One Day of Winter

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Noname123

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Hiya,

I know there are a few people who really want a thread on One Day of Winter but no one so far has set one up.

If this isn’t allowed then fine but the topics are absolutely nothing to do with what happened to her beautiful son, Winter or how she has helped raise awareness for baby loss.

This is a thread about how much of a preachy instamum she has become with her “gentle parenting” and her tedious breast feeding stories.

Thoughts?
 
YES. I’ve commented about her on another thread. I used to really like her feed but now it is literally just pictures of her daughter accompanied by long boring captions about how much of a perfect parent she is.
Even when she talks about her ‘struggles’ with parenting I just don’t find it very genuine and feel she only throws that in to seem more relatable.
Don’t get me wrong she seems like a lovely girl but her page is just boring now. She used to seem so... colourful and fun!
 
Oh yes, I saw something where the little girl had broken something and she said she wouldn’t tell her off, I understood the sentiment but she presented it so badly and it was in the long list of preachiness that I unfollowed. Which is disappointing as I supported her, bought the wolf print tops she collaborated with, my children were also born and spent time in derby nicu. I’ll always be sad about what happened to winter but my relatability ends there with her. I wish her well, but I wouldn’t sit by her at soft play!
 
I think her gentle style worked until Raven became more aware that she can do anything she bleeping wants and get away with it.

Her as a parent ‘It’s so nurturing letting Raven throw pasta and flour everywhere, look at her thrive’

Us normal parents ‘No no no no no no no no no’

I hate when people say my little wilding, no your child is just a little tit 😂 she’s going to be so naughty when she grows up.
 
I just find her gentle parenting ethos really at odds with her child being filmed and/or photographed every single day. I have unfollowed but literally, not a day practically has gone by since she was born that she hasn’t been shown. Oh I know it’s ‘only a few minutes a day’ but still, does Raven not deserve some privacy? And not to have a phone in her face while she plays?
 
I know a lady who parents her little girl the way she parents raven. She’s just started school with my daughter and she’s so naughty and just cries and tantrums all the time. Can’t even enjoy going to the park with her friends as she’s now so overwhelmed with having rules and boundaries. It’s really sad and a crappy way to parent
 
CelinaRoger said:
I know a lady who parents her little girl the way she parents raven. She’s just started school with my daughter and she’s so naughty and just cries and tantrums all the time. Can’t even enjoy going to the park with her friends as she’s now so overwhelmed with having rules and boundaries. It’s really sad and a crappy way to parent
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I don’t think she will send Raven to school. I think she will home school her so she wouldn’t have these pressures and she can continue to breastfeed her into her teens.
 
I remember watching a story of Raven refusing to get into her car seat and Pea was videoing her from the outside whilst she tantrumed. I was actually thinking she’s going to allow her not to sit in it. But she did, thank god. But it goes to show, every other one of her ‘tactics’ is giving her what she wants. It’s not a good way to start, you’re setting them up for a fall. As life isn’t about getting everything you want.
 
I’m a bereaved parent so initially followed her account as what she wrote about grief and baby loss in particular really resonated.

This was until one day when she made some point which i Felt uncomfortable about, it was quite condescending and when I commented, it was a patronising response - almost along the lines that she was the only person able to articulate what losing a baby felt like.

I stuck with her account for a wee while but being beaten over the head with all the ‘gentle parenting’ nonsense was too much. It was sanctimonious and I felt she was playing the martyr.

I can say as a bereaved parent that of course each milestone with a living child has a stab of pain, and I feel my experience of loss has made me consciously take stock and appreciate what I now have, but I cannot allow my grief to overly influence the way I parent. I can’t let my living children away with anything and everything purely because they are here with me. It took a hell of a lot having a new baby while still deep in grief about my first, and I had to force myself into thinking ‘what’s a normal new parent thing and what’s a bereaved parent thing’ rather than allow myself to be swallowed up by it all.
 
Why would you let your child believe there are no rules or boundaries when life in the real world is all about rules and boundaries? You're setting your child up for a fail.

The whole 'I won't discipline her for breaking her toys' post was the moment I unfollowed. So your gentle parented child breaks MY childs toy and what is the consequence of that? It's all very twee and novel but once she starts socialising and interacting with more children what resilience is she arming her with?
 
I used to really like this account. I used to really like her. But my god. It’s all got so annoying. I’m someone who I guess would be described as a gentle parenter, I co sleep, have home educated etc but her account is really passive aggressive ramming how amazing she is (with the implication that everyone else is quite tit) in her parenting choices. It’s also not like she’s raising awareness of how she likes to do things, she’s just smug and putting me off. She has a child of under 2, she does not know everything about parenting and what other people are experiencing and what their children are like and I can’t stand these people who assume they know best in every situation.
The other day it was her child being called bossy, then how she doesn’t shout at her. Of course you shouldn’t shout at her, she’s under bloody 2, why would you need to? Not advocating shouting but how is her experience relevant to say a mother with an adhd 9 year old who’s swung his sibling from a light fitting. It’s just rude.
And now today, poor little toddler was overtired and didn’t want to get in her car seat. I mean really? Is this a big deal. Those of us with busy lives and other responsibilities may not have the luxury of cajoling and feeding a child to sleep to avoid any car seat distress. Jesus Christ. I really didn’t want to unfollow but she’s so smug. Yes I breastfeed a child over one, it’s not that unusual nir is your child sleeping next to you. FFS.

Also isn’t oversharing all these moments with your child and constantly filming everything and putting it out to thousands completely at odds with the kind of parenting she’s advocating?
 
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