Oh good luck! Did you start meds and all today? First day of my cycle was on the 27th, clinic is closed so can't get scans etc hoping to do our first round of IVF in my next cycle which starts mid JanCD1 for me so hopefully we will be doing our FET in January 2023! Just booked my CD10 scan to check my lining, which will hopefully be OK for them to give us a date for the transfer
).Hopefully ICSI will provide ye with a better option than just straight IVF ❤
Definitely ok to take a break if you need it, the whole thing is very intense isn't it, like everyday of every month has some significance, either you're trying or waiting to try etc
It really is, I didn’t find the counselling very helpful it was over the phone and it turns out we can’t continue it because I already have my own counselling so it would be a conflict of interest. It makes you question a lot of things. The thing I can’t get my head around is being told we both have no issues and there is no reason for it not working to only getting 1/2 embryos to that embryo not even taking. Your sort of given false hope, which really don’t help someone who has had bad mental health in the past!
Your situation sounds very similar to mine, we too have been ttc tor 2 years and told unexplained fertility. I hope you get a positive outcome
I was the same with my sister. I think these feelings are more common than we think, they’re just not voiced often. It helps me to remember they’re pregnant with their own baby not mine! You’re not alone xx
They’re 100% normal. You’re upset about what you don’t have not what they do. I know exactly how you feel. I’m 44 and tried everything to get pregnant but nothing worked and we’ve had to accept it’s just us 2. It still stings when I hear any pregnancy announcement even now, I don’t wish infertility on anyone so while I’m so desperately sad for us I’m glad they don’t have any of this pain. It’s perfectly normal to be sad and upset so don’t beat yourself up about it.
You’re not evil at all! I hope your round of Ivf works, fingers crossed for you x
Oh I know how you feel. This whole inability to get pregnant/stay pregnant just makes you feel like such a failure. It’s so easy apparently, at school they’d basically tell you that every time you had sex you’d get pregnant. If only! I would say to try and go into each cycle with hope. It’s even a miracle that treatment is available to give it a try. Wish it wasn’t so bloody expensive when the odds are against you. You never know though, next time could be the lucky time for you!
I can totally relate to being happy for someone at the same time as being heartbroken for yourself. I felt the same when my sister announced her pregnancy, and at various milestones throughout tbh. Now my nephew is here it’s much easier to separate her experience from mine, if that makes sense.
That is typical of GPs for all conditions not just infertility, fob you off if you’re overweight. People who are overweight get pregnant every day of the week as do people with PCOS. It’s enrages me that it’s used as an excuse to get rid of you rather than be weight neutral and do the required testing. I would recommend saying something like “if I came in here as an average sized woman what tests would you refer me for and request they’re done anyway while you take care of improving your diet and exercise regime in the mean time”. Precious time is wasted waiting on proper treatment and when you’re fighting against your biological time is of the essence. I hope you get better news in the months to come as this is one of the most stressful thing you can go through.Hello all warriors (if you're struggling with infertility you're a warrior!).
An insight on my story.
TTC for 7 years got brushed with the same old paintbrush "pcos symptoms will go away if you lose weight"....I was even under clinical trial in UK (bambini trial) I lost weight under the trial but did it make my symptoms go away? Like f**k did it! Gynaecology/fertility won't even touch you for 1st 2 years of ttc. Even when I was reffered to fertility I waited a year for my 1st appointment. Partner was tested and has low count. Booked 2nd appointment got cancelled 3 times in 1 year then opted for IVF abroad. Appointment was ready April 2020....COVID LOCKDOWN!
Fast forward April 2022 had HSG blood tests etc ready for IVF in May. Everything looked good (apart from 1 blocked fallopian tube). I arrived for treatment May had USS and found a polyps the size of golf ball (this is what was blocking my tube) so I had polypectomy and had to waited for next cycle to transfer embryos (retrived/fertilised 12 eggs and 7 made it to day 5 embryo). Transfered 2 embryos. 1 split to twins so ended up with triplets!....unfortunately miscarried. Had tests on endometrial lining etc and have very abnormal endometrial function (95 percentile) which means I'm prone to miscarriages & need steroid treatment for FET. I have also been diagnosed with estrogen dominance endometrial hyperplasia (atypical cells). On high dose of steroid treatment & progesterone to suppress estrogen. Got 2nd endometrial ablation in and biopsy in March to check progress. If all clear then FET in May. If not then low dose chemo treatment or hysterectomy.
Throughout all this I felt like my Gynaecologist in the UK failed me for always brushing me off. Every appointment I had with Gynaecologist they didn't even examine me or ultrasound it was simply check height and weight then tell me I'm too fat lose weight. I lost weight got BMI to below 30 then they said get it to 25. So was always pushed away for my weight when my sister in law is size 22 had IVF and it worked for her.
That's my story. Please tell me yours
