It is absolutely possible that Jamie will be a wonderful father and that everything will all fall into place when the baby is born, but it’s also possible for the opposite to happen. Not to put down what you are saying, I’m just saying this as an example and warning in case Gemma does read here. My husband acted so happy when I found out I was pregnant (not planned) and he was always very sweet and helpful, always going out for food and rubbing my feet. As soon as I went into labor, my husband did absolutely nothing. I was 5 weeks premature because I have a double uterus that is split down the middle, causing two smaller uteruses. I had nothing packed, nursery wasn’t even ready, no bassinet set up, I realized that although my husband had been sweet to me, he hadn’t prepared for our child in any sense at all
After we got settled in at the hospital, he literally just sat in a chair next to the hospital bed. Didn’t talk to me or comfort me or help in anyway (I now think he resents me because I was able to sleep a little in between contractions
) during the actual birthing process, he didn’t do a damn thing either. Didn’t talk to me, wouldn’t even stand until one of the nurses made him help hold my leg so i that he could participate in some way. After she was born, he stay for a little while, then went home. To sleep. And he left me alone in the hospital with our newborn overnight. After he came back, he did bring snacks and we watched tv, but he didn’t really hold her very much, and he didn’t, and still has yet to, actually hold her, and love her, and connect with and appreciate her little soul. I don’t remember if he took the next day off work. I think he did. But I know he went back the next day, saying that since she was so early, he needs to plan a little so he can take some time off. Eventually he did, but it was only like 2 or 3 days. And since then, he hasn’t taken much time off, in fact he ended up working more, and not only that, he was a
crappy provider, he spent so much money on his own crap and we would barely have the essentials, I only had one bra, and very few clothes to wear.
After we brought her home, I did 99% of the child care, and housework, and cooking, he would come home from work, have a shower, spend about an hour with us and watch tv until he fell asleep on the couch. He didn’t hold her or love her or feed her or change her diapers or play with her. And if she cried, he straight up ignored her. I don’t have any family, and I didn’t have any help at all taking care of our daughter. And it’s not like I didn’t communicate my needs and boundaries. It I didn’t matter. I couldn’t leave because he was financially abusive among other things. (In US, student loans, medical debt and such) The postpartum depression and stress from having to take care of everything on top of being in an extremely toxic relationship literally almost killed me. I was so incredibly depressed for so many years that I can barely remember my daughter as a baby, and that hurts the most.
He still does absolutely nothing beside pay our bills, something I specifically told him was not okay with me before we even had a kid, because that how my father treated my mom and I hated him for it. He still comes home, takes a shower, watches tv, and goes to bed. He doesn’t brush her teeth, or read to her, or play with her, or talk with her, or take her for walks to the park, he doesn’t kiss her goodnight, he doesn’t prepare her food or clean up her messes or discipline her. He can’t even be in the same room with her without yelling at her.
I have had a very bad feeling about Jamie for a very long time, ever since he very first started to appear in videos. I’ve had my fair share of bad relationships and encounters with toxic people who may or may not be narcissistic, and I have learned to be aware and of people’s action and general vibe so that I can avoid them. I too have also noticed Genma’s demeanor and appearance change over the past couple years, and I have felt that it might be a result of being in a relationship with a toxic person. That kind of thing destroys your mind and sense of self. It sucks the life and happiness right out of you. All her other behavior aside, I was and still am concerned for her. She is so good at always putting on a happy face and creating her own world where everything is going to be okay. But I have that gut feeling that something is very wrong. Jaime may smile and hug and kiss Gemma when he comes on screen but I can see right through him. He is rotten to the core and stealing the light from others in order to create this disguise for himself. He loves the attention from being seen as “the good strong loving boyfriend” almost as much as he loves money.
Maybe I am wrong. Hopefully I am and Jamie turns out to be a wonderful husband and father. But I think women who has been in that situation or in toxic relationships know that there is a certain feeling you get when something or someone is seriously not right. I am not saying Gemma is completely innocent but I truly believe that she does not deserve to be with someone like that. No one does.
I know that in our society some people(especially women) are pressured to give other people (especially men) the benefit of the doubt, or second chance, or just wait and see. Sometimes some people make you think you love them just by doing or saying the right thing. Sometimes we may love someone very much, but relationships take a lot more than just love to make them work. Sometimes we have a lot of good memories with a person and we mistake that for trust. I just know that so many people stay in relationships for the wrong reasons and there is no shame in saying that you need something different. It takes strength and maturity to admit that what you needed before isn’t what you need now. Mothers especially, no matter what or who or why, must prioritize their mental, physical, and emotional health, for themselves and their children.
tl;dr kids are hard work for multiple people in healthy relationships/environments, they are 10x more difficult if you don’t have any support or if you are in a toxic environment/relationship duh
Also forgot to mention, if it is a boy, then the chances are high that Jamie will possibly be a negative influence on his son. Sons love to please their dad’s especially when dad is Emotionally Unable. My husband was a decent man when we met, then we moved in and started working with his toxic AF dad and now he is a piece of work just like his dad. He used to help me wash dishes, then his dad would make remarks and now he doesn’t clean up after himself at all. The apple really doesn’t fall far from the tree. Please be careful Gemma
. These influencers really will do anything to portray that they have this perfect life/relationship and people look upto them and wish that they had their life it's just toxic and sad
, I wish influencer culture didn't exist.
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I really hope we are wrong about Jamie but there is something off about the whole pregnancy to me. I don’t think she did herself any favours by trying to act as if it was planned and manifested. If anything she had such envy when Elle Darby announced her pregnancy she just had to bring her own plans forward so as not to miss out and cash in. Her pregnancy vlog was so strange. She kept on repeating herself about it being surreal and talking about feeling nauseous. I think she will be the type to milk her pregnancy for all it’s worth but the reality is having a baby is the easy part but it’s what comes after that can really test the strongest of couples