Someone I dated was similar, his previous relationship ended because she wanted kids and marriage and he didn’t, when we met a few months after that ended he told me that he was unsure of what he wanted, made his ex seem toxic but that was fine with me but he was cheating on me so got rid and within a year he was married and had a baby with someone else. Sometimes it is just not the right person, but I did feel sorry for his ex, they were together for a long long time. House, dog everything! Must be gutting but tbh, those men almost always turn out to be a little rotten and imagine James is probably hooking up with randoms!