Oh for fucks sake. My kids rooms were fleapits most of the time ( as was mine when I was a child) .. mostly I just left them to it, occasionally could stand it no longer and went on the warpath threatening destruction and death with the big black bin liner.occasionally helped out if they wanted it nice ( for all of 5 minutes). Not EVERYTHING is a teachable moment. Actually the occasional parental meltdown IS useful.its called real life and it helps children learn how we all muddle along in this life. My god I can't stand this po faced earnestness.Is nothing funny in her world, or nothing just meh, yeah get on with it, is nothing ever just a shitstorm were all sorry about later? I would bloody hate to be her kid. Actually on the quiet she's probably having a tantrum and throwing all their toys out the window.