IamSarahjajyjay #4 Half Celt, full melt. Still washing blazers at night.

Status
Thread locked. We start a new thread when they have over 1000 posts, click the blue button to see all threads for this topic and find the latest open thread.
1
Foxvint said:
Boom there it is. EHCP cover young ppl to 25. She's laying the foundation for the 'I'm a carer for my adult kids' grift. She's clearly got no intention of ever working again.
Click to expand...

Sure sounds like it. Started studying when scampi and chips reached an age (5?) when she could no longer claim Income Support until she was booted off the master's. Then broke her ankle in 333 places 3 years ago, now that sick note's coming to an end, so this is her next career path
 
I was pleased when my son got his diagnosis, because I knew it would open up a world of support for him at school. I was pleased - it wasn't funny in the slightest 🙄, but I'd already cried my tears when I saw the first signs of something being 'not right' when he was 18m old. No professional would look at him at that age, so at home I did everything i could to help him along. All background tv that I used to have on during the day went off. I bought all sorts of basic toys for us to play turn taking games with, anything that encouraged communication, interaction etc. Inside, I was so upset, I worked in adult social services at the time and saw the outcomes for some people, and I was so worried that what I was seeing in my son, would mean his life would be limited like that.
This is a longwinded way to say, it's not funny Sarah. It's nothing to feel smug or gleeful about. Let's hope that your son is assessed and actually, there's nothing amiss there at all, other than typical teenage behaviour and maybe some traits that'll pass through adolescence. Let's hope that's the outcome for him, and he can take a normal pathway through school and onwards through his life.
 
Still very much locked but there’s half a conversation I can see with her and some dude talking about Amazon Prime and its unused benefits.

Prime membership? So that’s another hundred quid a year she’s pissing up the wall on instant gratification that could be going in a PE kit fund…

Also, I’m surprised she endorses a company like Amazon… controversial!

Socialism Sarahism
 
nothanksbabes said:
My heart breaks for these kids, defined by their useless mother by all the things she thinks they can't do. Awful.
Click to expand...
They are just used as props aren't they?
---
byefeliciax said:
Still very much locked but there’s half a conversation I can see with her and some dude talking about Amazon Prime and its unused benefits.

Prime membership? So that’s another hundred quid a year she’s pissing up the wall on instant gratification that could be going in a PE kit fund…

Also, I’m surprised she endorses a company like Amazon… controversial!

Socialism Sarahism
Click to expand...
She's not controversial - she's disgusting. See also Nike, Coca Cola , Weatherspoons,, Macdonalds. She ain't no socialist bruv :rolleyes:
 
Last edited:
For someone with an Eng Lit degree her comprehension skills are somewhat lacking. Nobody said Farm Foods aren’t cheap, they said their tactic is pricing so cheap that you’re tricked into buying extra and spending more than is necessary. That’s what makes them their money, they’re not a charity. Thicko. Thus proven here where she says she spends £400 in there “stocking up” without buying a single fruit or vegetable. Point. Made. She is overspending on crisps, sweets, and beige freezer food. £400 on that kind of food is excessive.

Also, her beg is so bleeping rude. No please. No thanks. No gratitude. Just “roll up, roll up!” and an expectation that fivers will keep on dropping in for free.

Funny. She needed £75 for a taxi and emergency dental treatment for her eldest last week, now she needs £75 for chargers and trainers (at £25 a pair on VINTED… 😮 You can get them cheaper than that brand new if you shop around!).

Why £75? Coincidence? What are they charging for a G in Canterbury? ❄
 

Attachments

  • IMG_8770.png
    IMG_8770.png
    49.8 KB · Views: 25
  • IMG_8769.png
    IMG_8769.png
    58.2 KB · Views: 18
Last edited:
A few random musings:-

The forms to claim DLA are huge. I consider myself to be pretty good at this sort of thing, yet I gave up the first time I tried and then didn’t try again for another year. It takes ages to fill them in and it’s particularly tricky when your child’s condition is variable. You also need to check past paperwork for various details. It’s a lot of work putting it all together.

You can apply for an EHCP needs assessment as a parent, but often the school will do this for you. You are highly likely to need reports from the school in any case. The EHCP forms are also a faff to do and LAs like to refuse needs assessments. This in turn means a lot of work sorting mediation and/appeals. Even if and when it’s agreed that a needs assessment can take place, there’s still a lot of work for any parent to do and it’s ongoing. Don’t ask me how I know…

I can see that if you are convinced your child has SEN and have been disbelieved, it may be somewhat validating/a sort of relief to be told you’re not imagining it and then hopefully have access to support. For me it was the other way round. I wanted to be told I was an over-anxious parent and there was nothing to worry about. Unfortunately the doctor agreed with me.

As you’re probably aware, if the child you care for gets at least middle rate DLA (lower rate doesn’t ‘count’) you can get carers allowance if your income is low enough. This means that you won’t be expected to look for work if you’re unemployed. There are other ways DLA and Carers allowance has an impact:-
- although carers allowance is deducted £ for £ from UC, you do get a carers premium of (if I recall correctly) £100 and something per month.
- You’re exempt from the benefit cap (although a child getting DLA will also do that).
- if your child gets DLA, you may be able to argue that they cannot be expected to share a bedroom and therefore this can positively affect housing benefit/rent element of UC.
- You may receive more help with council tax (depends on individual council schemes)
- DLA can mean free entry for certain attractions and potentially a fast pass for queues.

I’m not knocking any of this, just providing information.
 
tinklypom said:
A few random musings:-

The forms to claim DLA are huge. I consider myself to be pretty good at this sort of thing, yet I gave up the first time I tried and then didn’t try again for another year. It takes ages to fill them in and it’s particularly tricky when your child’s condition is variable. You also need to check past paperwork for various details. It’s a lot of work putting it all together.

You can apply for an EHCP needs assessment as a parent, but often the school will do this for you. You are highly likely to need reports from the school in any case. The EHCP forms are also a faff to do and LAs like to refuse needs assessments. This in turn means a lot of work sorting mediation and/appeals. Even if and when it’s agreed that a needs assessment can take place, there’s still a lot of work for any parent to do and it’s ongoing. Don’t ask me how I know…

I can see that if you are convinced your child has SEN and have been disbelieved, it may be somewhat validating/a sort of relief to be told you’re not imagining it and then hopefully have access to support. For me it was the other way round. I wanted to be told I was an over-anxious parent and there was nothing to worry about. Unfortunately the doctor agreed with me.

As you’re probably aware, if the child you care for gets at least middle rate DLA (lower rate doesn’t ‘count’) you can get carers allowance if your income is low enough. This means that you won’t be expected to look for work if you’re unemployed. There are other ways DLA and Carers allowance has an impact:-
- although carers allowance is deducted £ for £ from UC, you do get a carers premium of (if I recall correctly) £100 and something per month.
- You’re exempt from the benefit cap (although a child getting DLA will also do that).
- if your child gets DLA, you may be able to argue that they cannot be expected to share a bedroom and therefore this can positively affect housing benefit/rent element of UC.
- You may receive more help with council tax (depends on individual council schemes)
- DLA can mean free entry for certain attractions and potentially a fast pass for queues.

I’m not knocking any of this, just providing information.
Click to expand...
Oh god, the dla forms are awful, it was exhausting (I have afhd).
 
tinklypom said:
A few random musings:-

The forms to claim DLA are huge. I consider myself to be pretty good at this sort of thing, yet I gave up the first time I tried and then didn’t try again for another year. It takes ages to fill them in and it’s particularly tricky when your child’s condition is variable. You also need to check past paperwork for various details. It’s a lot of work putting it all together.

You can apply for an EHCP needs assessment as a parent, but often the school will do this for you. You are highly likely to need reports from the school in any case. The EHCP forms are also a faff to do and LAs like to refuse needs assessments. This in turn means a lot of work sorting mediation and/appeals. Even if and when it’s agreed that a needs assessment can take place, there’s still a lot of work for any parent to do and it’s ongoing. Don’t ask me how I know…

I can see that if you are convinced your child has SEN and have been disbelieved, it may be somewhat validating/a sort of relief to be told you’re not imagining it and then hopefully have access to support. For me it was the other way round. I wanted to be told I was an over-anxious parent and there was nothing to worry about. Unfortunately the doctor agreed with me.

As you’re probably aware, if the child you care for gets at least middle rate DLA (lower rate doesn’t ‘count’) you can get carers allowance if your income is low enough. This means that you won’t be expected to look for work if you’re unemployed. There are other ways DLA and Carers allowance has an impact:-
- although carers allowance is deducted £ for £ from UC, you do get a carers premium of (if I recall correctly) £100 and something per month.
- You’re exempt from the benefit cap (although a child getting DLA will also do that).
- if your child gets DLA, you may be able to argue that they cannot be expected to share a bedroom and therefore this can positively affect housing benefit/rent element of UC.
- You may receive more help with council tax (depends on individual council schemes)
- DLA can mean free entry for certain attractions and potentially a fast pass for queues.

I’m not knocking any of this, just providing information.
Click to expand...
That is so interesting.
Re EHCP. Hypothetically :rolleyes: if the school have to provide reports can they say if they think the child's home life is contributing to symptoms of something?
Eg hypothetically, say a child is often very lethargic, inattentive and has poor attendance and the parent is insisting it is due to autism and/or ADHD, but the school believes the child's home life is largely responsible are they allowed to say this?
 
Jelly Bean said:
That is so interesting.
Re EHCP. Hypothetically :rolleyes: if the school have to provide reports can they say if they think the child's home life is contributing to symptoms of something?
Eg hypothetically, say a child is often very lethargic, inattentive and has poor attendance and the parent is insisting it is due to autism and/or ADHD, but the school believes the child's home life is largely responsible are they allowed to say this?
Click to expand...
I think the school report on what they see or is happening in school. My younger kids’ school was very supportive and applied, fully supporting the issues I see, one of my older ones, I had to do it myself, but there were indisputable issues by that point, I don’t know what that school said in their contribution but things were so serious by then even they’d said it was my issues, it would’ve been ridiculous and ignored - because there was other evidence and medical professionals supporting my request.
 
Foxvint said:
Boom there it is. EHCP cover young ppl to 25. She's laying the foundation for the 'I'm a carer for my adult kids' grift. She's clearly got no intention of ever working again.
Click to expand...

Thing Two had an early days echp. When it was brought up that it covers up to 25 I saw screwed up noses and heard ‘wellll’. As it happens, at 24 and still disabled, always have been always will be, they are currently temp working in another country and have funds to cover the five figure income tax bill due at the end of the month for last tax year. I still don’t know what the up the 25 means. What I’m saying, Sarah, is that it might be easier just to let Hinge or Bracket do something with his bleeping life.
 
VeniVidiVicki said:
Unless her child is very badly falling behind, the chances of him getting an EHCP in East Kent, especially without the support of the school, are zero. She’s not even managed to get him DLA.

Given she can’t be arsed to even cook dinner, I suspect this is all beyond her
Click to expand...

It didn't even occur to her to pick up the phone rather than spaff money on taxis to every chemist in town, so I doubt there's any danger of this coming to pass.
 
Status
Thread locked. We start a new thread when they have over 1000 posts, click the blue button to see all threads for this topic and find the latest open thread.
Back
Top