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From what I recall, it was how he acted after drinking that bothered her. Maybe he was a horrible drunk? Doesn’t mean he was dependant on it everyday it just made him not very nice to be around when he did drink 🤔 and that’s why he decided to just not drink again.
ETA but that’s an assumption I made from what she shared about it in the past. She never actually went into detail
 
Daisybee said:
ahh that’s interesting, when they went away for a cousins wedding last year she said she was so proud of Kieran as it was his first sober holiday and wedding
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You’re Right, I was just going to answer the same thing.
If he was a drug addict then even more of a reason to pay privately to see a family therapist or psychologist. I’m not interested in any people on this thread contributing their view about how bad you have to be to see a psychologist, I’ve had therapy with my family over years over different issues and if you pay privately you can get assistance for a variety of needs, this is something I would pat for, and perhaps something they will pay for in the future.
 
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Begborrowsteal said:
They have had therapy. Her own mother is a therapist. I think I mentioned before that we have similar experiences, and concern for my kids has never been raised. It was between me & my partner.
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Her mother’s a sex therapist, didn’t know that was an issue for them, if that’s what you’re suggesting ?
Did your kids have behaviour issues, were they sensitive to any instability in your home, ? Because is may not have beenan issue for you. If so, you r situation doesn’t sound the same
 
Aussie girl said:
Her mother’s a sex therapist, didn’t know that was an issue for them, if that’s what you’re suggesting ?
Did your kids have behaviour issues, were they sensitive to any instability in your home, ? Because is may not have beenan issue for you. If so, you r situation doesn’t sound the same
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I think that comment is a bit personal tbh.. her situation may not be the same but emotional strain is the same and I don’t think she needs to explain it anyone.

lil admitted on her stories they had been for counselling, Not with her mum. But she had mentioned before her mum was a sex therapist and does mental health support which I guess she’s helped her with and who knows maybe they did have relationship and sex support to... and If she did it clearly worked as they have another on the way!
 
Aussie girl said:
Her mother’s a sex therapist, didn’t know that was an issue for them, if that’s what you’re suggesting ?
Did your kids have behaviour issues, were they sensitive to any instability in your home, ? Because is may not have beenan issue for you. If so, you r situation doesn’t sound the same
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Shes a relationship therapist also. Regardless, its a trained ear close to the family. But I believe they did do therapy anyway.

Ive said before my second child is wild like Isla. I battled horrific PND. I have a mental health disorder that in itself causes instability. I have had issues with substance abuse as a result of that disorder. I quite literally begged for help, I even asked to be referred to social services if it meant I finally got support - and every service told me we didnt meet the thresholds for help. My kids have all their needs met and are happy & confident. Lils are the same. Hence me thinking that whilst they may have needed support (or still do), it doesnt always mean the kids are actually affected by it, to the extent the kids need therapy. Id imagine that would come with real constant & severe conflict in the home, which I dont think has happened with Lil, from whats been shared.

I honestly think its just a lack of discipline & boundaries. And I swear the second child usually is nutty 😂
 
Begborrowsteal said:
Shes a relationship therapist also. Regardless, its a trained ear close to the family. But I believe they did do therapy anyway.

Ive said before my second child is wild like Isla. I battled horrific PND. I have a mental health disorder that in itself causes instability. I have had issues with substance abuse as a result of that disorder. I quite literally begged for help, I even asked to be referred to social services if it meant I finally got support - and every service told me we didnt meet the thresholds for help. My kids have all their needs met and are happy & confident. Lils are the same. Hence me thinking that whilst they may have needed support (or still do), it doesnt always mean the kids are actually affected by it, to the extent the kids need therapy. Id imagine that would come with real constant & severe conflict in the home, which I dont think has happened with Lil, from whats been shared.

I honestly think its just a lack of discipline & boundaries. And I swear the second child usually is nutty 😂
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I’m sorry to hear you had that experience and hope you have the support you need now xx
 
Begborrowsteal said:
Shes a relationship therapist also. Regardless, its a trained ear close to the family. But I believe they did do therapy anyway.

Ive said before my second child is wild like Isla. I battled horrific PND. I have a mental health disorder that in itself causes instability. I have had issues with substance abuse as a result of that disorder. I quite literally begged for help, I even asked to be referred to social services if it meant I finally got support - and every service told me we didnt meet the thresholds for help. My kids have all their needs met and are happy & confident. Lils are the same. Hence me thinking that whilst they may have needed support (or still do), it doesnt always mean the kids are actually affected by it, to the extent the kids need therapy. Id imagine that would come with real constant & severe conflict in the home, which I dont think has happened with Lil, from whats been shared.

I honestly think its just a lack of discipline & boundaries. And I swear the second child usually is nutty 😂
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I’m sorry you didn’t get the support you wanted, and and it’s good your children were resilient and happy.
 
Aussie girl said:
I’m sorry you didn’t get the support you wanted, and and it’s good your children were resilient and happy.
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Its a total postcode lottery, its infuriating. I had a small number of professionalst that were amazing, and yet all they did was listen & show empathy. Its a dying skill in our overworked nhs sadly. Yeah my kids are great, I grew up with a LOT of instability so ive always tried my hardest to keep that out of their little lives. Their only issue now is missing school & their friends 😭
 
Anyone see lils friend kaylas post regarding the new challenge that is doing the rounds? Putting sweets in front of the children and seeing If they'll wait for you to come back before eating? Jesus her kid is isla's twin!!!!
 
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