Grackle #6 No hobbies or life, but giving Him a baby like a dutiful wife

[Cemma25]

I HATE the expressions of ‘boy mum’ and ‘girl mum’ it’s just parenting the way you do, and the notion that boys are all wrestling and jumping and girls are dollies and neatness. It isn’t true however…. I think she’ll be a smothering mother, no matter if her child was a boy or a girl, but the fact he’s a boy will make him the messiah in her families lives

 

[Sakkiedekock]

but the fact he’s a boy will make him the messiah in her families lives

 

[YellowLadybird]

I hope she is happy with her choices but it blows my mind that she is going to be a parent soon. Although she is an appropriate age, her personality still seems so young. Mind you, many people are forced to grow up through circumstances like this, so perhaps it will be the making of her. We will see.
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I HATE the expressions of ‘boy mum’ and ‘girl mum’ it’s just parenting the way you do, and the notion that boys are all wrestling and jumping and girls are dollies and neatness. It isn’t true however…. I think she’ll be a smothering mother, no matter if her child was a boy or a girl, but the fact he’s a boy will make him the messiah in her families lives

It's so reductive. Little kids don't even know whether they are boys or girls, and need the same care either way. A lot of the differences are imposed by the adults in their life long before gender differences actually matter.

 

[WeepingCassandra]

It's so reductive. Little kids don't even know whether they are boys or girls, and need the same care either way. A lot of the differences are imposed by the adults in their life long before gender differences actually matter.

I totally thought that myself too but having had a son in the last 18 months I do think it's deeper than that.

We have always been very free with choices for him, he's worn all colours, always had toys that are 'girly' like dolls and a tea set. He wants to play with his cars. He wants to watch cars. He wants to run around screeching like a banshee and his favourite thing is to be chased or play chase (even when he was just crawling). In my NCT group there are 5 boys and 3 girls, and it is clearly obvious that there is a difference in the genders at this age. We're all pretty progressive in the same way but when we meet up the girls will happily sit and play with their dolls, stay still a lot longer and sit and do things like colouring with more patience than the boys will (they'll do it, but for about 20 seconds before they run off to something else).

My sister has a girl and a boy, and they are totally different. Her boy is second so he's only ever had 'girls' toys to play with (my sister is much more into traditional roles and buys her daughter so much shite, but that's another topic) and his first word was 'tractor'.

The boys are much more chilled than the girls though, and generally if they fall over they won't cry unless it really hurts, but the girls will cry as soon as they hit the floor. We all said the same before we had kids, that gender stereotypes are mainly forced by society and culture but honestly, there are some significant differences.

 

[smoothie]

I've been a parent for 15 years and as a professional and academic I've always seen the differences. You parent to the individual though, not their sex, so I also dislike the terms.

 

[Just having a nose]

I totally thought that myself too but having had a son in the last 18 months I do think it's deeper than that.

We have always been very free with choices for him, he's worn all colours, always had toys that are 'girly' like dolls and a tea set. He wants to play with his cars. He wants to watch cars. He wants to run around screeching like a banshee and his favourite thing is to be chased or play chase (even when he was just crawling). In my NCT group there are 5 boys and 3 girls, and it is clearly obvious that there is a difference in the genders at this age. We're all pretty progressive in the same way but when we meet up the girls will happily sit and play with their dolls, stay still a lot longer and sit and do things like colouring with more patience than the boys will (they'll do it, but for about 20 seconds before they run off to something else).

My sister has a girl and a boy, and they are totally different. Her boy is second so he's only ever had 'girls' toys to play with (my sister is much more into traditional roles and buys her daughter so much shite, but that's another topic) and his first word was 'tractor'.

The boys are much more chilled than the girls though, and generally if they fall over they won't cry unless it really hurts, but the girls will cry as soon as they hit the floor. We all said the same before we had kids, that gender stereotypes are mainly forced by society and culture but honestly, there are some significant differences.

My three girls mustn’t have got the memo about being chilled then they were feral since the get go I will say though, they’ve all been ‘traditional’ in their choices of toys/outfits etc I’ve never pushed anything on them but they absolutely love their dolls, makeup (13 year old), dresses etc I tried them with football and more ‘boy’ activities just to see but they never took to it.

i realllly hope she doesn’t play into the typical ‘boy mum’ role though especially if she goes into having girls. I have four brothers and two sisters and my mum favours the boys massively, whenever we bring it up her standard answer is ‘well you know how it is with mums and their sons’ - the youngest two are mid 20’s and still she does their washing. It’s a completely toxic way to grow up especially as the girl. We know she has traditional values but I hope she goes against the grain with this one.

 

[Cemma25]

My three girls mustn’t have got the memo about being chilled then they were feral since the get go I will say though, they’ve all been ‘traditional’ in their choices of toys/outfits etc I’ve never pushed anything on them but they absolutely love their dolls, makeup (13 year old), dresses etc I tried them with football and more ‘boy’ activities just to see but they never took to it.

i realllly hope she doesn’t play into the typical ‘boy mum’ role though especially if she goes into having girls. I have four brothers and two sisters and my mum favours the boys massively, whenever we bring it up her standard answer is ‘well you know how it is with mums and their sons’ - the youngest two are mid 20’s and still she does their washing. It’s a completely toxic way to grow up especially as the girl. We know she has traditional values but I hope she goes against the grain with this one.

my youngest boy loves dolls and my niece loves dinosaurs, climbing trees and generally being feral. It’s all anecdotal - people are individuals, but it’s society that shapes them.
Some girls are ‘girly’ and some boys are ‘boyish’ and vice versa

anyway, Grace looks sliiiiightly healthier in her latest video. i am so intrigued as to how she’s going to handle a baby

 

[f1fangirl]

The new tiktok she’s posted of her gyrating on an exercise ball…

 

[Harhei]

Ooh she’s so quirky and unique and definitely does not seem a bit deranged lately

 

[Millennial Pink]

Ooh she’s so quirky and unique and definitely does not seem a bit deranged lately

Why does she remind me of salad fingers?

 

[sk8666]

Why does she remind me of salad fingers?

Oh my god you hit the nail on the head

 

[mcgee]

Ooh she’s so quirky and unique and definitely does not seem a bit deranged lately

The is the poster of hope for every single person on the planet. If Grace the biggest ick can get a partner, then anyone can Lucky she’s already pregnant because I can’t imagine seeing your wife pulling faces like that is much of a turn on I’d turn to celibacy if my other half was pulling faces like that

 

[jackolantern]

The is the poster of hope for every single person on the planet. If Grace the biggest ick can get a partner, then anyone can Lucky she’s already pregnant because I can’t imagine seeing your wife pulling faces like that is much of a turn on I’d turn to celibacy if my other half was pulling faces like that

In horrible reality I don’t think it ever mattered what she looked like, their faith just treats women like servants and incubators - if she can clean a house and provide a child that’s all they care about.

 

[Fenella]

She always reminds me of Kurtan from This Country but I’m not sure why, face wise, not anything else

 

[LydiaDeetzHat]

The is the poster of hope for every single person on the planet. If Grace the biggest ick can get a partner, then anyone can

If they have what was effectively an arranged marriage yes,,

 

[Cemma25]

She always reminds me of Kurtan from This Country but I’m not sure why, face wise, not anything else

She does look like him a but She often has the Gloucestershire twang in certain words I assume from her Dad, she’s gangly and awkward too so that’s probably why

 

[toastedwoofles]

Fucking sick of this wedding guest dress hunt.

She's a guest, nobody is going to give a shit about what she wears. Just bash a dress on and go

 

[mcgee]

Fucking sick of this wedding guest dress hunt.

She's a guest, nobody is going to give a shit about what she wears. Just bash a dress on and go

At this point it looks like she practically begging for a brand to gift her a custom made dress. Who cares at this point, she has awful fashion sense so no matter what she wears it’s going to look drab.

 

[LydiaDeetzHat]

Fucking sick of this wedding guest dress hunt.

She's a guest, nobody is going to give a shit about what she wears. Just bash a dress on and go

exactly. i agonised for ages when I attended my first and only wedding for several reasons - 1 because I don't really have the lifestyle that fits these occasions wardrobe wise 2 because I had put on weigh during lockdowns 3 because my friend had put off her wedding so many times over the pandemic 4 because it was lord of the rings themed 5 i didnt have much money.. iwent with a pink dress in the M&S sale which kind of fit the theme in style.. but then we had a massive heatwave so i ended up grabbing a basic M&S cotton black short sleeved dress which I have worn to work since..Felt a tad scruffy

I really don't think at that stage my friend the bride really gave a crap what I wore. She was just glad that I had managed to get thereout into the countryside from London during massive rail strikes that day

 

[Former_Antelopee]

Fucking sick of this wedding guest dress hunt.

She's a guest, nobody is going to give a shit about what she wears. Just bash a dress on and go

My tiktok for you page has been full of these videos from multiple people, is it a trend?