She was an ignorant person, she admitted that and died young. Anyone who uses her racist past against her son can get fucked.