so, i had no idea that this forum existed before Mia's video but i want to air some things out about what some things Mia have said that i disagree with. Mia, if you're reading this just know that this isn't coming from a place of hate or anything like that. I still watch and enjoy most of your videos in both of your channels and you seem like a lovely girl. But every time someone disagrees with you, you shut then down so here I am expressing my opinion.
I've been watching Mia since 2018. I was heavily into piercings and I was browsing to see how to pierce your own smiley and that's how i found Mia. From the get go, I could relate to her especially at that time when I was having probably the worst year of my life yet. Piercings were an escape, so was dying my hair, etc.. Mia was a very small channel with a couple of videos that had a few thousands views but her subscriber count wasn't really high. Then she announced she was pregnant which kinda shocked me but not really y'know it can just happen to anyone. I became very curious to see what she was gonna do with the baby and when I found out she was keeping Mabel I was honestly very proud of her. Being a teen mum sounds very difficult especially because usually even if you love your partner you most likely won't be with them for the rest of your life. Also having a kid is very expensive and stressful, so like I said I was genuinely PROUD and also super excited to meet the baby.
Fast forward , Mabel is brought to life and I was so happy they were both safe and healthy and looking forward to Mia's journey. Maybe i could learn a couple of things myself and have a tiny snippet into what it's like to be a mum so when i have kids of my own in the future i kind of know what to expect, especially stuff like how it feels like to have a c session, post-partum shenanigans... I really enjoyed every video and I was filled with joy. I also noticed every since Mia got pregnant she definitely matured a lot and changed a lot for the better.
As time went on she started to ramble about a lot of things that i obviously didn't agree with. First thing she said she wanted more kids asap. I vividly remember commenting on her video how i think she should just wait and how not everything has to go as planned, got a couple likes but i'm pretty sure my comment is gone so :/ dunno if she took that the wrong way. I seriously don't understand what the rush for having a lot of kids back to back is. I understand where she's coming from we all have life long goals and one them for Mia was to be a young mum with a lot of kids which nothing wrong with that but I feel like she's very naive about it. Having kids isn't an easy job I think we all know that. yea they're cute, but they also are kind of a nightmare for the rest of your life until they move out because you have to have your eye on someone 24/7 making sure they're not doing dumb tit, making sure they're healthy etc etc so..? What baffles me more is that she wants to have these kids ALL ON HER OWN. And again, i understand her distrust towards men and relationships, because I have BPD myself so I get it but I'm very aware that me not trusting an entire group of people and not trusting my partner and hating my dad is just gonna do more bad than good for my soul. I, in no way shape of form, am not underestimating how she feels about her dad or her ex and I see a lot of people in the forum doing so and saying she's lying for views but that we don't know for sure. We don't know the full story and to be honest it's none of our business unless she decides to go more into detail so I'm just taking this face value so like i said I'm not underestimating her crappy relationships whatsoever but I do think she very much needs to work on her issues before having more children. You have no idea what I would've given to have a dad in my life, but mine didn't want to be involved at all no matter how many times I reached out he would just come and go. And I can see that's what Mia fears with her baby daddy, that he will do the same to Mabel or hurt her and I understand but there's so many sacrifices you need to do as a mum and if talking to your baby daddy so he can be involved in Mabel's life and just trying to keep him involved is what you have to do to prove to Mabel that it's not you it's him, then it needs to be done. I have a couple friends whose mum or dad wouldn't allow them to see their other parent and now they just resent them because even if the parent didn't want to be involved, they feel as though they took any opportunity of something happening away from them. That's my issue here, maybe her baby daddy wants her for money, maybe he just wants to see him damn child, maybe Mia has convinced herself that since he didn't care enough for her he won't care about Mabel or maybe I'm so wrong and he doesn't want to be involved and this rant is stupid but regardless of everything I think Mia needs to prove to Mabel she isn't keeping her child away from her dad because she will resent her when she hits the angsty teens.
I've seen a lot of people talk about how moving out is expensive and a bad idea which i kinda agree with. However, Mia has said her grandpa is buying a house and rebuilding it for her so makes sense. You guys are forgetting that luckily Mia is in a very privileged spot and is able to that. As far as the utilities of the house goes, idk how things in the UK works but hopefully it's gonna be fine and she'll be fine. At least she isn't too far up youtube's ass and is going to further her education which i congratulate her for. But please Mia, if you're reading this, you seem like a very lost girl. You need to work on your emotional trauma before having more children. And if you want more children but from a sperm donor, instead just foster some kids!!! This world is so over populated already there's so many orphan kids who would love to have a home in a house that would love them dearly.
I don't really have much else to say other than I feel bad for the girl, but if she reads this I hope she doesn't take it as a form of hate or whatever because I'm just concerned. Focus on your baby, your studies and moving out and foster some kids if you really want to have kids around. The whole idea of birthing a child is to have a family with a partner not to have them as puppies. I'm sure she's an amazing and is doing the best she can. She's young and will make mistakes but I hope she listens to some of us who just wants the best for her.
Stay safe out there xx