Married At First Sight #17 You’ve helped me realise what I don’t want

Which couple will last the longest

  • Paul and Tasha

    Votes: 152 34.5%

  • Erica and Jordan

    Votes: 57 13.0%

  • Georges and Peggy

    Votes: 231 52.5%
  • Total voters
    440
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mozzarellagirl said:
i believe him about the kiss but why has he got his arm around her ... i don't like dat
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I think Erica believes him about the kiss but there was no reason for him to be dishonest about the rest of it. He could have said “there was a girl really really drunk and I wanted to make sure she got home safe so she came in our taxi. I had my arm around her to keep her upright in the taxi, she tried to kiss me and I pushed her off”. They would likely have had some argument about him having his arm around her, which isn’t bad, having arguments helps to create boundaries and communication. She might have struggled to trust him for a bit as well, but that can be rebuilt. Instead he just lied and kept digging his hole and has made a minor trust issue a much bigger one. He also is really bad at having disagreements, he gets defensive and obnoxious so it descends into chaos with Erica getting nothing from him.
 
hannah123 said:
I think Erica believes him about the kiss but there was no reason for him to be dishonest about the rest of it. He could have said “there was a girl really really drunk and I wanted to make sure she got home safe so she came in our taxi. I had my arm around her to keep her upright in the taxi, she tried to kiss me and I pushed her off”. They would likely have had some argument about him having his arm around her, which isn’t bad, having arguments helps to create boundaries and communication. She might have struggled to trust him for a bit as well, but that can be rebuilt. Instead he just lied and kept digging his hole and has made a minor trust issue a much bigger one. He also is really bad at having disagreements, he gets defensive and obnoxious so it descends into chaos with Erica getting nothing from him.
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Tbh though if Erica were my partner I wouldn't have told her either. A partner who screams in your face doesn't exactly encourage open communication. I've been in an relationship like that, where I didn't tell my partner at the time things I would never keep from my now-husband, because of what I knew his reaction would be.
 
Some podcasts are better heard, not seen
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Finally catching up on tonight’s episode and some of your comments are making me guffaw 😂

on another note, why the fuck are Crystal Wanker and Boggle-eyes allowed to come to the reunion if they were booted off?

Edited to add: Bianca’s getting right on my tits now 🙄

Another edit because I’m making up for lost time lmao: somehow rimming came up in conversation at work today and I thought of Georges. My colleague didn’t know what it was and I had to tell her for the love of god not to Google it on her work computer 😂
 
Penisdlite said:
Finally catching up on tonight’s episode and some of your comments are making me guffaw 😂

on another note, why the fuck are Crystal Wanker and Boggle-eyes allowed to come to the reunion if they were booted off?

Edited to add: Bianca’s getting right on my tits now 🙄

Another edit because I’m making up for lost time lmao: somehow rimming came up in conversation at work today and I thought of Georges. My colleague didn’t know what it was and I had to tell her for the love of god not to Google it on her work computer 😂
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shes got on mine tonight for the first time too.Time to let it go now hun.I mean certainly you dont have to like or aknowledge jjand ella but just drop looking for validation becuase you wont get any from jj
 
pommobear said:
Tbh though if Erica were my partner I wouldn't have told her either. A partner who screams in your face doesn't exactly encourage open communication. I've been in an relationship like that, where I didn't tell my partner at the time things I would never keep from my now-husband, because of what I knew his reaction would be.
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I don’t think he does either, any sign of an argument and he’s ready to throw in the towel like a child and uses his OCD as a excuse for control in the relationship. They both encourage eggshell behaviour to each other, but personally I think someone raising their voice because they’re dying to be heard isn’t as bad as someone dangling the future of the relationship in front of them every time the partner has a complaint.
 
Lukes latest instagram story saying he was at the lowest point of his life and cut himself off after this dinner party, so then why is he in the comments saying he doesn't know why he wasn't allowed to go to the reunion. If he was as low as he says he was on the show why has he tried his very hardest to stay relevant with his constant lives and tiktoks, no one deserves death threats though.
 
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hannah123 said:
I don’t think he does either, any sign of an argument and he’s ready to throw in the towel like a child and uses his OCD as a excuse for control in the relationship. They both encourage eggshell behaviour to each other, but personally I think someone raising their voice because they’re dying to be heard isn’t as bad as someone dangling the future of the relationship in front of them every time the partner has a complaint.
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Jordan is 100% the type of guy who’d threaten to hurt or off himself if you tried to leave him
 
Just wanted to chip in with my thoughts about Jordan. I think he might have adhd and or autism (i have ADHD and maybe mild autistic traits). His emotional dysregulation, rejection sensitive dysphoria, love of routine, OCD, meltdowns when he loses routine, difficulty making and maintaining friendships, defensiveness etc are very familiar to me.
I totally understand why he would not be able to be honest with Erica, especially if she's a shouter. His mind will go blank, his emotions will engulf him, his RSD will be intolerable, he'll feel like he's going to lose her. As crazy as it might sound to a neurotypical person, it would be easier to lie. If someone starts screaming at you when your brain is different you literally can't think straight. You end up dropping yourself even further in the shit by getting tongue tied and confused.
I just think the producers have been lacking in a duty of care to Jordan (and Erica) if he is neurodiverse 😞
 
Corfu-blue said:
Just wanted to chip in with my thoughts about Jordan. I think he might have adhd and or autism (i have ADHD and maybe mild autistic traits). His emotional dysregulation, rejection sensitive dysphoria, love of routine, OCD, meltdowns when he loses routine, difficulty making and maintaining friendships, defensiveness etc.
I totally understand why he would not be able to be honest with Erica, especially if she's a shouter. His mind will go blank, his emotions will engulf him, his RSD will be intolerable, he'll feel like he's going to lose her. As crazy as it might sound to a neurotypical person, it would be easier to lie. If someone starts screaming at you when your brain is different you literally can't think straight. You end up dropping yourself even further in the shit by getting tongue tied and confused.
I just think the producers have been lacking in a duty of care to Jordan (and Erica) if he is neurodiverse 😞
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He's already said he's on the spectrum.
 
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