Gabriella Lindley #63 risking her life for a £3 movie… cewt

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I can really relate to her on hating summer. I’ve lost a lot of weight, and through this have developed body dysmorphia. Summer months are incredibly triggering for me as I can’t cover up body, I am seeing other girls in more revealing outfits and I’m constantly comparing myself, I feel horrible in myself and feel like I look like a monster and everyone can see how ugly I am, but I still try. I still push myself to go out, no matter how uncomfortable I feel, I have a holiday booked and I try to spend as much time with my boyfriend and my friends as possible, in an outside environment because I realise I need to live my life and not live my life for this horrible illness, sometimes I’m so glad I went out and other times I regret it, it is what it is but at least I’m not completely isolating myself - I’d also never tit on people for enjoying the summer months, because seasonal depression is very real and many people suffer in the winter months. I wish she’d push herself more, or if she doesn’t want to - stop putting others down because of it. Sorry for the rant it just hits very close to home!
 
I don't think it's hard to cover up in the summer at all to be honest. She had the right idea a few years ago when she wore those long floaty trousers with the off the shoulder top all the time. If she's too self conscious of her shoulders now she could stick a beach cover up over the top. A bit of sun and fresh sea air would really benefit her. It's incredibly weird that she refuses to open her windows as well. I find it hard to feel sorry for her at this point tbh, I don't like being too hot either but what's the point complaining if you won't open your windows and you live by the sea but refuse to go out there.
 
Is not even that warm? We've had a week of bright sunny days but all of sudden it's summer?!
I understand not liking the heat etc but we really aren't at that point. What's not to like about spring seriouslyyyyyy.
I have really annoying rashy/spotty skin which flares up this time of year so I do start to feel self conscious but you have to just see the positives and not wallow..... get your sound of music dress on Gabz and STFU.

She's such a bleeping bore and really needs to address her issues but she never will.
 
It’s bullshit, she was perfectly happy to go and hang out on the beach in palazzo pants and off the shoulder tops when she had Hobbie and the twins to hang out with. She’s just angry that no one wants to socialise with her any more, and can’t understand that it’s her fault.
 
The thing is, I think we can all relate to feeling insecure at times during the summer months. Obviously, BDD takes this to a different level and I totally empathise with that, but Gabbie seems unable to separate those feelings from other people - ie you can find summer months difficult (and being honest about this can be good) but it doesn't mean you have to resent other people for the fact they're comfortable or are making the best of it.

There's not a finite amount of happiness in the world - other people being happy doesn't mean there's less for you. They're not taking anything off you.

Also, Gabby often takes it to another level and says she hate it being light - not just hot or summery, but literally sunlight. I get that she often says stuff for attention and to be different but...what? It is a basic fact that humans need sunlight and sunlight makes you feel better? That is just true. I think she'd be surprised how much a walk in sunshine (even if she's covered in a linen smock and sunglasses so no one can see her) would improve her mood*


*And I am not someone who thinks that exercise and drinking water etc magically cures depression. It doesn't - but a bit of light can take the edge off.
 
We all know she doesn't hate summer anyway, we've been on this merry go round before. She hates being overweight, uncomfortable and no doubt sweaty in the heat and she hates that she has no friends to make exciting plans with. Festering in your flat in winter is more excusable because the weathers shite and you can get cozy. Doing the same in summer when everyone's out living their best lives? Not so much.

She hates it because it reminds her of what she wants and doesn't have. Yet can't acknowledge that it is all within her grasp if she just stopped being such a miserly bleep for 5 minutes.
 
judgejohndeed said:
I don't think it's hard to cover up in the summer at all to be honest. She had the right idea a few years ago when she wore those long floaty trousers with the off the shoulder top all the time. If she's too self conscious of her shoulders now she could stick a beach cover up over the top. A bit of sun and fresh sea air would really benefit her. It's incredibly weird that she refuses to open her windows as well. I find it hard to feel sorry for her at this point tbh, I don't like being too hot either but what's the point complaining if you won't open your windows and you live by the sea but refuse to go out there.
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People do it for religious reasons in hotter climates, it's completely possible and she's never really dressed that revealing.

Her wide leg trousers and maxi dresses will do fine.
 
Also, she basically has the impression that everyone is bronzed half naked goddesses in the summer because she lives her life through Instagram. If she actually went out and walked around she’d realise that most people in real life look nothing like that, nor do they care what she looks like.
 
Also, throwback to her NY Vlog (or was it Austria?) when she was physically raging at the coldness, and in return snapped/barked at Jane and ended the Vlog sharply. She doesn’t like the cold, just likes to know that she can hide away in the flat without people querying it. I also think she likes that it makes other people want to stay in too, as then she feels normal and doesn’t feel envy or fomo.
 
Celery16 said:
Also, she basically has the impression that everyone is bronzed half naked goddesses in the summer because she lives her life through Instagram. If she actually went out and walked around she’d realise that most people in real life look nothing like that, nor do they care what she looks like.
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She also lives in a very diverse city. I'm not saying that people in other cities would be staring at her or anything (given that she's like, average female size anyway) but in Brighton especially I don't think anyone is going to care about her. Kind of the same kind of not but I read this interesting thing once about anxiety and how it's slightly narcissistic in a way to assume everyone else is staring at you all the time, like you're not so special that anyone cares what you're wearing or what you're doing. I know it's not that easy but I do find comfort in that sentiment tbh.
 
judgejohndeed said:
She also lives in a very diverse city. I'm not saying that people in other cities would be staring at her or anything (given that she's like, average female size anyway) but in Brighton especially I don't think anyone is going to care about her. Kind of the same kind of not but I read this interesting thing once about anxiety and how it's slightly narcissistic in a way to assume everyone else is staring at you all the time, like you're not so special that anyone cares what you're wearing or what you're doing. I know it's not that easy but I do find comfort in that sentiment tbh.
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Haha, I was literally about to write that its pretty self centered to think strangers give a tit about how you look in your summer clothes, but I decided not to in case I ruffled any feathers
 
Gabby's problem is that she is always expecting people to be looking at her, she needs to realise that people are so wrapped up in how they look that they don't actually care about what anyone else is wearing/looks like. I quite liked the bardot top/flowing trousers era, I think she looked nice. Also, who is stopping her from sitting in her red hot flat wearing jumpers? No one! Literally Gabby if that's what you want to do, do that. And if people want to wear shorts or, God forbid, wear a swimsuit/bikini on a beach they can do that too. Winter triggers SAD in so so many people, why is she intent on seeing people miserable?
 
I have hyperhydrosis so sweat heavily all the time and used to cover myself up in dark baggy clothing to try and hide it and tights on the beach to cover my chubby, pasty legs. Then one day it just occurred to me that why the flying fig was I making myself *more* sweaty and physically uncomfortable, for the opinion of strangers? Their opinions aren't my business and they will have them regardless of what you do. Also you realise that you are so much harder on yourself than most others are and that actually, they really don't see you the way you think. I'd often not wear something like Docs because I thought I looked too fat for them, then I'd see girls who were substantially bigger than me and they looked beautiful. Most people don't actually give a damn and aren't paying you the attention you think.

Learn this Gabby because life's so much more worth living when you do. No one on their death bed wishes they covered up and avoided life more just so strangers didn't think badly of them.
 
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