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Something that get me although disclaimer I do like watching the putting away shopping videos 😂 why is it always top up shops?
It seems like every shop is a top up shop so does she ever do a main shop🤪
For me I do a main shop every week which is the large £100 one then top up shops are never more than £5

I know this is really pedantic I just don't get it lol
 
Witchtits said:
Oh well, far worse things in the world than having kids. She seems like a good mum, so why not? As for the dads I really couldn't care less how many men someone has kids with, it doesn't make a difference really does it?
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'so why not?'

That's exactly what's wrong with the country. People popping out kids one after another and then not working or contributing to the society that we live in. Instead just claiming benefit after benefit.

She seems like a good mum? As someone mentioned above, we see a whole 60 seconds of her putting food away and cleaning her tiny flat. This is where you see a good mum, this is where I see an immature girl who has squeezed 4 kids into a tiny flat, can't afford to live at the best of times and isn't really setting a good example or being a good role model to those children in many ways, example being - 4 kids to 4 diff dad's at a young age with none of them around and 2. Wasting money when she could put it to good use

So what real role model is she being to those children now? Showing that it's ok to have loads of kids and not work?

So, what is she gonna bring them kids to believe? Not working and then begging for strangers on the internet to buy you a bed...
 
sadoldtroll said:
Yes the bare minimum is feeding, clothing and brushing their teeth and hair. Washing their clothes. That’s parenting. Not “good” parenting.
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Exactly; I don't understand how people can decide someone's a good parent from watching 30 seconds of them doing the bare minimum.

A good parent brings their children up right and builds them to be a good person and for a good strong future.
 
Here’s some perspective for those who say multiple fathers isn’t an issue. Now before I go on, I don’t mean if your relationship breaks down and you move on and have children with someone else, that unfortunately happens. I mean careless mothers who open their legs to anyone. Anyway disclaimer over..

My ‘mother’ if you can call her that has 3 children. 3.5 years between eldest and youngest. First 2 are with the same dad, youngest (me) different dad. I’m basically a rebound child 🤷🏻‍♀️ Now both my parents have been an issue my whole life but that’s not the point, the point is I watched my siblings have a great relationship with their father (and they still do) whilst I had nothing and still do. It’s so isolating. It messes you up as a kid and more so as an adult when you begin to understand life more. Growing up without a dad (or mum) is horrific and you often feel envious of other families.

She can be the best mum in the whole world but if a parent doesn’t want or care about you, it fucks you up. She has been so careless to have so many children with 4 different people and I can only hope that they all grow up happy.
 
Bec3007 said:
Here’s some perspective for those who say multiple fathers isn’t an issue. Now before I go on, I don’t mean if your relationship breaks down and you move on and have children with someone else, that unfortunately happens. I mean careless mothers who open their legs to anyone. Anyway disclaimer over..

My ‘mother’ if you can call her that has 3 children. 3.5 years between eldest and youngest. First 2 are with the same dad, youngest (me) different dad. I’m basically a rebound child 🤷🏻‍♀️ Now both my parents have been an issue my whole life but that’s not the point, the point is I watched my siblings have a great relationship with their father (and they still do) whilst I had nothing and still do. It’s so isolating. It messes you up as a kid and more so as an adult when you begin to understand life more. Growing up without a dad (or mum) is horrific and you often feel envious of other families.

She can be the best mum in the whole world but if a parent doesn’t want or care about you, it fucks you up. She has been so careless to have so many children with 4 different people and I can only hope that they all grow up happy.
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Just to add to this from my point of view. I met my sons dad, we chatted for a bit but was long distance so never any chance of anything proper. He was back in the area again and he wined and dined me and after a 5 min fumble I ended up pregnant (the one and only time he ever touched me). He chose not to be involved and we never had a row about it, I couldn’t force him and what kind of a dad would he be if it was forced? Anyway… since then he has gone on to have a further 3 children with 3 other women, I seemed to set off some sort of chain reaction 🤦🏼‍♀️. My son has a brother 4 months younger than him. He is involved with the other 3 because they aren’t long distance, so he doesn’t need to put the effort in in regards to spending time with them.

I have two older children from ex hubby who has them once a fortnight. My son is old enough to understand what a Dad is and that my girls have a Dad, he went through a phase of calling him ‘Daddy’ and asked me a couple of times if his Dad is picking him up 💔. My Son is only a year or so away from really understanding this whole situation which makes me sick to my stomach. Not only is he missing a Dad, grandparents, uncles and cousins he will one day realise that his Dad raised 3 other children but not him because of ‘distance’. I feel guilty, I feel incredibly sad and I feel very angry. Yes my son is well looked after, yes he couldn’t feel any more love than he already does, he wants for absolutely nothing but will this situation affect him? Hell yes it will and all I can do is hope and pray he doesn’t blame me in any way, realise his dad is a bell end who doesn’t deserve my Son and make sure I NEVER allow this situation to happen again.
 
DownBelow21 said:
'so why not?'

That's exactly what's wrong with the country. People popping out kids one after another and then not working or contributing to the society that we live in. Instead just claiming benefit after benefit.

She seems like a good mum? As someone mentioned above, we see a whole 60 seconds of her putting food away and cleaning her tiny flat. This is where you see a good mum, this is where I see an immature girl who has squeezed 4 kids into a tiny flat, can't afford to live at the best of times and isn't really setting a good example or being a good role model to those children in many ways, example being - 4 kids to 4 diff dad's at a young age with none of them around and 2. Wasting money when she could put it to good use

So what real role model is she being to those children now? Showing that it's ok to have loads of kids and not work?

So, what is she gonna bring them kids to believe? Not working and then begging for strangers on the internet to buy you a bed...
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But you have zero clue what she does or has done to contribute? You really are very naive if you think that she is what is wrong with this country, what a an amazing little bubble you live in.

Can't afford to live yet her home is clean, her kids are warm, fed and dressed and she has a car, what do you mean she can't afford to live? Also she has just came into inheritance which means she will no longer be receiving benefits.

What role model is she? One who's stuck around for her children, put clothes on their back and brought them up? Maybe it's the dads people should really be slandering on here, instead of a load of misogynistic women coming for another woman. If you want to speak about role models what kind of role model do you think you are? Your views are crazy, if you're bringing your children up this way then they're screwed and will be naive, narrow minded and a bully like yourself

sadoldtroll said:
Sorry but I disagree. Part of being a good parent is ensuring stability and routine and grounding.

Does anyone really think a child born into a 4 kids to 4 dads in a 2 bed home situation has any of the above?

You guys are seeing this girl washing bottles, give her kids a few strawberries and drop them at nursery and praising her for being a good mum 😆 the bar is LOW. ..you’re not seeing how much work she puts in for getting these men
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Yes I don't remember bedrooms ever coming into to stability and routine? Where are you getting these facts from.

So you're slating her for seeing these things? Where's your bar at? Why do you expect to see so much? What we do see is good, so what do you want people to say? People always say you see 60 seconds etc, but why are you all assuming that the rest of the time is awful? So weird, tattle makes you all paranoid
 
Witchtits said:
But you have zero clue what she does or has done to contribute? You really are very naive if you think that she is what is wrong with this country, what a an amazing little bubble you live in.

Can't afford to live yet her home is clean, her kids are warm, fed and dressed and she has a car, what do you mean she can't afford to live? Also she has just came into inheritance which means she will no longer be receiving benefits.

What role model is she? One who's stuck around for her children, put clothes on their back and brought them up? Maybe it's the dads people should really be slandering on here, instead of a load of misogynistic women coming for another woman. If you want to speak about role models what kind of role model do you think you are? Your views are crazy, if you're bringing your children up this way then they're screwed and will be naive, narrow minded and a bully like yourself

Yes I don't remember bedrooms ever coming into to stability and routine? Where are you getting these facts from.

So you're slating her for seeing these things? Where's your bar at? Why do you expect to see so much? What we do see is good, so what do you want people to say? People always say you see 60 seconds etc, but why are you all assuming that the rest of the time is awful? So weird, tattle makes you all paranoid
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What she has done or what she hasn't done to contribute? Not very much judging by her age and the constant popping kids out. She has no time to work because she's pregnant literally months after the last one has fell out.

Oh I think there's plenty wrong with this country, just people constantly bringing more and more children into the world when they're already struggling is definitely on that list :) You can see the inheritance is basically being pissed up the wall and won't last long. Plenty of people have observed this. When the money runs out, she will be fucked as benefits etc will of stopped. Is that setting a good example to her children? Live off benefits, but when you come into money you can spend all you like... Then it runs out. Then the circle continues as your back on your arse and will probably have to beg for gifts on tiktok so you can get a bed. Hmmmm. Good way to live that. Very ambitious.

As for you mentioning that she cleans, clothes and feeds her children - that's a mums job. All it shows is at least her children aren't neglected. But, this doesn't define a good mum. A good mum wouldn't keep on having children whilst living in a tiny 2 bedroomed flat where it's already a squeeze. What's going to be next? She keeps popping the Av's out and there's 8 of them sharing a bedroom? It's ridiculous.

Just because she films 30 second videos of her cleaning her house doesn't make her an amazing mum. Bloody hell, she's probably shagging the rest of the hours when her children are at school!

Not a bully either - I just have very high standards :)
 
sadoldtroll said:
Nobody has said it isn’t the dads problem? But your mother of the year made the same mistake of having children outside a stable relationship FOUR times.

And no, you don’t see her tik toks on that side.

POV you are ovulating and kids are in bed, so -blow up your living room air bed for a quickie with a deadbeat with me
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POV - it's time for the youngest AV to go to nursery and it's time for you to get a job... quick... invite someone round to your free sofa bed for a quickie 😂 :rolleyes:

The sofa bed will be knackered from the action and she'll probs need a new one gifted
 
DownBelow21 said:
What she has done or what she hasn't done to contribute? Not very much judging by her age and the constant popping kids out. She has no time to work because she's pregnant literally months after the last one has fell out.

Oh I think there's plenty wrong with this country, just people constantly bringing more and more children into the world when they're already struggling is definitely on that list :) You can see the inheritance is basically being pissed up the wall and won't last long. Plenty of people have observed this. When the money runs out, she will be fucked as benefits etc will of stopped. Is that setting a good example to her children? Live off benefits, but when you come into money you can spend all you like... Then it runs out. Then the circle continues as your back on your arse and will probably have to beg for gifts on tiktok so you can get a bed. Hmmmm. Good way to live that. Very ambitious.

As for you mentioning that she cleans, clothes and feeds her children - that's a mums job. All it shows is at least her children aren't neglected. But, this doesn't define a good mum. A good mum wouldn't keep on having children whilst living in a tiny 2 bedroomed flat where it's already a squeeze. What's going to be next? She keeps popping the Av's out and there's 8 of them sharing a bedroom? It's ridiculous.

Just because she films 30 second videos of her cleaning her house doesn't make her an amazing mum. Bloody hell, she's probably shagging the rest of the hours when her children are at school!

Not a bully either - I just have very high standards :)
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All she’s done so far is splash the cash on things she does not need. Same with her food shops. I don’t grudge anyone a treat but there’s a literal crisis right now that she would most definitely fall under if it wasn’t for the inheritance and what does she buy? Those crappy glass bottles of Starbucks drinks. As I say nothing wrong with a treat but I think most working households would just stick to instant coffee because it’s all the can afford.
 
Can’t find the post to quote but actually bedrooms and stability are needed for childhood.

My degree involved researching into poverty (I’m not saying she’s in poverty) BUT children who didn’t have enough space growing up , as in their own space to study eg was found to be linked to poor attainment at school, obviously amongst other things, but living in cramped conditions is actually linked to other problems. This is not about children sharing rooms, more the fact she’s got so many kids in a living place clearly not big enough.

She literally does what every mother should do, well a decent one.

But she’s not relatable - I don’t know anyone who has that many baby daddies , and I’m from a working class area!
 
hol20x said:
Someone bought her the blow up bed from her Amazon wish list, she said it broke, then she begged for money for the sofa bed. Now she has a DFS sofa!
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Omg that sofa bed crippled my back looking at it.id rather of stayed on a blow up.dont know why she doesn't get a double bed bunk so she can have a double bed for herself and share with daughter she's young enough
 
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