If I were Big Fella and Dense, I would avoid lurking/reading here for their own mental health. I'm no Ph.d in psychology and don't have any special psychiatric skills other than what my eyes and ears detect coming from Big Fella via social media. For some reason, she seems to be going against her number one rule that was repeated ad nauseum in the past....that she doesn't give a
tit what people think of her. She may try to maintain that demeanor now but her behavior belies that assertion by her multiple attempts on IG to mansplain why they didn't do something as promised or be self-deprecating about her "big belly" as well as address some other things we've criticized her/them for on this forum.
Not to sound like my great granny but she did have a great way of life that got her to the age of 99. When asked what the key to her longevity was....she always would say the same thing over and over "other people's opinions of me is none of my business." Hence she would never get into gossip (I know I'm sounding like a hypocrite here but I'm not great granny), and she only worried about maintaining a healthy mental way of life by walking at least 1 mile a day even at the age of 99 and caring for all loved ones with all her heart. It also helped that she didn't smoke and drank alcohol very moderately. Not to preach that I live the same lifestyle as granny (
) but I would tell Big Fella put down the IG for a while, stop reading comments on YT and stop, for the love of God, lurking/reading Tattle and trying to out us via your IT guru friend Paula! It's obvious we are not your #1 fans and negative opinions will be shared that you won't like and might upset you. Remember, other people's opinions of you is none of your business, so just live your "best life."