Cole & Abbie The Fox Family #5

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lollyvolupti said:
Yes, they can (and do) report their concerns, but it’s difficult to progress it if the person doesn’t want to be helped.
When there’s a baby in the equation though, that’s different.
I’m nit referring to these 2 causing any harm to their baby, but as you know, these things do happen. Tragically
I’m sure Cole and Abbie will dote on the little one
It’s Abbie’s mental health that’s the concern
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Abbie has no sparkle in her eye anymore. Her mental health should be at the front of her family's thoughts, I hope they are. I'm just out of three weeks in hospital from a severe depressive episode myself, the signs are all there 😒
 
Soyak said:
Abbie has no sparkle in her eye anymore. Her mental health should be at the front of her family's thoughts, I hope they are. I'm just out of three weeks in hospital from a severe depressive episode myself, the signs are all there 😒
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They are aren’t they.
She smiles for the camera, but it doesn’t seem genuine. Like she’s performing .
I hope you feel stronger 🥰

I’m actually concerned for Abbie after the birth.
The whole pregnancy has been so hyped up, they’re in a whirlwind. Abbie will feel redundant when he’s out as I’m sure Cole will take over.
 
lollyvolupti said:
They are aren’t they.
She smiles for the camera, but it doesn’t seem genuine. Like she’s performing .
I hope you feel stronger 🥰

I’m actually concerned for Abbie after the birth.
The whole pregnancy has been so hyped up, they’re in a whirlwind. Abbie will feel redundant when he’s out as I’m sure Cole will take over.
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Thanks, I'm getting better everyday, but it's a long process x
 
Definitely, coles going to be too busy with the baby to be bothered with abbies mental health afterwards. The differences between her last two pregnancies and this are probably going to be on her mind as well. I worry she might feel quite redundant as once born, she's sort of done her job. Although she carried the baby hes not biologically hers and I worry cole will maybe take pleasure in subtlety reminding her of this daily, "oh he looks just like me" etc. I think as well if abbies mental health does take a turn, Cole will probably be so oblivious to it all as she'll just be interested in the baby and tiktoks. I can see cole becoming irritated by abbie if she doesn't feel up to "performing" for the social media's. Also abbie will need the help with g&k, although they seem lovely children, they've been through a lot these past few years and I have no doubt that they're excited for baby but things will change in their wee worlds that they'll also need support with, children act out because they don't know how to properly express their emotions and I can see that happening here, abbie being too emotionally drained to be there fully and Cole being too taken in with the baby to fully be there for g&k as well. I think coles going to very nippy with them especially if they wake the baby/play too rough when he's a bit older etc
 
sam0206 said:
Definitely, coles going to be too busy with the baby to be bothered with abbies mental health afterwards. The differences between her last two pregnancies and this are probably going to be on her mind as well. I worry she might feel quite redundant as once born, she's sort of done her job. Although she carried the baby hes not biologically hers and I worry cole will maybe take pleasure in subtlety reminding her of this daily, "oh he looks just like me" etc. I think as well if abbies mental health does take a turn, Cole will probably be so oblivious to it all as she'll just be interested in the baby and tiktoks. I can see cole becoming irritated by abbie if she doesn't feel up to "performing" for the social media's. Also abbie will need the help with g&k, although they seem lovely children, they've been through a lot these past few years and I have no doubt that they're excited for baby but things will change in their wee worlds that they'll also need support with, children act out because they don't know how to properly express their emotions and I can see that happening here, abbie being too emotionally drained to be there fully and Cole being too taken in with the baby to fully be there for g&k as well. I think coles going to very nippy with them especially if they wake the baby/play too rough when he's a bit older etc
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I agree 100% with everything you’ve just said
The new situation will take a lot of levelling and settling. Many more pressures on the family.
This being Cole’s first and probably only biological long awaited for child, he will be her everything. She won’t be able to help it.
Once Abbie starts to notice she’s not top of the pecking order anymore, she won’t be able to unsee it and it will all start unravelling.
I’m so sad for them. We can all see how it will go.
Both Cole and Abbie have issues with mental health and throwing a baby into the mix won’t help to say the least.
It’s all fun and games till it’s not anymore 😕

sam0206 said:
Definitely, coles going to be too busy with the baby to be bothered with abbies mental health afterwards. The differences between her last two pregnancies and this are probably going to be on her mind as well. I worry she might feel quite redundant as once born, she's sort of done her job. Although she carried the baby hes not biologically hers and I worry cole will maybe take pleasure in subtlety reminding her of this daily, "oh he looks just like me" etc. I think as well if abbies mental health does take a turn, Cole will probably be so oblivious to it all as she'll just be interested in the baby and tiktoks. I can see cole becoming irritated by abbie if she doesn't feel up to "performing" for the social media's. Also abbie will need the help with g&k, although they seem lovely children, they've been through a lot these past few years and I have no doubt that they're excited for baby but things will change in their wee worlds that they'll also need support with, children act out because they don't know how to properly express their emotions and I can see that happening here, abbie being too emotionally drained to be there fully and Cole being too taken in with the baby to fully be there for g&k as well. I think coles going to very nippy with them especially if they wake the baby/play too rough when he's a bit older etc
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They’ll get a lot of “oh Cole he looks just like you when you were a baby” from her family too won’t she.
Thats bound to hurt.
Although they chose similar physical attributes to Abbie in the donor, he is not hers biologically, and she’ll be really aware of this.
Im tense just thinking about how it’s going to go down.
Abbies going to need alot of support. It’s a bit of a headfuck isn’t it!?
Shame she’s lost her friends
 
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foxfam_truth_be_told89 said:
21 scans they had since she was 6 weeks till the last one only days ago
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21?! Surely not all through the NHS? If so, that is despicable. I was told I had to have extra growth scans because our first daughter was 'big' and I think that meant and extra 3 in later pregnancy. I actually opted out of the last one with little complaint from my midwife. It ended up being scheduled a couple of days before my planned c-section. So I asked, as there were no worries for her or my health, she just appeared to be another bigger than average bub should we just leave it until we meet her. They agreed it was quite sensible.

This isn't me saying 'look at me, I am fantastic' because I can tell you, I was thrilled that the fact I grow big girls meant I got to see them more. But I also understand the NHS is stretched and there are parents to be who need scans for more upsetting, life changing reasons. We are also still in a pandemic and a hospital should be the last place you want your heavily pregnant wife. How can you think it is ok to be a drain on the service?

I don't want to say they have little to no conscience, I hope they just have no common sense as that is far less sinister. I genuinely hope the little boy's arrival is safe and he is healthy. Little cherub has done no wrong is probably already peeved with how much he has been poked and prodded before he even started making his journey out into the real world. I also hope we are all wrong and it changes them, they set an amazing example to him and his older siblings. I can't see it happening but all 3 kids deserve it. Hopefully, the father's influnce on G&K shines through because they seem like great kids.
 
Cole won't be letting anyone but her and her family near baby Prince. Its the other 2 kids I feel for. They will be told to shut up all the time as baby is sleeping, and probably they will be told to spend a lot of time in their bedrooms. Do you think baby will be here by the time we need a new thread? My thought on the name is Damien ( as in only fools and horses ) he is the child of cole so it fits lol.
 
Whateveryousay said:
My first baby was stillborn at 39 weeks when I was 16. Out of nowhere. I was fine, then at my last check I wasn't.
In my second pregnancy I was absolutely terrified that it was going to happen again. I made stuff up all the time so that I could go to hospital and get the baby checked more often. I said I had more morning sickness than I genuinely did have. I stressed myself out deliberately so that my blood pressure would go up. I'm not sure at the time that it was always done consciously... more like I convinced myself he wasn't moving, so went to hospital. I made them induce me. I played on my mental health and how damaging it was to me. They induced me at 38 weeks. It took 6 days and ended up in an emergency c section and a nicu stay for 2 weeks. The baby wasn't ready. He couldn't breathe properly on his own because his lungs weren't ready.
I had a tit ton of therapy before attempting to have my third child. She was born at 28 weeks and was really poorly lots of times.
I'm not proud of any of my second pregnancy at all.
My point is you CAN make them induce you. This was almost 28 years ago. Things possibly have changed. I don't know Abbie's maternity history. I know since I have actually admitted to some of the things I did, that I have spoken to other people who have done similar things in pregnancy ofter loss. Someone tried to break her own waters.
These two annoy the Holy duck out of me.


This is like my TikTok in an absolute nutshell!!
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how awful for
Soyak said:
Abbie has no sparkle in her eye anymore. Her mental health should be at the front of her family's thoughts, I hope they are. I'm just out of three weeks in hospital from a severe depressive episode myself, the signs are all there 😒
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i am really worried for her mental health. i know the end is exhausting but shes really deteriorated this past week

Soyak said:
Thanks, I'm getting better everyday, but it's a long process x
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hope you’re ok 😘
 
Cole is strange
everytime I see them on TikTok Cole is making a point about being in the hospital and midwives asking where dad is .
does she not realise she ain’t the only same sex couple to have a child ffs 🤦🏻‍♀️
Honestly I don’t get her point at all . Yes she ain’t a man who cares ffs . Midwives are used to same sex couples it’s not like Cole is the only women to have a baby with a women 😂😂🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️
 
21 scans!!! That’s nearly 3 scans a month what a drain on our NHS during this time. In fact this pair are just a drain on society as a whole! I am going to go against the general feeling here and say Abbie is playing a good game. When this goes fake tits up people are going to feel sorry for her! This is how she works I have seen this from her one to many times. She plays the mental health and poor me card all to well. Having a child is draining but this one makes sure each and every person that is silly enough to listen knows about her struggles. Struggles that everyday people just get on with and don’t make a drama out of.
Ratboy posted that she has never missed anything do to with “her” kids in the 6 years they have been together! They have been together 6 years now have they.
They are just using each other for their own personal gains but the day you receive just one tattle thread is the day that people have spotted your lies and scams! You now have 5 threads nearly 6 time to crawl back under that big rock!
 
coryc217 said:
Cole is strange
everytime I see them on TikTok Cole is making a point about being in the hospital and midwives asking where dad is .
does she not realise she ain’t the only same sex couple to have a child ffs 🤦🏻‍♀️
Honestly I don’t get her point at all . Yes she ain’t a man who cares ffs . Midwives are used to same sex couples it’s not like Cole is the only women to have a baby with a women 😂😂🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️
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She definitely has issue with her sexuality.
Be gay, be proud, but don’t let it define you. It’s just a part of you not your whole identity, at least it shouldn’t be, but in Cole’s case, she’s very focussed on that.
She’s not the first and certainly not the last lesbian to go through IVF
Literally no one cares
 
foxfamscam said:
21 scans!!! That’s nearly 3 scans a month what a drain on our NHS during this time. In fact this pair are just a drain on society as a whole! I am going to go against the general feeling here and say Abbie is playing a good game. When this goes fake tits up people are going to feel sorry for her! This is how she works I have seen this from her one to many times. She plays the mental health and poor me card all to well. Having a child is draining but this one makes sure each and every person that is silly enough to listen knows about her struggles. Struggles that everyday people just get on with and don’t make a drama out of.
Ratboy posted that she has never missed anything do to with “her” kids in the 6 years they have been together! They have been together 6 years now have they.
They are just using each other for their own personal gains but the day you receive just one tattle thread is the day that people have spotted your lies and scams! You now have 5 threads nearly 6 time to crawl back under that big rock!
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Ok, so I’ve heard of private scans costing between £70-120 each, sometimes much more (nuchal fold for example), so on that basis, they’ve potentially cost the NHS around £1300-£2200 in unnecessary scans. Taking out 3 scans most people have anyway (12&20 and throwing in one for good measure)
Isn’t that awful
 
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