Just bought my first home - overwhelmed

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Bubble And Squeak

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First time making a thread! I have just had an offer accepted on a my first home and buying on my own, ekkk. I feel so nervous and overwhelmed. I’ve been wanting this for about a year now and it’s easy enough talking about it but now it’s real, I’m so scared. My mum is so excited and I just can’t get excited, like I’m excited inside but not on the outside and now I’m thinking have I made a mistake? Is this a normal feeling? Advice please!
 
I’d imagine this is totally normally! Haven’t bought on my own, bought as a couple but my friend did buy on her own last year and felt exactly the same!

Don’t let the worry put a dampener on your celebrations! It’s a brilliant achievement and you should be feeling very proud of yourself 💗
 
Congratulations! That’s such an achievement, you should be proud. I bought a house last year and it was so stressful all the process. But when you have a place of your own, nothing compares. Feels like it takes forever for the process but so worth it. Good luck. X
 
Congratulations! I was exactly the same years ago when I bought my first home, even though it was with my partner. It's definitely overwhelming and I felt bad that I didn't share his excitement! We had to do a full renovation and I hated every second of it, I didn't actually get excited until I started to move all of my stuff into the house and started putting everything away.

Do you live on your own at the moment?
 
CrimeJunkie said:
Congratulations! I was exactly the same years ago when I bought my first home, even though it was with my partner. It's definitely overwhelming and I felt bad that I didn't share his excitement! We had to do a full renovation and I hated every second of it, I didn't actually get excited until I started to move all of my stuff into the house and started putting everything away.

Do you live on your own at the moment?
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Thank you! I live at home with my parents so big step!

Thank you everybody for the kind comments!! I have had a little more time to digest, but still feel so nervous!
 
Congratulations! I was the same! The day I moved in and my dad finally left, I started to panic and was like, wtf have I done! Can I do this?! 😱😱😂😂 it took nearly a year to complete the purchase, so it became more of a nightmare than exciting.
That was 3 years ago now. So happy to have my own place finally.
 
Congratulations! You should follow @thegirlbosshouse on insta - she bought a new build house on her own and posts about finance stuff, decorating, dating, cooking, the works. But she’s a v independent woman and although my circumstances are pretty different to hers, she’s a great follow.
 
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Congratulations! I was the same! The day I moved in and my dad finally left, I started to panic and was like, wtf have I done! Can I do this?! 😱😱😂😂 it took nearly a year to complete the purchase, so it became more of a nightmare than exciting.
That was 3 years ago now. So happy to have my own place finally.
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Yeah that will be me 😂😂! Aw that sounds a nightmare but I’m glad it all worked out for you!

bellinibobble said:
Congratulations! You should follow @thegirlbosshouse on insta - she bought a new build house on her own and posts about finance stuff, decorating, dating, cooking, the works. But she’s a v independent woman and although my circumstances are pretty different to hers, she’s a great follow.
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Thank you so much! I’ll go have a look and follow her!!
 
Congratulations! Sounds like you’re suffering what’s known as ‘buyers remorse’! It’s a real thing! I was exactly the same a few years ago after my first house purchase and was freaking out at work - one of my colleagues kindly pointed it out, then I felt fine afterwards knowing it was a ‘Thing’! It passes don’t worry and good luck in your new place xx
 
I just bought end of June and completed beginning of October. I felt the exact same as you. My mum was putting me off buying anything at the start, but then all of a sudden she changed her tune and was nearly forcing me to buy stuff. I was a miserable sod though and even though I tried I couldn’t get excited about it. I thought maybe talking about how excited I was would help but it didn’t.
Even on completion day I wasn’t excited as I had tonsillitis and had to have a COVID test that morning 🙄 so my auntie had to go to the estate agents and get my keys for me. In some ways I’m resentful of COVID (even though lockdown is what helped me with my deposit) because I knew I would finally feel that excitement walking into the estate agents and that was taken away from me because I followed public health guidance.
I was finally excited though when I closed my front door to my parents and was finally on my own!

Tip: make sure you check when the boiler was last serviced. I had to shell out £2100 for a new boiler even though it had been ”serviced” 🙄
 
Congratulations! I bought my house 7 and a half years ago (also by myself). I was so.overwhealmed I didn't move until a month after I completed🤦‍♀️

I was living in a property my parents owned but were going to rent out so my hand was somewhat forced to eventually move in.

I would recommend start thinking about what you want to do in each room to make it yours. I was lucky the bedrooms and lounge at mine just needed painting but I've had a new bathroom and kitchen installed over the years. If you can get one or two rooms feeling homely and like yours you will soon settle in.
 
Congrats!! Like everyone else said it’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed, I definitely did!

Also, do not stress about rushing to get everything done. If you need to buy furniture etc I think it’s best to wait until you are in. I rushed because I felt so overwhelmed and ordered furniture that wasn’t quite right and am now replacing 5 years later 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’m only just replacing the horrible carpet and giving the bathroom a makeover too.
 
jharpz said:
I just bought end of June and completed beginning of October. I felt the exact same as you. My mum was putting me off buying anything at the start, but then all of a sudden she changed her tune and was nearly forcing me to buy stuff. I was a miserable sod though and even though I tried I couldn’t get excited about it. I thought maybe talking about how excited I was would help but it didn’t.
Even on completion day I wasn’t excited as I had tonsillitis and had to have a COVID test that morning 🙄 so my auntie had to go to the estate agents and get my keys for me. In some ways I’m resentful of COVID (even though lockdown is what helped me with my deposit) because I knew I would finally feel that excitement walking into the estate agents and that was taken away from me because I followed public health guidance.
I was finally excited though when I closed my front door to my parents and was finally on my own!

Tip: make sure you check when the boiler was last serviced. I had to shell out £2100 for a new boiler even though it had been ”serviced” 🙄
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Glad everything worked out! I think I will be the same, once I close the door and I’m on my own and can take it all in!! thanks for the tip! I’m going to start writing down everything people say I should check out so I have a list

Libertine1975 said:
Congratulations! I bought my house 7 and a half years ago (also by myself). I was so.overwhealmed I didn't move until a month after I completed🤦‍♀️

I was living in a property my parents owned but were going to rent out so my hand was somewhat forced to eventually move in.

I would recommend start thinking about what you want to do in each room to make it yours. I was lucky the bedrooms and lounge at mine just needed painting but I've had a new bathroom and kitchen installed over the years. If you can get one or two rooms feeling homely and like yours you will soon settle in.
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Thank you! Yeah I said to my mum ‘I might still live here for another month after getting my keys’ and she was like ‘no way as soon as you get them you’ll want to move in’

I am going to start writing down what I need for each room!

Lindsey91 said:
I have just reserved a new build by myself and feel exactly the same. I never left home when I was at uni or anything so it really will be a shock to the system 😂 I think the timing is right for me but it’s just so daunting!!
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Ahh that’s so exciting congrats!! I never moved out for uni and my parents didn’t charge me digs so yeah it’s going to be a big shock for me as well😂 hope everything goes well with the build and before you know it you will be moving in!

Wishiwasaninfluencer said:
Congrats!! Like everyone else said it’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed, I definitely did!

Also, do not stress about rushing to get everything done. If you need to buy furniture etc I think it’s best to wait until you are in. I rushed because I felt so overwhelmed and ordered furniture that wasn’t quite right and am now replacing 5 years later 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’m only just replacing the horrible carpet and giving the bathroom a makeover too.
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Thanks for the tip! It’s hard to try picture how you are going to do it up when you have only seen it once! I’m lucky that the whole house is new white walls and grey carpets so I have a blank canvas going in
 
Also @Bubble And Squeak not sure what your finances are like, but try and get a new credit card before you move out and your credit score drops. I got a Virgin one with a high balance to keep for emergencies. Ended up needing it to replace the boiler.
 
Huge congratulations! My first time moving out from my parents I actually moved countries and I’ve been here a decade now. Not really great advice but I would say get some food in the fridge and the cupboard that you love, we all take comfort in food and that will already make you feel like you’re home eating your favourite meal. And again, congratulations!
 
Bubble And Squeak said:
First time making a thread! I have just had an offer accepted on a my first home and buying on my own, ekkk. I feel so nervous and overwhelmed. I’ve been wanting this for about a year now and it’s easy enough talking about it but now it’s real, I’m so scared. My mum is so excited and I just can’t get excited, like I’m excited inside but not on the outside and now I’m thinking have I made a mistake? Is this a normal feeling? Advice please!
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Congratuations to you. Once you get those keys you will feel wonderful.

You are probably still in shock at having your offer accepted. It is perfectly normal to feel this way.

You will be fine, you have a supportive Mum and I’m sure she will guide you.

I wish you every happiness.
 
Good luck, you’ll be fine! I’m looking to buy my first fixer upper this year, solo. I’ve lived alone the last 5 years and love it but I am overwhelmed at the prospect of the renovation work!! I’ll have help from family etc so won’t be alone but it’s still all on me financially, and that’s scary!!
 
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