Ashley James #3 Alf’s room lit up like Blackpool Illumination. Is she regretting her little creation?

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Maybe I’m wrong and I’m completely open to correction here but she makes everything so bloody difficult, like it’s now become a huge song and dance for her to go meet a friend. Alf isn’t far off of a year old and it just seems these are things that she could have been doing months ago? I’ve no doubt getting a baby out of the house and going public places is 100 times more difficult than just going yourself, but she’s able to bring him to art galleries and DJ gigs, but a coffee with a friend has been too difficult for her? It just doesn’t make any sense and then she whines about it. You do need socialising for your mental well being, how is she only copping this now? I’m glad she is doing things like this but it’s like she only expects Alf to fit into her life when it suits her (like her work commitments) but when it comes to easier things like this then no no she couldn’t possibly do that because Alf has no routine?? Surely seeing as she doesn’t want him in a set routine it should be easier for her to get out with him because he doesn’t have to be in for nap time or fed at a specific time every day? At almost a year old I would hope I would be more confident at bringing my child out or at least more used to it, especially if she has the freedom with her work schedule and his lack of set routine.
 
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This is just another reason for Ashley to back track on what she has said and glorify her golden boobs.

feed your kid anyway you want but don’t make out children will be have some sort of miracle immune system from being breast fed as this is escalated what Ashley was doing when she commented about it saving Alf from cancer etc.

everyone that-has been pregnant knows about breastfeeding and the research but this constant comparison is probably why those who can’t breastfeed or simply choose not to breastfeed is why there is such a divide.

back to Ashley please….
Anymore research slide into Ashley’s DMs she would love that


Can confirm. I have been BF every 2 hours for the last 8 months and my baby amiss still projectile vomited all over my boobs today because he’s got a bug. Shes not any better than those who don’t Bf
 
Stating the scientific fact that breastmilk contains antibodies is not making a comparison. People can choose to feed their baby as they wish but it’s ridiculous to make out that you shouldn’t say it. All babies get ill true but bf babies have a step up with their antibodies - also true! This in no way denigrates or attacks someone who has chosen to feed their baby formula. This is relevant to Ashley because my view is that it is fair for her to say that she wants to continue bf her baby because of antibodies!

But if you want a full change of subject - it’ll be interesting to see where she takes the sleep training or whatever she ends up doing . That does seem more sensible than changing Alf’s feeding patterns. It’s not surprising she’s struggling if she hasn’t had an uninterrupted hour of sleep for ten months!
 
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I’m not convinced on the advice she’s been given. If he’s feeding every hour during the night surely in order for him to sleep better and be more independent she needs to work on separating feeding from sleeping. Maybe get him used to being rocked to sleep sometimes instead? I don’t think she can work on sleep without changing his feeding habits..
 
I’m not sure why she thinks going out to meet a friend with baby is so revolutionary?!
Saying she’s sacrificing a routine to go out 🤦‍♀️

I wish she would do a ‘day in the life’ as doesn’t seem to actually do much apart from breastfeed (obviously) and complain she’s got so much work to do

never seen Alf at a baby class (I think?!) apart from swimming which hasn’t been mentioned for a while
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Just watching her stories - she's back off to London but didn't have time to give Alf breakfast this morning?! What?! And then she gives him a pouch for 4 month olds? Surely by a year he should be getting more solid / less puree?

My boys would KICK OFF if I ever left the house without giving them breakfast.

I know it's been said before but the ADHD thing seems spot on - she's so chaotic and scatty.
 
Ashley really needs to get off Instagram and sort her life out!!!!
She has never taken Alf to a baby group or softplay (to my knowledge) and the fact she has left the house without giving him breakfast is neglectful.
Alf should be the first priority, getting him up, changed, fed and then dressed for the day. Then when that’s done, get yourself ready!!
If you know you’re going to London, have a shower the night before and get your bags ready. Honestly she really needs a word with herself.
 
God forbid Ashley ever has to go out and do a normal day's work....
When my eldest was tiny( I had to return to work when she was 16 weeks old- despite an emergency c section and exclusively breastfed) . I'd be up at 6.30am to have shower, bf daughter/ breakfast, drop daughter at childminder (2miles in opposite direction to work) , then drive 30mins to work....work 8-4 in dialysis unit, so full on and no time to sit down couldn't even express- this was the 90's so VERY different times for working mums who were breastfeeding
Then drive back, collect daughter- breastfeed!! and then get tea ready for all 3 of us ( husband was Dr so he couldn't do drop off/ pick up as his hours were even more ridiculous) Ashley is extremely privileged and needs a reality check ...most mothers have to juggle on a daily basis
 
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Stating the scientific fact that breastmilk contains antibodies is not making a comparison. People can choose to feed their baby as they wish but it’s ridiculous to make out that you shouldn’t say it. All babies get ill true but bf babies have a step up with their antibodies - also true! This in no way denigrates or attacks someone who has chosen to feed their baby formula. This is relevant to Ashley because my view is that it is fair for her to say that she wants to continue bf her baby because of antibodies!

But if you want a full change of subject - it’ll be interesting to see where she takes the sleep training or whatever she ends up doing . That does seem more sensible than changing Alf’s feeding patterns. It’s not surprising she’s struggling if she hasn’t had an uninterrupted hour of sleep for ten months!
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Thanks for articulating it far better than me lol 👍🏼
 
Why is Alf sitting with a screen in front of him?! 😔 He's not even one yet! Surely he would be happy to sit around the table and look around / be entertained by parents?!

I've definitely used screens on my oldest one when food takes too long in a restaurant. But for the most part, both of them love being out in New surrounds and chat / babble to the waiting staff!!
 

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Had a thought today that Snoop’s ‘temporary’ stay with her parents has been for a very long time now. I think it’s even been a really long time since she tried to convince us it was just for a little bit longer.
Are we all in agreement that’s it’s actually permanent and she’s hoping no one will notice?

Poor Snoop 😢
 
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I notice her “anxiety/depression” is only ever bad when she’s left in the house with Alf on her own. It doesn’t seem to pop up when she’s having a swell time in Mauritius or Cotswolds. It’s very convenient for her.
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I think it’s cause she gets overwhelmed easily as she’s used to having things solely on her terms and her way, and isn’t used to responsibility. I understand it must be difficult when she was never a particularly organised adult anyway but she’s in her 30’s, and when you have a baby things have to change. She’s tried so hard to fight against accepting she’s not always right about motherhood and that Alf can slot into her life the way it suits her and I think it’s the realisation that she’s been wrong is what’s making her panicky because she’s realising she actually has to change.
 
What a lovely text from Tommy. If that’s the case then it would seem we all have their relationship very wrong. It makes her strange comments on his posts even stranger and her feminism views even weirder lol
 
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