Louise Pentland #6 Life of ease, full of pasta & cheese, she's engaged, it's Lady Louise!

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bookish said:
Sorry, a bit of a rant here, but I want to play devil's advocate on behalf of Pearl who may grow up embarrassed or ashamed about her bottle usage when she's older.

Yah, I really wouldn't be too hard on her daughter's bottle - it's not always the mother that's "pushing" a bottle on them. I had a bottle for YEARS and I had to have braces to fix my teeth - but I had an emotionally abusive upbringing and the bottle was all I wanted to keep me comfortable.

This wasn't to say my mother was this horrible person who beat me or anything, but the relationship was not the healthiest and I needed the bottle for years of my life to keep me calm. My mother didn't know why - she didn't force it on me, but she didn't take it away. Eventually, I gave up on it in my own time. Whilst my mother had her issues, I can't blame a mother for giving her child comfort.

I mean, I can see what people will say - "it's a mother's job to take that stuff away" and I get that too. It's a slippery slope. But as a child who grew up with mental health issues from an extremely early age (we're talking under the age of five), I realise there's nuance to mothering and children's desires.

For all we know, Pearl may want that bottle as a clutch and security. She may have stuff going on in her head and she may feel scared and lonely in a way I did. Whilst that may be the cause of a mother's fault, the problem with narcs is that they can't see that.

It would make me more upset to see a mother forcing their child to give up something that may be of mental comfort during a distressing upbringing than a mother who allows them the comfort.

I developed fine - I was reading, walking and talking earlier in life than most of the kids around me. Went on to do two degrees - the only damage a bottle did was give me buck teeth which went away after 18 months of braces. It's really not that deep.

I'd be more worried about her psychological health and what it may symbolise than the bottle usage itself. But then again... it may just be that she likes her bottle and it's not that deep XD
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Louise has stated herself that the bottle is more for her sake than Pearl's. She said it made her feel closer and she loved the cuddle time. 💁‍♀️

MindyLahiri said:
I normally hate when people tell their life stories on here but I can't help but feel so sad any time these kids teeth/bottles/dummies are mentioned.

I had a dummy until I was 7 (I know) and have sucked my thumb ever since - ended up with terrible terrible teeth which I was picked on mercilessly for. Only when I was 25 did I manage to save enough money to get braces and it was life changing!

So it makes me so sad for these kids and I hope she weans the dummy and bottle soon 😭😭😭😭
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A girl I went to school with had a thumb that looked like a big toe because she sucked it so much.
 
Jossstickjunky said:
Louise has stated herself that the bottle is more for her sake than Pearl's. She said it made her feel closer and she loved the cuddle time. 💁‍♀️


A girl I went to school with had a thumb that looked like a big toe because she sucked it so much.
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My husband has one thumb bigger than the other due to thumb sucking. I can't see how a bottle would make her feel closer to her just put it in a cup she can still sit on you and drink it.
 
I actually thought Louises hair looked so much nicer in the beginning of her latest weekly being straight! I think the curls make her look older than she is and a bit tragic with the clown makeup and big pink curls. Her hair looked like a softer pink and a lot nicer straight.

I also can’t help but notice that Pearl seems very spoilt, as in she starts whining when she wants something and Louise always gives in straight away to prevent a tantrum which I understand but can’t be helping her behaviour in the long term. She also whines for chocolate several times in the latest weekly as well and Louise every single time says “oh you’d like some chocolate - okay - give me a second” etc. I don’t understand why she doesn’t start to say no, now that Pearl is old enough to start learning that when she whines she’ll get what she wants as that’s what Louise always gives her.
 
Louise's version of Harry Potter for Darcys birthday vs Matt and Devons...
Why the need for pink on a Harry Potter cake? The story is gender neutral you don't have to "feminise" it
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tada said:
My husband has one thumb bigger than the other due to thumb sucking. I can't see how a bottle would make her feel closer to her just put it in a cup she can still sit on you and drink it.
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My daughter is 11 and still sucks her thumb. I’ve tried so much to get her to stop it but it’s habit now when she’s tired or comfortable. I do say to her to stop it during the day and try to keep it to bedtime only but like I said, it’s a habit now. She stopped using her dummy by herself when she was 4 months old. I, stupidly, thought it was the best thing as I wouldn’t have to deal with the dummy fight later on. Oh how wrong was I. lol
I don’t like the constant bottle feeding though, she needs to let Pearl grow up. She’s trying too hard to keep her as a little baby.
 
Bold of you to presume that Louise actually considers what Darcy might like..... :ROFLMAO: it's all about having the insta-perfect life.


Why does she always buy these enormous cakes for her children's birthdays? It's so unnecessary and wasteful, especially now that you can't even invite people and celebrate. I bet most of it is going to land in the trash eventually, there's no way that four people can eat that much cake before it goes off.

I feel sorry for Darcy that Matt and Louise are constantly trying to outdo each other. It's ridiculous that they can't put their differences behind them and just prepare and celebrate Darcy's birthday together. With a reasonably amicable divorce like that, you'd think they'd be mature enough to do that for one day. And if you really have to celebrate separately, I think it would be better to just have two different themes, one at Louise's house and one at Matt's, instead of making her daughter's birthday into a competition for the parent of the year. Surely Darcy has more than one interest that you can turn into a party theme.
 
I think the cake Louise made is nice, from an Instagram point of view, but why does it need to be so feminine?! I love marvel and I’m sorry if my mum got me a pink and glittery iron man cake I’d be unhappy cos, errrmmm, iron man isn’t pink and glittery! It’s odd IMO, what does it matter if the Harry Potter cake looks like it came out of Harry Potter?

Also I’m really surprised they’re both decorating on a HP theme. I never really had themed parties as a kid but I always had two ‘parties’ with each parent and I’m sorry if both parties had the same theme I’d be a bit bored/fed up and the magic would be lost on me a bit. I’m sure Darcy will enjoy it regardless and be grateful but I think they could at least negotiate on doing different themes. Matt likes marvel and I’m sure Darcy does too so he could have done something like that. 🤷🏻‍♀️
 
zeatrix83 said:
My daughter is 11 and still sucks her thumb. I’ve tried so much to get her to stop it but it’s habit now when she’s tired or comfortable. I do say to her to stop it during the day and try to keep it to bedtime only but like I said, it’s a habit now. She stopped using her dummy by herself when she was 4 months old. I, stupidly, thought it was the best thing as I wouldn’t have to deal with the dummy fight later on. Oh how wrong was I. lol
I don’t like the constant bottle feeding though, she needs to let Pearl grow up. She’s trying too hard to keep her as a little baby.
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She'll be okay, I still can't sleep without sucking my thumb in my late 20's and I turned out (medium) okay 🤓
 
BananaPenguin said:
Why is there another cake?? There are only 4 of them! So wasteful and over the top

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To be fair, cake freezes fairly well if it’s freshly made with quality ingredients. My auntie made me a huge cake for my 21st and we froze what we didn’t eat at my party - just freeze in slices. Though what’s the bets that lady Louise will do that?
 
BananaPenguin said:
Why is there another cake?? There are only 4 of them! So wasteful and over the top

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she did this with Pearl IIRC - at the time she had one cake for pearl’s playgroup friends, one cake for the big family party and a third cake that liam’s family made. She was really arsey over them making Pearl a third cake and said she didn’t know they were making one by the time she’d ordered hers, but with hindsight it seems like she needs the control - SHE can give the big elaborate display but nobody else. At least one of these cakes was bought solely for the Instagram clicks, I guarantee it.
At best it’s bloody wasteful though - Pearl‘s birthday cakes would have at least gotten eaten - who the hell is going to get through two cakes? Especially now?
Makes me wonder if Matt is getting Darcy a cake too and Louise is desperate to ‘one up’ him. Or she just isn’t listening to the guidelines whatsoever and is letting people come over, which is disgusting. Plus I thought moving children from home to home wasn’t really the best thing to be doing, divorced parents, birthday, or not?!

I’m surprised she’s allowing people to make cakes for Darcy at this time though - I really don’t trust takeaways or people offering to make food like this - you have no idea where people have been, if they’ve been in contact with infected people, if they‘re practicing good hygiene and social distancing - I just don’t think it’s worth the risk but perhaps I’m in a very extreme minority 😬
 
I'm all for fashion choices but Pearl being dressed like an early 19th century toddler makes me cringe so hard 😩😂. I understand it's hard having split parents but this chopping between houses really isn't great, I have 2 month old twins and their dad works away, and he has made the decision to not visit because it keeps our family safe. A hard one to make as he is missing an important time but not worth risking lives over it.
 
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