- Of course the text exchange also showed loving messages. That’s a typical abusive relationship, it’s not all bad. But 4 times in 4 months is quite a lot. They were in the honeymoon period, if he was starting controlling behaviour already that shows a lot IMO.
- I guess we only have his word for that, and it would be arguable either way.
- I don’t know the layout of his bedroom but logic dictates that if you turned away from the bed to move the fans you’d have to turn back to face the bed to leave the room. It would be impossible his bed was that big he couldn’t see the full bed.
- She had her phone with her, so if he was shouting and she hid why was there no evidence of her attempting to call the police?
- Where she was indicates they were having a conversation. If you were hiding from an intruder human nature dictates you wouldn’t be stood against the door, you would hide further back.
- The expert in court said the injuries to Reeva showed after the first shot she started to fall down and the other shots hit her as she was falling. Therefore they could tell there was a delay between the first shot at the rest. So she would have cried out, you don’t get your hip blasted off and remain silent. So he had to know it was her, the continued to shoot.
It’s an interesting one isn’t it. Good to see the different views and potential ways people would’ve acted on the night.
Thank you, this is more argumentative and not hostile.
But two comments I also debated:
- The way she stood could also indicate that she might have been alert and listening to see if there was an intruder.
- The gap between the first shot and the other shots has been mentioned, but one expert also said that after being shot in the hip with exploding ammunition the impact and pain results in shock and so the victim collapses but doesn’t scream straight away due to the shock.
You haven’t answered my questions but I won’t press you on them
You seem to just want to fight your point that there is a very very slim chance that there *might* be another point of view. That’s the point of a debate - you’ve put forward your point of view and people are responding why they disagree. Then you complain about there being other points of view and people can’t see them. If you’re not persuading people to your way of thinking then it’s either that you’re not arguing your opinion very well, or your opinion has no merit.
You sort of did defend DA - you said he apologised and explained his way of thinking. Oh well that makes it ok then? You can control and abuse me but you’ve explained why and apologised? His responses after were irrelevant, he still did the incidents outlined in her messages, therefore is an abuser.
In terms of the link, you provided it when people were commenting on how well Reeva’s family had handled the situation (rightly so). You were clearly insinuating something or why else would you put it? What relevance was it to the discussion?
„People are responding why they disagree“: HOW did they respond? You provided arguments, but who else? I recall accusations of defending an abuser, asking whether the earth is flat, referring To excrements etc.
In what way am a not respecting your opinion?
Sorry, I didn’t defend DA. They clearly argued and Oscar seemed needy and difficult but it has not even been proven that there was DA. It was demonstrated that there were argument.
Again: I said he apologized, but I didn’t say that this would excuse it. I was just providing further information.
And you will find that these kind of petty quarrels due to jealousy are quite frequent in relationships.
I provided the link showing the parents accepted money to provide information. Maybe the parents acted in a certain way as they received money and they were restricted in what they could say due to the payments.
Is it normal that a killer makes voluntary payments to the parents of his victim? I don’t know, I haven’t heard of it before.
I feel like I need to re-iterate what I said because people put words in my mouth that I never said or state something that is not true.
Yes, it would be much easier to simply say “Ok, I just leave it and let them think what they want”, but I don’t accept this behavior. One one side they say ”Reeva was verbally abused“, but they don’t see that they do the same here.
I am also entitled to stand up for myself.