I agree and it would be unfair to say you could take them on when deep down you know you couldn’t give them what they deserve, they’ve been let down enough as it is.
But as a caring and loving family member I bet you wouldn’t let it get to that stage if it happened within your family. Her mother, brother, sister, had the ability to tell her she’s using the children to get back at the dads and it’s not what a caring and loving mother does. If they have a dad who loves them and is a good dad then co-parenting is a far better way to go. But KFP turned against Kieran when she could no longer use and bully him and her family enabled her, rather than saying they want no part in it as it will hurt the children.
My children don’t have children yet but as much as they are my world I don’t think I could support them doing that. My daughters have fallen out with their dad (my ex husband) and I’m nearly always the one that gets them back on track because he’s a good dad and it makes me happy he is in their lives, they love him to bits but like all of us he puts his foot in it at times and messes up, but he’s always there for them if they need him, as Kieran would be if allowed.
It’s not always a case of “letting it get to that stage” you can’t control people whether you’re related or not.
My brother is like it and there’s nothing any of us can do to change him - He had his kids living with him at one point because the mother and her boyfriend went off the rails. I paid for the court applications, I did everything (no solicitor) and I put a roof over their heads, fed them, got them a flat, sorted furniture. I really thought he’d changed. He was such a different person during that period he had the kids. I felt like I’d got my brother back. The one I grew up with.
Then one day he decided not to listen to me when I told him what was going to happen. I begged him and pleaded with him to listen to me. Now the kids are back with the mother and her crackhead boyfriend, and my brother is in a relationship with a coke dealer out of nowhere, they’re both on coke constantly and screaming and arguing with each other every night.
He might be my brother but he’s also a grown man, If we start criticising him he will simply tell us to duck off. And I’m not risking a fight with two coke addicts by going round there laying the law down. It’s just not as simple as not letting it get that far.