People don't get it: if you are assaulted by a stranger, in some ways it is easier to rationalise it as being really unlucky, in the wrong place at the wrong time... but grooming is insidious because it destroys your ability to trust other people. Often abuse victims become more prone to being victims because of the grooming/psychological manipulation, and are abused by more people. Then to recover from that, you have to re-learn what healthy boundaries are. It completely fucks with people's heads.