Imainlylurk
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I agree that he was finally challenging his mother. Context to that scene was that she clearly lived under a weight of shame and stigma and had passed that on to Ritchie, who had a quite a bit of internalised homophobia shown throughout the series (eg when he sort-of-defended section 28). He finally rejected that just before he died.This exactly with the friend.
He's dying and if not now, when?
With the mother, I think he was fully aware and just trying to make her understand that his way of life is okay, just because he's gay he isn't "wrong" and that he's had lots of fun and lived a good life without any regrets. So that she understands that he's fine with it all, that he wasn't wrong ("debauchery") and that there are no "what ifs" and to not blame others (his friends, Jill) for his own choices in life. I'm not explaining this well I feel, hope you get what and how I mean it.
The scene with the friend didn't quite work for me, though, although it was extremely well acted.