iamthecat
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I find her whole standpoint that he’s a gaslighting, narcissistic, coercively controlling abuser completely false and fabricated. The main issues I have are:
A) if he’s a controlling, abusive narcissist then he wouldn’t have filed for divorce, end of. Why would he give up a major part in controlling her? A narcissist never wants to lose control. And along with that potentially giving up control of his children? I highly doubt it. This is not a narc move.
B) if he is as bad as she says and yet he’s still decided to divorce her, then why is she not shouting for joy from the rooftops that she finally can get away from the controlling, narcissistic bastard? She can get custody of the kids. She’s free to date someone else. She doesn’t have to share a house with him any more. I smell bullshit that he’s as bad as she says he is yet she won’t sign those papers pronto.
C) he’s made no comment, said nothing, literally not a word prior to that Insta post and even then it mentions nothing of her. A true abuser would not have gone all that time in silence, letting her control the narrative in that way. Narcs have to be in control and he has not been in control of the story in the slightest. His filing for divorce and then the most recent Insta post are the only signs of him trying to assert any control of the situation.
Her posts and tweets have been shown to be false and contradictory numerous times. She spews out stories to fit her current mood and the story she’s trying to sell, often at complete odds with previous stories.
He’s close still with all his family. She’s been cut off from all of hers. Who’s the common denominator in her relationships…?
I’m not remotely saying he’s an angel and I’m not saying he hasn’t behaved poorly along the way, but he is not a controlling, abusive narcissist by any stretch of the imagination.
A) if he’s a controlling, abusive narcissist then he wouldn’t have filed for divorce, end of. Why would he give up a major part in controlling her? A narcissist never wants to lose control. And along with that potentially giving up control of his children? I highly doubt it. This is not a narc move.
B) if he is as bad as she says and yet he’s still decided to divorce her, then why is she not shouting for joy from the rooftops that she finally can get away from the controlling, narcissistic bastard? She can get custody of the kids. She’s free to date someone else. She doesn’t have to share a house with him any more. I smell bullshit that he’s as bad as she says he is yet she won’t sign those papers pronto.
C) he’s made no comment, said nothing, literally not a word prior to that Insta post and even then it mentions nothing of her. A true abuser would not have gone all that time in silence, letting her control the narrative in that way. Narcs have to be in control and he has not been in control of the story in the slightest. His filing for divorce and then the most recent Insta post are the only signs of him trying to assert any control of the situation.
Her posts and tweets have been shown to be false and contradictory numerous times. She spews out stories to fit her current mood and the story she’s trying to sell, often at complete odds with previous stories.
He’s close still with all his family. She’s been cut off from all of hers. Who’s the common denominator in her relationships…?
I’m not remotely saying he’s an angel and I’m not saying he hasn’t behaved poorly along the way, but he is not a controlling, abusive narcissist by any stretch of the imagination.
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