BBC Presenter scandal #9

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ohannie said:
I don't know why people are assuming he's gay because of this. Plenty of men participate in same sex relationships when horny and desperate simply because they're easier to access, but it's make them gay or even bisexual.
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Exactly. There are men who will sleep with anything on the side and they’re not always repressed homosexuals, they want both worlds (stable partner/cheating) and think they can get away with it. He might be closeted 100% gay but it’s not the same for every man who has affairs that include other men.

People say if he was messaging/paying off young women no one would care (I disagree). But if it was a straight footballer messaging young women when he has a wife and kids they wouldn’t be thinking of his MH and wishing him well, either.
 
londonlife24 said:
As a victim of a sexual attack,and the perpetrator got away with it due to lack of evidence, the whole ‘innocent til proven guilty’ line boils my piss. I’m sooooo glad my attacker is classed as being innocent and living his best life whilst I suffer for years and end up in therapy. Not
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As I recognised in my other posts, these sorts of crimes are more or less decriminalised and my view would likely be very very different
 
sour sweets said:
If you must know I came out as gay at 15 and like many others around the world I’m only attracted to older guys. I met my now husband aged 18. We’ve been together for 10 years. I’m in my 30’s and he’s almost 70. Love is love.

Just because you don’t know any loving older younger relationships don’t think they don’t exist, will continue to exist and have existed since forever.
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I am very happy for you and your husband, and I'm not going to deny or discredit your experience. Similarly, long before the Anna Nicole Smith netflix doc came out, I'd read/heard that her relationship with her much, much older billionaire husband wasn't the 'goldigger' dynamic everybody assumed it was. Lots of people close to the couple reported that there was a genuine, loving relationship there, even if it is hard for others to understand. (also soz if it sounds like I'm trying to compare your relationship to theirs - I'm more making the point that I do believe safe, loving, healthy age gap relationships can and do exist!)

However I do also believe there is a huge risk of abuse of power in relationships where one party (especially if they have wealth and status) is routinely seeking out partners far younger than them. People keep saying we wouldn't be bothered if the people he had been messaging were young women, that it's just a closeted gay man trying to live his closeted gay life and the outcry is veiled homophobia, and I do think the homophobia is part of it, but I will keep banging my drum that if the initial story broke that he was sliding into the DMs of a 17 yo girl with potential drug dependency issues, then we absolutely should have responded with the same alarm!!

Basically, I respect that yours is a happy, loving relationship. But that doesn't mean the risk doesn't exist elsewhere and isn't one we should take seriously. As you say - just because you don't know them (or it isn't your experience), don't think they don't exist, will continue to exist, and have existed since forever!!
 
veevee04 said:
I said Rehab because he can say I am a sex addict, many of these private clinics "treat" sex addiction and things like depression on top.
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Indeed. For those with money, who are in trouble, or having a bad time overall or simply need to fly under the radar for the month, checking into one of these places that covers a few bases is often the done thing. Again, I don’t expect to convince anyone who is sure HE must have a very serious problem to have taken himself off for treatment, but that’s often how this works.
 
Icky. Super icky. Like the old bloke who comes into my work and leers at all the women and makes us feel uncomfortable. But I also don't want him to be at risk of suicide or feel like that's the only option either.

That's where I'm at now. He's an icky old perv, but he doesn't deserve to feel at the end of his rope over it. On balance, I think probably his credibility for news coverage of monarch deaths is probably shot, but I would hope he could move past this eventually, be himself, out and proud and find happiness with an appropriately aged man who he doesn't have to pay or convince into shenanigans.
 
So I started at the beginning of this thread and then thought ...What the bloody hell am I reading? 😬 x

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Clarabella said:
Inappropriate yes I’d agree with that but do we all have a right to know about this? The info we have is that the young person involved didn’t want this to be made public either. There’s a possibility that people where they live will be aware of who they are so their life could be under a microscope now as well.
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I feel terribly for the young person. It's awful to feel like your life is public knowledge when it's not something you signed up for.
It's also not just one young person now, there appears to be numerous allegations of misconduct/inappropriate behaviour.
 
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