Dr Jessica Taylor

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littlesunflower said:
I just dont get it. Jaimi must know she lies. That fake screenshot on her recent FB page, you can’t tell me she is not aware that Jess created that. And if she isn’t aware, Jess is even more of a deplorable lying crook for manipulating Jaimi.
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The cognitive dissonance from the gaslighting that narcissists do makes those close to them doubt pretty much all their own thoughts and ideas. Jess will have fed her a narrative that makes them the victims/saviours and that it’s them against the world. The regular posts Jaimi puts on social media about how amazing Jess is and how they have an eternal love rings loads of alarm bells. It could just be that Jaimi is young and emotionally immature but I can’t help but feel she has been programmed how to think and behave by Jess. It’s not a massive age gap but when they met Jaimi was very young and Jess was a married Mum with loads of work experience in managerial roles. That makes them miles apart in terms of life experience which creates a massive power imbalance. Maybe I’m being too generous to Jaimi but I think people who are in relationships with narcissistic people are coerced and manipulated constantly so they behave exactly the way their partner wants them to. If they don’t do as expected they are devalued until they do as is expected or they are discarded.
 
CastroKahloLilith said:
So today and yesterday on FB and Insta, it's "why are people trolling me and jealous? My life isn't perfect, I've got long term health conditions that will never resolve".

The same conditions she told us all a few weeks ago were cured by becoming a lesbian.
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Yes she specifically said all of her ailments disappeared when she left her heterosexual marriage.
 

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I bought Sexy but Psycho via audible and while elements of it didn’t sit right with me at the time of listening to it (for e.g. her attempts to resurrect the nonsensical satanic panic) I didn’t question it too much. But SA’s account of her story on Twitter led me to seriously question the ethics and morale standing of JT. Which I think we can all agree is absent. To make sloppy mistakes is appalling, given the background academic training JT has had. She should know better, but the horrible arrogance and downright contempt she has displayed in ‘dealing’ with the accusations levelled against her is absolutely and totally unforgivable. This being the case, I have felt horrible knowing that I’ve paid for and still owned JT’s book in my audible library. I was so relieved to be able to return the book to audible for a refund. Owning that book made me feel complicit in the trauma caused by JT to SA and others. So I just wanted to post so that others would know that audible books can be returned. I couldn’t bare to think I’d helped to line that horrible liar’s pockets.
 
1. Jess told me the lyric business was to help her brother. Possibly due to him being in a gang, but I can't remember tbh.
2. All Jaimi's designs were created using Adobe Express images. I know, because I created myriad VF images using Express and saw what she was creating, as it was the same account. Although it is perfectly legal to create and sell images created using Express, talent really isn't required, either.
3. I think it's possible for someone to both be in an abusive relationship, and therefore abused, but also be abusive in their own right. It's important to remember that Jaimi is an adult, with her own agency, and has chosen to behave reprehensibly towards SA and potentially others. She may well be enmeshed, and I'm personally certain she is, but she isn't a slave, and could choose to stop, to step away from social media, to behave differently. She doesn't, therefore she is as dangerous as Jess.
 
Jessterday said:
3. I think it's possible for someone to both be in an abusive relationship, and therefore abused, but also be abusive in their own right. It's important to remember that Jaimi is an adult, with her own agency, and has chosen to behave reprehensibly towards SA and potentially others. She may well be enmeshed, and I'm personally certain she is, but she isn't a slave, and could choose to stop, to step away from social media, to behave differently. She doesn't, therefore she is as dangerous as Jess.
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Lots of women in abusive relationships do things they wouldn't do outside of the relationship through fear, I don't agree that she would have a choice. Perpetrators can control a woman's actions and thoughts.

We've seen how Jessica goes after people publicly, imagine how badly she'd treat someone behind closed doors. If Jamie goes against Jessica she risks losing her job, her home and the family she feels she has with Jessica's sons.
 
Jessterday said:
1. Jess told me the lyric business was to help her brother. Possibly due to him being in a gang, but I can't remember tbh.
2. All Jaimi's designs were created using Adobe Express images. I know, because I created myriad VF images using Express and saw what she was creating, as it was the same account. Although it is perfectly legal to create and sell images created using Express, talent really isn't required, either.
3. I think it's possible for someone to both be in an abusive relationship, and therefore abused, but also be abusive in their own right. It's important to remember that Jaimi is an adult, with her own agency, and has chosen to behave reprehensibly towards SA and potentially others. She may well be enmeshed, and I'm personally certain she is, but she isn't a slave, and could choose to stop, to step away from social media, to behave differently. She doesn't, therefore she is as dangerous as Jess.
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LOL so Ms Jess “I’m on track to be a millionaire” Taylor had no other means of supporting her brother? She’s full of it.
 
How disgusting to attack someone and make out they were helping out a ‘gang member’ when it was a member of her family. I do prefer to think that the Derbyshire ramblers are gangsters though.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not absolving Jaimi of responsibility for her actions but having experienced narcissistic abuse and control I’m not sure at her age that I would have been strong enough to make a stand and escape.
 
Jessterday said:
No, I think it'll happen in time, though.
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I hope so but I dread to think what damage will be done in the meantime.

Anyone who watched a tiktok on how to make money could produce something better than that. Glad to see that the PHD was money well spent.

ETA - oh the above was in response to a post about her reflective journals which seems to have disappeared.
 
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I bought a copy of the reflective journal for researchers and academics. It’s 200 blank pages, with an instruction at the top of each page, such as, draw a doodle of your research, or draw yourself with a huge cup of coffee. Or, write down all the ways your participants could be harmed, distressed or upset by your research. I don’t know what I thought I was buying but it wasn’t this. I’m sure some of the instructions will be useful for helping me to think about my research, but it’s not £17.99 worth of useful.
 
Jessterday said:
Yes, but I've left an abusive relationship myself. I know the costs involved. I also know it's possible.
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I was in an abusive relationship when I was Jaimi's age. I think it's a vulnerable time - you're old enough to have adult responsibilities and choices, but not quite old enough to have accrued the life experience that would help with those responsibilities and choices. A few elements of her situation remind me of my own.

Much like Jess, my ex set great store by social media and expected me to get involved in his Facebook fights. I remember one night he went outside to ask some kids in the park to turn their music down, and when he returned he made a dramatic post about how his life had been threatened outside his own home but how obviously no one would care because these kids were black and he's white, and black people are allowed to terrorise whites these days. Naturally his post got a critical response from some friends, and he then got very angry. He was ranting to me about how even his own friends didn't care that he'd almost been killed, and I was trying to soothe him.

Even at the time, I knew that the incident as he described it almost certainly hadn't happened. He would decide that complete strangers hated him or wanted him dead based on their facial expressions (he once screamed at me for disputing this). I suspected that those kids had laughed at him or refused to turn the music down, he had decided this meant they were on the brink of violence. But even though I knew he was being racist and irrational and exaggerating at the very least, my priority was still to soothe him and calm him and make sure he saw me as on his 'side'. I remember I tried to give the impression of support without actually saying I agreed with him, and how my blood went cold when he said, "You don't believe me, do you?" I was so scared of what the punishment for disbelief might be.

I think Jaimi does believe Jess. But I also suspect she may disbelieve her at the same time. That message she sent to Sally Ann was manipulative and unkind, but I think her primary aim in sending it will have been to keep herself in Jess's good books rather than to hurt Sally Ann. Perhaps I'm reading too much of my old self into her behaviour, but certain things seem depressingly familiar.
 
I feel quite sorry for Jaimi. I was in a relationship with a narcissist who was 15 years older than me when I was 25. It completely changed my personality to the point that I didn't recognise myself. I was so determined to stay in her good books that I acted exactly like Jaimi is now, going to bat for my partner against imagined enemies and constantly posting on social media about how much we loved each other and how perfect our lives were. It didn't work though and she would always find some way to tear me down, even when I thought I was doing everything right. Jaimi's experience of abuse, and her limited life experience made her ripe for abuse and Jess honed in on it. I really hope Jaimi manages to get away one day. Probably what's more likely is that Jess will discard her once she's no longer being Jess's narcissistic supply.
 
I don’t know if I would describe their relationship as typically “abusive”. I do think Jess has taken advantage of the fact Jaimi is young and impressionable, but I don’t think she set out to do this before meeting Jaimi. It seems like Jaimi has morphed into a mini-Jess, developing a grandiose view of herself, and has learned to mimic Jess.

Jess has most likely repeatedly told her they are both special and different. That they will achieve great things (sadly at the expense of anyone in their way). The age difference, and life experience difference is definitely questionable.

I actually know someone who criticised Jaimi on Twitter and Jaimi messaged the woman asking why she had such a problem with her. I remember thinking how bizarre it was. In life people are going to criticise you or even outright dislike you, and they are within their right to do so. J&J cannot seem to handle that because they have such grand views of themselves.
 
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