I don't think he cares about "stuff" as much as she does though. She has all the racks and racks of clothes, and seasonal ones in storage, and he has his 1.5 foot length of wardrobe rail and a little shelf space above (in the kitchen, if I remember correctly, because the bedroom wardrobe is full of her stuff
) - which sounds shocking but I'd say he couldn't give a
tit. He's easygoing - probably to his detriment.
Honestly they remind me of so many couples I knew in college. One partner of the couple is a bit unreasonable - high maintenance, demanding, moany etc, but gets away with it because they're a bit of a queen bee - and the other is quieter, the giver in the relationship, feels lucky to have the other party. They've been together for a long time and there's an established balance of power in the relationship. But after college and as people settle into the real world things change and these couples gradually grow out of each other and drop off. The most interesting thing for me is the longer the relationship goes on before the inevitable breakup, the faster the Tommy in the equation will find a new partner who actually appreciates him, settle down and start a family and live happily ever after, with enough wardrobe space to add a new jacket if he feels like it, without being berated
Now maybe they're perfectly happy together and will remain so, and if that's the case I'm delighted for them. But there's a pattern there that's hard to unsee.