I recommend anyone interested in the darker side of the Charlie-Josie relationship to watch this (surprisingly still undeleted) vlog:
Back in 2016 Josie and Charlie were invited to the premiere of the tv series Victoria at Kensington Palace. It was a rare opportunity that I'm sure Josie was looking forward to immensely.
At the 4:34 minute mark in the vlog, you can see she's taken her makeup off and has been crying. She's trying to smile through it, and has been trying to soothe herself with a stuffed animal and various beauty treatments, but you can clearly tell she's emotionally in pain. She essentially explains that when she came home to get ready for the event, Charlie had been drinking quite a bit, they had a nasty argument, and he stormed out of the door, presumably to drink some more with his friends somewhere else, for who knows how long.
Charlie ruined her evening and she was too emotionally upset to go to the event.
Red flags:
-there is evidence of a regular pattern of Charlie's alcoholism "we do argue and normally it's alcohol related"
-Charlie torments her further by throwing tantrums, disappearing without telling her where he's going and how long he will be gone until, causing her to worry about his well-being (psychological abuse)
-signs of a pattern of him becoming belligerently drunk and disruptive when he stumbles back home late "hopefully he doesn't wake me up when he comes in later.."(15:15 minute mark)
-she shames herself for being upset about it, dismisses her own need to emotionally process the situation "sorry if I'm a little bit puffed up" "I'm not gonna lay here moping around, that's definitely not my style" "sorry today's vlog has been a little bit of a downer" "hope you don't mind this vlog being a little more negative Nelly (referring to herself)"
-she allows his bad behavior to negatively impact her happiness and career
-she uses materialism as a salve for psychological and emotional distress
-is willing to quickly forgive his egregious behavior to keep up the facade of a happy couple "but hopefully Charlie and I will make up tomorrow morning and alllll will be forgotten and forgiven...because yeah we've got the lovely weekend in the Cotswolds..."
I honestly feel sorry for her, because nobody deserves this kind of toxicity, particularly from a partner. I appreciate her courage to be open and vulnerable, but why she stayed with him through all of this I wish I knew. As someone who has experienced abuse, I can clearly see the pattern, the narcissism, the abuse of power, the lack of general respect and consideration towards Josie and the dogs that Charlie exhibits, and I find it deeply concerning. She should get out of that relationship or risk a lifetime of turmoil. Maybe things are better now, simply because Josie has more financial power int he relationship now, but true narcissists don't change.