TTC #9 Your worth is not determined by your fertility

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Jasminexx02 said:
Credit to @Elisha97 for the thread title.

Sending baby dust to you all! xx
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Thank you! Just joining this thread, hi everyone! Thought I’d been quite active on here and I’ve been reading everyone’s posts so I better introduce myself a bit..



I’m kind of starting this TTC journey up after a few stark reminders from my consultants that I ‘need’ to start trying seriously now if I do want to be a mum. I’m only mid 20s but I didn’t have periods for a long time. It was suspected I had PCOS/ unnamed hormone issues and I do have endometriosis. In fact, it’s trashed my surrounding organs and I get more and more poorly. They’ve encouraged me to try now, telling me they don’t think I have ‘much longer’ ☹️



I’ve avoided it for a long time; acknowledging that I might want to try that is. Every female friend I have has had pregnancies or scares. I’ve been in a long term relationship for 9 years and never had a single scare even though we’ve had unprotected sex quite a bit- it does make me worry. I also worry as my risks are a lot higher. I’ve been having unprotected sex and not avoiding pregnancy for about 7 periods/ cycles now, although there have been occasions before then as well. Absolutely nothing so far.



I’ve pushed these feelings down and told myself that I can look at trying when I’m older, that it’ll just happen etc but I think this is to try and protect myself. I switch off I think to try and avoid any hurt as I’m at that age where people my age are planning babies, lots on their second or more never mind their first. Several of my friends have just had babies and I’ve gone into fussy auntie mode but deep down i’m starting to hurt. Every time I get unwell, which is all the time, people and medical staff automatically ask if I’m pregnant/ test me as they don’t believe me and it’s always a no ☹️



I’ve been slowly making my way through the threads the past few days and it’s not good to hear of your struggles, but it’s a comfort to know that I’m not alone in what I feel at least. Sending love and good news to you all 🩷
 
Can anybody recommend some cheapo pregnancy tests I can bulk buy from Amazon? I ordered some yesterday but cancelled after looking at the reviews and seeing a load of people saying they give false positives and then I couldn’t find any reasonably priced ones where the reviews didn’t say similar things lol
 
Jasminexx02 said:
Can anybody recommend some cheapo pregnancy tests I can bulk buy from Amazon? I ordered some yesterday but cancelled after looking at the reviews and seeing a load of people saying they give false positives and then I couldn’t find any reasonably priced ones where the reviews didn’t say similar things lol
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I buy the easy@home ovulation tests which come with pregnancy tests as well. I was obsessed with my ‘symptoms’ so bought some of the early ones from Amazon. They probably also have crap reviews, all I can say is there was no false positives when I took a couple of tests! https://amzn.eu/d/aGhdWuV
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Jasminexx02 said:
Can anybody recommend some cheapo pregnancy tests I can bulk buy from Amazon? I ordered some yesterday but cancelled after looking at the reviews and seeing a load of people saying they give false positives and then I couldn’t find any reasonably priced ones where the reviews didn’t say similar things lol
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Sorry, 10 probably doesn’t count as bulk!
 
ThisIsMyDragName said:
I buy the easy@home ovulation tests which come with pregnancy tests as well. I was obsessed with my ‘symptoms’ so bought some of the early ones from Amazon. They probably also have crap reviews, all I can say is there was no false positives when I took a couple of tests! https://amzn.eu/d/aGhdWuV
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Sorry, 10 probably doesn’t count as bulk!
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Thank you, have ordered those! 10 is great for that price tbh hahah
 
Jasminexx02 said:
Can anybody recommend some cheapo pregnancy tests I can bulk buy from Amazon? I ordered some yesterday but cancelled after looking at the reviews and seeing a load of people saying they give false positives and then I couldn’t find any reasonably priced ones where the reviews didn’t say similar things lol
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The one step ones I used never gave me a false positive in months and months and were actually more accurate in terms of giving a line darker/sooner than more expensive ones. I’m a serial tester too so went through over 100.
When got a positive I did a few more to be sure, then went and got some £1 ones and a clear blue weeks indicator one.
For 13p a pop you can afford to do a few to double check a bfp. I think most people, if they do get a bfp, do a few more over a few days and a more expensive one to confirm.
 
littlepup said:
The one step ones I used never gave me a false positive in months and months and were actually more accurate in terms of giving a line darker/sooner than more expensive ones. I’m a serial tester too so went through over 100.
When got a positive I did a few more to be sure, then went and got some £1 ones and a clear blue weeks indicator one.
For 13p a pop you can afford to do a few to double check a bfp. I think most people, if they do get a bfp, do a few more over a few days and a more expensive one to confirm.
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This is exactly what I do!
 
Jasminexx02 said:
Can anybody recommend some cheapo pregnancy tests I can bulk buy from Amazon? I ordered some yesterday but cancelled after looking at the reviews and seeing a load of people saying they give false positives and then I couldn’t find any reasonably priced ones where the reviews didn’t say similar things lol
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I’ve used the ones by One Step but my favourite were the easy@home ones as they were a little bigger. I’ve never had false positives from either and got a very very faint positive with easy@home at 10dpo
 
Thanks for all the replies re work! I think I too struggle wondering if the stress is impacting TTC but I figured out how much mat pay / bonus etc I could lose and it’s made me more positive. I think I struggle with the lack of control of TTC, not knowing what plans I can do etc. I think I need to get back into exercising after work or something to try and unwind down
 
Flo app says I’m ovulating today and I’ve just took an ovulation test, what do we think? Is the line dark enough
 

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aggytha said:
almost there I’d say! Test again around dinner time and I imagine it’ll be positive!
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I TESTED AGAIN AND ITS LIGHTER 😂
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givemethegossx said:
I TESTED AGAIN AND ITS LIGHTER 😂
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I ran out of ovulation tests on the weekend so wasn’t too panicked because ovulation was due this weekend so got some today and now I’m wondering if I’ve already peaked and now it’s over ffs
 
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I ran out of ovulation tests on the weekend so wasn’t too panicked because ovulation was due this weekend so got some today and now I’m wondering if I’ve already peaked and now it’s over ffs
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how diluted was your wee? I’m not sure if there’s officially anything to it but similar happened to me and I found it so frustrating, upon a bit of research I read that it’s best not to drink anything for 2 hours and try and hold your pee for 2-4 hours before testing. If you can I would hold out and test again at 9pm.

I’ve had days where I thought I was close to peak and then it would lighten and the peak would usually come the following evening! Keeping my fingers crossed for you! If you know you’re roughly a day or so away from ovulation though there’s no harm DTD, it’s still within the window!
 
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