You know what - we all have issues. in the fist two years of having my kid, I struggled like duck. I would neck a couple of large wines once the baby was asleep - i was overwhelmed, exhausted and struggling. So, with that in mind I have empathy, I'm not perfect...HOWEVER, there comes a point where you pick yourself up and prioritise. I still find it difficult, being a parent is hard, but I do my absolute best, and I don't go down the route whereby when I want to switch off, hand my phone to my kid to film me necking tequila shots for 3 solid weeks.
By all means go have a night out with your mates and get destroyed. I know it's important to switch off from time to time, but duck me, don't do it night after night in a kiddle friendly holiday venue to appease your guilt.