Ashley James #56 fighting for justice one afflink at a time

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I can’t stand Ashley and think she’s probably one of the worst parents I’ve ever come across.

I also felt so sad when I saw this story. I’ve previously thought that her mum was a narcissist and this story adds to the evidence for me. I also grew up with a narcissistic mother, and comments like these are not ‘harmless’ and do stay with you. Whilst I don’t believe that Ashley now moisturises twice a day, I do believe that she obsesses over this comment because narcissistic mothers make you feel like you’re not good enough. If the comment was truly harmless then she wouldn’t even remember it. She needs serious therapy.
 
Firefliesaremagic said:
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I can’t stand Ashley and think she’s probably one of the worst parents I’ve ever come across.

I also felt so sad when I saw this story. I’ve previously thought that her mum was a narcissist and this story adds to the evidence for me. I also grew up with a narcissistic mother, and comments like these are not ‘harmless’ and do stay with you. Whilst I don’t believe that Ashley now moisturises twice a day, I do believe that she obsesses over this comment because narcissistic mothers make you feel like you’re not good enough. If the comment was truly harmless then she wouldn’t even remember it. She needs serious therapy.
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Before she does too much damage to her own children.
 
elevatordomino said:
I find it weird as a mother that you wouldn’t be in A&E with your child. I know dads are just as capable but I’d want to be there. Or I’d leave one of my kids with family and we’d both be there.
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This! I'm sure Ada could have been left with her brother for a few hours! Just leave 5 bottles of milk and an iPad; she'd barely know the difference 😢

She's so blatant in her favouritism, and so flippant about what seems an odd situation with his rash that keeps flaring with no clear cause?
 
Yet again I am speechless as to her priorities..... 🙈🙈🙈 There is something not right with this woman 😲🙁 It really makes me wonder what her upbringing was like, she has a difficult relationship with her mother which she is open about (that's not rare, many people may find that) but how little effort from what we see goes into making things special at birthdays and Xmas for her kids, she seems detached emotionally from them 🙁 especially when you are in a position financially to spoil them but there is so little thought. I think of my own kids, their little faces on Christmas day, even now they are teens it's still so special, when you work so hard to provide for them seeing them happy is, everything to me ❤️ But least they are going on a lovely 5 star holiday where they can palm the kids off for a few hours every day 🙄🙄🙈🙈
 
90sgirl said:
and yet she’s still going on holiday! I’m sorry but if my child had an unknown allergy the last thing I would do is take him on a plane for 12 hrs with no access to emergency care. I hope she has travel insurance and has made them aware of Alf’s numerous A&E trips 😡
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I bet she’s just telling herself “it’s only a rash, he’s fine in himself” to try and convince herself and everyone around her that he’s fine to fly long haul. She is just the most emotionally detached mother I’ve ever come across.
 
She seems hell bent on repeating her parents mistakes.
I try so hard to break the pattern of behaviour that affected me with my little one.
Ash doesn’t seem to want to do better for her kids and they are going to end up having the same difficult relationship with her as she has with her own mum.
I still find it ludicrous that it’s another year those children don’t get to experience the magic of christmas. Coming down their own stairs on Xmas morning to see what has been left under the tree etc.
My OHs family live a plane journey away and the fact that I point blank refuse to go to them on Xmas is a bone of contention. But Christmas is for children, you don’t get many magical ones as a parent and I am soaking them all up.
It’s not just the kids missing out in this scenario Ash and TNB are too and if they weren’t such crappy parents I might feel sorry for them.
 
Ash may have grown up with a narcissistic mother, which I’m sure will have shaped her as a person to some extent. However, many people did, myself included (I wish the worst thing to happen was being told my skin was bumpy) and that makes them even better parents. Determined to break that cycle, determined their children never feel as emotionally or physically broken as they did. I have other friends who also did, in other ways to me, blatant favouritism, jealously seething mothers who couldn’t stand their own daughters growing into the beautiful young women they wanted to still be. Each and every one of us has broken that cycle. We have to, it would make us tit people if we chose to bring children into the world to actively repeat it. Ashley claims to be this voice for those who don’t have one, a life coach (or whatever ‘job’ she tinkered at during that bored time of her life) so she has no excuse. She has all the tools to be better, to be a better person and parent but she doesn’t want to use them. It’s not a priority. That’s where you know her NPD runs far deeper. Her poor children.

ETA. My ex husband and I still, where possible, go to any important medical or hospital appointments with our child. I don’t mean the day to day stuff, that would be unecessary and impractical (and it’s usually me, through choice!). The recently diagnosed disease and the testing and ongoing monitoring and apps, there is no way I will no drop everything to be there and the same for him. I cannot fathom a mother not being in the hospital with their child. This is not about patriarchy and misogyny, this is about inherent motherly instincts. A physical need to nurture and protect. The fact she is so blatantly ADA’s mum over Alf, it’s sickening and sad. She usually has no issue dumping her kids on strangers so why could she not have made the most of her brother being there and let him have Ada. What’s going to happen to poor Alf if he is ill on either holiday or during the travel?
 
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90sgirl said:
and yet she’s still going on holiday! I’m sorry but if my child had an unknown allergy the last thing I would do is take him on a plane for 12 hrs with no access to emergency care. I hope she has travel insurance and has made them aware of Alf’s numerous A&E trips 😡
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I’ve been a silent watcher on this thread for a long time but this latest situation has sickened me to the core. I whole heartedly agree with the above.

(Merail) My son had a totally random anaphylactic reaction to a food he’d consumed a few times before. My other baby was 4 weeks old at the time and I was recovering from a c-section, so my husband took my son to A&E. I was absolutely riddled with guilt knowing he was hooked up to drips being pricked and poked and I wasn’t there. But you can bet your life I made and attended every single follow up appointment. The thing that stuck with me the most was the allergy doctor saying that the reaction he had could have been the worst reaction to the allergen he’ll ever have - or even more worryingly, could have been the best and next time it could be catastrophic. Needless to say we carry an epi-pen now but the thought of her taking Alf on a flight, not knowing the allergen and whether he could react worst next time, is not only gut-wrenching, but the epitome of neglect. But then we knew that about her already didn’t we.

I’ll go back to the troll hole I crawled out of now..but I’m just so scared for that little boy. I hope it’s nothing and he’s safe x
 
Firefliesaremagic said:
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I can’t stand Ashley and think she’s probably one of the worst parents I’ve ever come across.

I also felt so sad when I saw this story. I’ve previously thought that her mum was a narcissist and this story adds to the evidence for me. I also grew up with a narcissistic mother, and comments like these are not ‘harmless’ and do stay with you. Whilst I don’t believe that Ashley now moisturises twice a day, I do believe that she obsesses over this comment because narcissistic mothers make you feel like you’re not good enough. If the comment was truly harmless then she wouldn’t even remember it. She needs serious therapy.
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I doubt this happened, I imagine she made this "comment" up for content purposes and decided to yet again make her family seem like they always make digs at her.

Out of interest, what other things has her mum done to seem this way?
 
Barney2020 said:
I’ve been a silent watcher on this thread for a long time but this latest situation has sickened me to the core. I whole heartedly agree with the above.

(Merail) My son had a totally random anaphylactic reaction to a food he’d consumed a few times before. My other baby was 4 weeks old at the time and I was recovering from a c-section, so my husband took my son to A&E. I was absolutely riddled with guilt knowing he was hooked up to drips being pricked and poked and I wasn’t there. But you can bet your life I made and attended every single follow up appointment. The thing that stuck with me the most was the allergy doctor saying that the reaction he had could have been the worst reaction to the allergen he’ll ever have - or even more worryingly, could have been the best and next time it could be catastrophic. Needless to say we carry an epi-pen now but the thought of her taking Alf on a flight, not knowing the allergen and whether he could react worst next time, is not only gut-wrenching, but the epitome of neglect. But then we knew that about her already didn’t we.

I’ll go back to the troll hole I crawled out of now..but I’m just so scared for that little boy. I hope it’s nothing and he’s safe x
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So sorry to read this. What a scary time for you all. It’s our worst nightmare, not being able to help our children or be there for them at their most vulnerable. Unless of course you are Ash, then going to Kew Gardens for content oops with her favourite is more important.

I know I’ve said this before but whilst I think sharing her children and exploiting them on social media is abhorrent at least she is documenting her wilful neglect and others (complete strangers) are looking out for Alf albeit virtually. Let’s hope she doesn’t have another ‘I can’t call 111 from xx country so I’ll ask half a million strangers about my daughter’s (not even going to repeat it because it’s such a personal and sensitive issue that should never have been used for content)’. This is different though, depending on where they are going access to decent medical care will be limited when they might need it the most. I know she loves jumping on medical bandwagons, but the reality can be very different and result in more than just engagement.
 
elevatordomino said:
I don’t know if I even believe her about her relationship with her mum. If her mum was that bad why is she still in contact and letting her around the kids. I think she’s just got a personality disorder
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At least Alf is in better hands with his dad in a&e and he seems warmer towards the kids.
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Totally agree. I think they might not put up with her behaviour or buy into the 'Ashley' show
 
I can't believe they're going to risk taking him on a long haul flight with no idea what the allergy is. Well I can because it's Ashley, but if him being in A&E right before the trip isn't a red flag, then I don't know what is. A doctor could advise against flying, surely?
She would leave him at home with grandparents before she would cancel that holiday.
 
Fuzzyslippers22 said:
I doubt this happened, I imagine she made this "comment" up for content purposes and decided to yet again make her family seem like they always make digs at her.

Out of interest, what other things has her mum done to seem this way?
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I agree with this-don’t think it ever happened.
As some1 else said it’s amazing how she remembers every conversation she ever had yet slips up on her insta all the time?
 
I’m giving the mum a pass at the moment. It’s an easy blame for Ashley. She’s like it with EVERYONE and is a known liar. Theres always a back story to whatever new event she’s latched on to and how hard done by she is. I’ve never seen such princess behaviour, such entitlement and she’s still not happy. She never will be because she feels nothing. I find her incredibly scary. Robotron-Ash.
 
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