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Fishnips said:
Fortunately it's becoming more common. I think she was really strong to go with her gut and keep feeding Theo even though Charlie was crappy about it.
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I’m such a big supporter of breastfeeding, it truly is such hard work and so rewarding. I think Shannon is an amazing mum for this reason alone. (Before anyone comes for me about formula feeding, I have nothing against bottle feeding mums).
 
Fishnips said:
Fortunately it's becoming more common. I think she was really strong to go with her gut and keep feeding Theo even though Charlie was crappy about it.
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yeah, I give Shannon a lot of credit for her tenacity with the breastfeeding despite the lack of support she got. I think she is one of the better mums as well, but I will never like the way she went about things with Charlie and felt that got in the way of her parenting a lot while she was on the show. I hope she’s found more peace now they’re apart and she has the two boys. I always thought she’d be a top tier mum if she could just let go of the Charlie drama
 
Missdissapointed said:
I’m such a big supporter of breastfeeding, it truly is such hard work and so rewarding. I think Shannon is an amazing mum for this reason alone. (Before anyone comes for me about formula feeding, I have nothing against bottle feeding mums).
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This is one of the reasons why I put Shannon higher in my ratings. The fact that the two people closest to her (Charlie and her sister) openly said it was weird to keep breastfeeding Theo, I really admired her determination to keep going regardless of what they said. I think in her situation, it would be really easy for her to give up because of their influence.
 
I completely get why Chloe is so desperate for her and Jordan to work out and have, what she considers, the perfect family unit. She just wants the family she had. But, in every series of the show she and Jordan go through a rough patch. I get that you have ups and downs but you shouldn’t have as many downs as they do and have to fight as hard as they do!
 
Could be an unpopular opinion but, I sort of got Charlie's point with the breastfeeding. There's was an episode when Charlie had told Theo off, and Theo ran straight to Shannon under the guise of wanting a feed. He also had expressed that Theo uses the boob as an excuse to avoid things, like tidying, bed time and other things.

He also pointed out the feeding seemed to be more for her comfort, than Theo. So I don't think its fair to say she wasn't supported, she was up to a certain extent. I think they also knew how over whelmed Shannon got, and the thought of her attempting to breast feed two, would be a melt down waiting to happen.

Maybe I just have a tainted view though, cause a family member breast feed a relative until he was FIVE, and used the same exact responses Shannon did. The relative use to wrangle that poor kid onto her breast, claiming he still wants comfort, and never wants to stop. His reaction said completely different.
 
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Point to prove? I just don't get it tbh..
 

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Judyjudgejudy said:
Could be an unpopular opinion but, I sort of got Charlie's point with the breastfeeding. There's was an episode when Charlie had told Theo off, and Theo ran straight to Shannon under the guise of wanting a feed. He also had expressed that Theo uses the boob as an excuse to avoid things, like tidying, bed time and other things.

He also pointed out the feeding seemed to be more for her comfort, than Theo. So I don't think its fair to say she wasn't supported, she was up to a certain extent. I think they also knew how over whelmed Shannon got, and the thought of her attempting to breast feed two, would be a melt down waiting to happen.

Maybe I just have a tainted view though, cause a family member breast feed a relative until he was FIVE, and used the same exact responses Shannon did. The relative use to wrangle that poor kid onto her breast, claiming he still wants comfort, and never wants to stop. His reaction said completely different.
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Oh wow, this is actually an interesting perspective as I really never saw it that way. You definitely have a point, it’s similar to the whole getting Theo to sleep in his own bed but Shannon didn’t really try that hard because she enjoyed sharing a bed with Theo. So I’m actually not that surprised now why Charlie was against it.
 
Judyjudgejudy said:
Could be an unpopular opinion but, I sort of got Charlie's point with the breastfeeding. There's was an episode when Charlie had told Theo off, and Theo ran straight to Shannon under the guise of wanting a feed. He also had expressed that Theo uses the boob as an excuse to avoid things, like tidying, bed time and other things.

He also pointed out the feeding seemed to be more for her comfort, than Theo. So I don't think its fair to say she wasn't supported, she was up to a certain extent. I think they also knew how over whelmed Shannon got, and the thought of her attempting to breast feed two, would be a melt down waiting to happen.

Maybe I just have a tainted view though, cause a family member breast feed a relative until he was FIVE, and used the same exact responses Shannon did. The relative use to wrangle that poor kid onto her breast, claiming he still wants comfort, and never wants to stop. His reaction said completely different.
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i can understand this as well. I admired Shannon for sticking with it, but it did remind me of a friend of mine. His daughter is two and a half now and she cannot and will not be comforted by anyone else because she’s so used to using the breast as her comforter. Her mum is really passionate about it and it’s lovely for them as well as having the benefits for the kiddo, but I know it makes her dad feel a bit useless when he can’t comfort her that way and makes him nervous to have her for extended periods without the mum around cos they’ve never taught her another way to soothe. That was the only part of Charlie’s resistance than had some fairness IMO: that it was kind of being used as a comfort thing even where it might have been better to work on instilling boundaries. It’s impossible to get it right all the time though I suppose and I do think Shannon’s intentions with it were really positive
 
Jesusgodleah said:
i can understand this as well. I admired Shannon for sticking with it, but it did remind me of a friend of mine. His daughter is two and a half now and she cannot and will not be comforted by anyone else because she’s so used to using the breast as her comforter. Her mum is really passionate about it and it’s lovely for them as well as having the benefits for the kiddo, but I know it makes her dad feel a bit useless when he can’t comfort her that way and makes him nervous to have her for extended periods without the mum around cos they’ve never taught her another way to soothe. That was the only part of Charlie’s resistance than had some fairness IMO: that it was kind of being used as a comfort thing even where it might have been better to work on instilling boundaries. It’s impossible to get it right all the time though I suppose and I do think Shannon’s intentions with it were really positive
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I don’t see a problem with breastfeeding into toddlerhood as long as both the mum and child are happy to continue. If that’s the way she settles her baby then so be it. Dad can do so much more, it shouldn’t affect a dads bond
 
For me, it’s the same grey area of dummies. They’re a comfort and often used as an excuse for children to calm down during tantrums or tellings off. It’s common knowledge that even a newborn will use mother’s breast for comfort, it’s practically human nature in that sense. People are shamed all the time for dummies, I personally didn’t keep my sons longer than 9 months but some children keep theirs for years and years. I see nothing wrong with what she did, even for the comfort of her children. It doesn’t appear to of affected his (I’ve forgot his name lol is it Theodore?) behaviour from what I’ve seen on TV.
 
Missdissapointed said:
I don’t see a problem with breastfeeding into toddlerhood as long as both the mum and child are happy to continue. If that’s the way she settles her baby then so be it. Dad can do so much more, it shouldn’t affect a dads bond
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Agree, I don’t see why there is a problem that a child gets comfort from their mother. This is when I realise that breastfeeding past a 6months/a year isn’t normalised here
 
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