Mittens
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Alice really does remind me of my mother.
I've posted before about how my mother emotionally blackmailed myself and my two brothers into cutting all contact with my father when left her for another woman. Difference was, we were all over the age of 18 - he'd waited until my younger brother turned 18 before he left - and I was 21 and had left home.
I did spend years feeling sorry for my mother...but after about a decade I got sick of hearing her bad-mouth my father. Looking at the parents of my friends, romantic partners etc, I realised how fucked-up both my parents were and how tit my childhood was. I had a massive nervous breakdown after my first marriage ended when I was 24...and my mother behaved so badly I ended up attempting suicide. With the help of therapy, I realised I needed to get as far away from my mother as humanly possible - I moved to the other side of the word and 30 years later I'm still that far away. I've seen my mother twice in that whole period, at this moment in time I've not seen her in 15 years. I've been having treatment for C-PTSD for 5 years now.
My mother still believes that my father 'owed' her financial support for the rest of her life because she had his children. She was a stay at home mother for 20 years. She got her arse absolutely handed to her in court during the divorce, was told by the judge that it wouldn't matter if my father had had a 100 affairs, as a woman of 47 with no dependant children she was expected to get paid employment and support herself. Didn't go down well, as you can imagine...especially as I'd refused to accompany her to court as I'd just started a new job...in the law!
25 years in the court system made me realise that their are two types of mothers during divorce - ones who put their children first, and ones who don't/won't. Alice of course is the second type. She'd better hope that her children don't end up like myself and my two brothers... 2 of us don't really have a relationship with our mother, and none of us have gone on to have children of our own.
You reap what you sow.
I've posted before about how my mother emotionally blackmailed myself and my two brothers into cutting all contact with my father when left her for another woman. Difference was, we were all over the age of 18 - he'd waited until my younger brother turned 18 before he left - and I was 21 and had left home.
I did spend years feeling sorry for my mother...but after about a decade I got sick of hearing her bad-mouth my father. Looking at the parents of my friends, romantic partners etc, I realised how fucked-up both my parents were and how tit my childhood was. I had a massive nervous breakdown after my first marriage ended when I was 24...and my mother behaved so badly I ended up attempting suicide. With the help of therapy, I realised I needed to get as far away from my mother as humanly possible - I moved to the other side of the word and 30 years later I'm still that far away. I've seen my mother twice in that whole period, at this moment in time I've not seen her in 15 years. I've been having treatment for C-PTSD for 5 years now.
My mother still believes that my father 'owed' her financial support for the rest of her life because she had his children. She was a stay at home mother for 20 years. She got her arse absolutely handed to her in court during the divorce, was told by the judge that it wouldn't matter if my father had had a 100 affairs, as a woman of 47 with no dependant children she was expected to get paid employment and support herself. Didn't go down well, as you can imagine...especially as I'd refused to accompany her to court as I'd just started a new job...in the law!
25 years in the court system made me realise that their are two types of mothers during divorce - ones who put their children first, and ones who don't/won't. Alice of course is the second type. She'd better hope that her children don't end up like myself and my two brothers... 2 of us don't really have a relationship with our mother, and none of us have gone on to have children of our own.
You reap what you sow.
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Alice really loses her tenuous grip on intelligence when she gets upset.
