Beckiejbrown #4 Whether she’s bi or whether she’s straight, fake ADHD means love has to wait

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sunniva said:
Tbf what she’s describing is a pretty typical female pattern of sexual attraction - wanting to know a partner well before properly enjoying sex, needing intimacy and connection, wanting less frequent sex than men, desire fluctuation at different points of a relationship. Obviously it’s different for all woman and at different ages, but she’s basically describing the broad cultural stereotype of female sexuality here.

It grinds my gears when people refer to that same thing as somehow akin to asexuality so I’m glad she explicitly said it’s not that. And I honestly can even understand her distress at expectations men have around sex…but she’s kidding herself if she thinks she is somehow exceptional for this. I also was tentatively suggest that her libido is the least of her problems when it comes to finding a partner lol.

This little clip was also a perfect example of what this post described recently - where Beckie seems to pick up part way into a conversation that just isn’t happening outside of her head. I think this idea of an internalised audience is bang on… she obviously developed some sort of captive-audience-schema as an online teenager, where she obsessively sees herself from an imagined outside perspective. If that makes sense. But her anudience don’t even exist anymore, and that’s why she seems so batshit crazy all the time.
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this makes so so much sense- it explains so much about how she talks
Bonki said:
For someone that watches and rewatches herself day in and day out she doesn't get much insight into herself. She contradicts herself constantly, she is so busy figuring herself out that she is missing her life. That's the sad part about Beckie. Not that she doesn't have a man or whatever else she thinks she needs to have a valid life. The sad part is she is missing her actual life by constantly analysing herself and her life. She is stuck comparing herself to her older self, while still being disappointed she isn't someone else entirely.
Beckie is also in constant fight mode. Fight against all the injustice she been through, all the injustice she thinks she will go through but haven't yet and then the made up injustice she thought up in her head. That's why Beckies angry. She need some therapy and medication to stop overthinking, as someone else said, I think its OCD related but also mixed with BPD, because she thinks she is waaaay more important than she actually is.
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I’d say NPD muuuuuuuuch more than BPD. BPD does significantly feature an unstable sense of self but narcissism isn’t a feature of bpd. Some bpd people may be narcissistic, but in the same way that anyone with anything can also be narcissistic. It could be a co-morbidity thing.

I see BPD in Beckie, but in the sad and confused parts of her actions, and I imagine she gets obsessed with partners etc. But her narcissism and snarky bitchy bitterness are not bpd. That’s something else- another disorder or maybe just her delightful personality 😂

I totally agree with everything else you’ve said, completely spot on
 
The clip in the supermarket😂 first if you stop filming yourself you could write your shopping list on your phone and wouldn’t need to me promise it. Second she really does only do things not to meet a partner butt so she can moan that she's not going to meet someone there. At the bleeping shop?! I laughed out loud, she’s never going to find someone until she stops playing the perpetual victim acting like her life is the hardest life, her migraines are the worst, her autism is the most autistic etc… she’s a self obsessed narcissistic perpetual victim who’s had an infinitely better life and opportunities than most
 
I was honestly taken back by the supermarket rant with how ridiculous it was. She's moaning and muttering under her breath in Tesco about not meeting people and being single on a Saturday night, and is filming herself doing that, imagine walking past her when you are getting your bread! Most people her age might be out for a drink, hanging out with friends or family or doing whatever and there's Beckie having a rant in Tesco. I'm wondering how many times she will watch this in the future or what folder she'll organise this into her Instagram stories..

I honestly don't understand why she decided to film this clip and post it. Does she honestly have a camera on her at all times? Like every trip to the shop the camera is there? I feel that the camera is her security blanket and that she can't actually go outside without it. I don't know if she also films so she isn't alone when she does things like how someone might bring a friend to go shopping with ect, but I'm being generous.

I also thought that Beckie films herself in public as it already makes people keep a distance from her and its a shield to avoid being rejected by people when she tries to engage with them .This constant need to film seems a lot more than just a concern that she's going to forget something or that it helps her connect with people. It's actually obsessive behaviour.
 
like people have already said here, I do think she has some form of OCD that makes her obsessively and compulsively evaluate her life, it's so incredibly unhealthy. I usually just hatewatch her ig stories now and again but her recent stories are just so immensely sad.

I'm not sure how old she is but I think me and her are around the same age and I just cannot imagine putting my life on hold and wallowing in pity because I don't have a partner. sure, having one is nice, but torturing yourself with the idea you don't have one is beyond depressing. I find so much joy in being able to enjoy my own company and doing whatever I want whenever I want without having to consider someone else, she's right that she's wasting time but it's not because she doesn't have a partner, it's an active choice she's making
 
A lot of her "I'm so alone" problems could also be solved by friendship. Mhhhh wonder why she has none of those ...

And that's the thing: She is always angry that she doesn't have a partner, but why is that? Her personality (disorder) pretty obviously drives people away. Be it romantic relationships or friendships, she can't keep them up, which is a pretty obvious symptom of a personality disorder. She could have worked on herself like what? 10 years ago? But it's always others ruining her life, no accountability.
 
Shall we shed a tear for Beckie being single as she can't go on holiday because of that. Also apparently if she can't get a relationship by summer, she won't have anyone for winter where it's harder to get a relationship apparently, and she's wasted another year.

She could book a holiday and go on her own. I don't know how she expects to meet anyone if she sits in all day and watching videos of herself and film herself complain , as she apparently can't do anything as she's not in a relationship.

I could see her being very codependent in a relationship with how much she moans about being single and how she can't do anything with her life. I think that she looks at a relationship as the answer for her problems. I think that she needs to be comfortable being single and her own company before she finds someone and makes a friend or two. She also needs to change her attitude and her entitlement about relationships and she might find someone.
 
The idea that she needs to find a relationship before summer is over because it’s harder in winter 😆😆😆

sorry idk why that’s cracked me up - it’s just something I’d smile at if I’d overheard it from school aged girl but from a woman over 30 is just pure madness. Does she not hear herself?

I do always wonder if her autism is playing a part here - extreme black and white thinking, obsessing over the function of a relationship rather than valuing the prospect of spontaneous romantic love. But equally I have numerous close autistic friends, some with partners and some not, and none of them discuss relationships like this. Like even remotely.
 
In a way, Beckie is very much stuck in a teenage girl mentality especially with her attitudes towards life and especially when it comes to relationships. I'm not sure if this is due to the age when she became famous or when things like when Boofle happened. Ironically I used to think that Beckie was older than her years and quite mature when I watched her when I was a teenager.

I don't know if it's the difficulty to see the grey due to her autism. She very much sees a relationship as something which will solve her problems in a very functional way. She can have a holiday if she has one. She can go out and engage with the world if she has one. She can buy property if she has one. She can get married. She can live her life with one ect.

It's very much how the relationship can fix her problems instead of the thought of sharing her life with someone. I think that this is the failure of her relationships and her struggles with finding someone. I think that this black and white thinking extends to people. I don't think that she could cope if her boyfriend had a flaw or if he needed support or was ill. She's very much wanting someone who would serve her needs and nothing else.
 
This whole relationship thing is ridiculous! How can she even sit and complain when she KNOWS she wouldn't be a good partner. Why does she think she deserving of one?
Lets recap:
She isn't sexual.
She can't do anything because of migraines.
She can't handle any noise and hates people.
She is extremely angry.
She doesn't like kissing because of fluids.
She doesn't take care of her appearance.
She says her life cant begin until ADHD diagnosis.

Stop saying you want a partner when you wouldn't be a good partner to someone else!!! You don't deserve love if you don't even like yourself. Fix yourself before you even think about talking to anyone, and for the love of god make some friends so you can practise your social skills!
 
A random video of Beckie but I feel that this is a good example of her maybe presenting to an audience or at least having a conversation in head as she films. She wasn't speaking in the previous video which I didn't film and then she just mentions that her autism and ADHD before putting on her skin care. I was so confused by this video as the mention of her autism came out of nowhere.
 

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Im just imagining her mentioning it to anyone.

Cashier “that’ll be 5.99, cash or card?”
Beckie “the thing is I’m still autistic”
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person “excuse me can you help me find Blue Street?
Beckie “the thing is I’m still autistic”
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Colleague- “Have you got an email for X ?”
Beckie “the thing is I’m still autistic”
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Postman: “sign here please”
Beckie “the thing is I’m still autistic”
 
wordzalad said:
why can she not go on holiday? Go with your mum or your dad or sister or something… Does she think people can only buy tickets for planes if they’re partnered? Does she actually think the travel company or flight attendants are going to check her martial status and not let her go 😭.
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Has she never heard of solo travelling? Her sister did it for Christs sake 🤣🤣
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Redrose97 said:
In a way, Beckie is very much stuck in a teenage girl mentality especially with her attitudes towards life and especially when it comes to relationships. I'm not sure if this is due to the age when she became famous or when things like when Boofle happened. Ironically I used to think that Beckie was older than her years and quite mature when I watched her when I was a teenager.

I don't know if it's the difficulty to see the grey due to her autism. She very much sees a relationship as something which will solve her problems in a very functional way. She can have a holiday if she has one. She can go out and engage with the world if she has one. She can buy property if she has one. She can get married. She can live her life with one ect.

It's very much how the relationship can fix her problems instead of the thought of sharing her life with someone. I think that this is the failure of her relationships and her struggles with finding someone. I think that this black and white thinking extends to people. I don't think that she could cope if her boyfriend had a flaw or if he needed support or was ill. She's very much wanting someone who would serve her needs and nothing else.
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she constantly undermines herself regarding relationships. One minute she wants a partner who wants a baby, home etc. Then the next minute she thinks all kids are evil and vermin, doesn’t want a partner who wants intimacy or a sexual relationship, but then she’s pissed of she’s not getting laid 🤣😭 she makes NO sense. Which is why no man or person would want her because they would be treading on eggshells. I genuinely think that is abusive if you are constantly changing the goal posts of what you want to an unreasonable level.
 
Weather is miserable: I just need some sunshine, where is the summer?

Sunny day finally arrives: I don’t want sun today.

No matter the situation, she can make it a negative. Kinda like when she desperately wanted a lockdown during covid as she wanted to be at home alone, then complained she was stuck at home alone when lockdown happened.
 
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